What has taught you to stay calm and level-headed in everyday life?

Throwaway here because I’ll be giving out some information and don’t want it linked back to my main account since I post and frequent this sub. Also figured this is the right place to post since most of us know you can only carry 1 thing at a time, your pride or your gun. I’ve been in the casino industry dealing blackjack, craps, roulette etc for 15 years as both a dealer and supervisor when needed. The amount of rude shit that has been said to me or things I’ve experience is more than any of you will experience in lifetimes. I am the link that parts people from their money and the person that gets all the rage channeled towards them. Over time I’ve learned to let stuff slide like water off a ducks ass. I realized that there’s no reason for me to be emotionally upset or in a rage because of some WORDS somebody said to me. It’s not worth it, they’re just words and they go in one ear and out the other. I want to become a better person and not stoop down to a level of arguing back and being disrespectful as well. All this does is simply amplify your emotions. I also have my CCW so this applies to public places too. You can’t carry around a gun with ego or pride because if you react down to their level then you can make the situation much worse. The reason I’m posting is because my girlfriend is an emotional person. She’s a server at a restaurant and gets very upset over people being rude or the things that they say. I’ve tried to teach her my methodology of how shit doesn’t upset me but she doesn’t get it. I’d like to learn what some of your methods are for being cool, calm and collected so that maybe something you share will click with her and help her become less reactive to the assholes of this world. Extra: I’ll just post it here since I know somebody is gonna ask for a story. Had a 50ish year old guy playing craps for a few hours being rude to me and my crew for hours but we’re all jaded inside so again, things don’t bother us. He loses his money, shits his pants, shakes his legs so the shit comes out of his shorts and onto the floor. Says “That’s for all of you” as he points to it on the ground and walks out before we can call security. via /r/CCW https://ift.tt/3leoGdN