i’m sick of living like this, how did this happen?

i will admit but not proudly at all, i used to be a bully, i loved anything physical, hitting, getting hit, the adrenaline all of it. out of nowhere fear took over my mind, this is a very cowardly thing but im admitting everything on here and i became a better person, the place i used to bully people in was a fairly safe place, since then i moved to another country where people get cut stabbed run over for being a bully (no im not in the uk) since then fear completely took over my mind and im not just scared of that kind of violence i also became terrified of normal street fights even when i have to do something about it, i have been letting people step on me since i moved here and everytime i get away from a confrontation without doing anything i cant sleep for about three days after, just calling myself a coward over and over again in my head, im tired of living like this, what made me so scared? karma is definitely terrible but im tired of being scared like this even when im not in the wrong. is this a trauma response or?

Submitted April 6, 2026 at 07:22PM by Helpful_Sink722 https://ift.tt/0CHefp5

Why is bjj inferior to striking for self defense?

everyone down votes me saying bjj is great for self defense. you can clinch and get behind someone, control them, take them down with low impact.

striking requires you to stand in front of another person with the same opportunity to hit you, so your skill level would have to be way higher to be effective.

grappling is the most effective art for mma, tons of self defense with someone slamming another person.

if you can manage distance and are so good at striking, youre gonna need a really high level gym. Who wants to bet there are way more high level bjj gyms all over the world compared to boxing.

dont downvote me to hell I know there are self defense masters on here but I really want to know why its always discouraged and "striking, self awareness and a throat punch" are the most effective.

Submitted April 6, 2026 at 01:02AM by picklethegrappler https://ift.tt/SZhjcX3

In your opinion, would Jiu-Jitsu be a better choice than Muay Thai fo

I was going to ask this question in the "What Martial Arts Works Best in a Street Fight?" thread, but the post was locked. I've been training Muay Thai for about 9 months, focusing on self-defense, and on the recommendation of my therapist who said I should do some physical sport. But in a situation where someone drunk or high attacks me in the street, I don't think I could cause enough damage to knock them out, and they probably wouldn't stop because of the pain. I'm wondering if it wouldn't be better to take some BJJ classes focusing on takedowns, maybe that would help me more.

Submitted April 5, 2026 at 09:24PM by Extra-Stable-7240 https://ift.tt/Pv95l3c

Triangle choke lethal tactics (Mods Please)

Do u know if you put someone in a triangle choke without their arm u can actually make them paralyzed. By Using your right leg to the knee to the hip bone. to force those bones up from your opponent. Just think of it as that you have someone on your back and u want to change the game around fast ( Jolt it as fast as u can) I did it 2 times

Submitted April 4, 2026 at 07:53AM by EmphasisGullible2899 https://ift.tt/SvFhJpD

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Submitted April 3, 2026 at 12:48PM by Conscious_Aioli_3521 https://ift.tt/ifVOaUZ

Karate or Boxing

Suup guys. I trust all of y'all are top. look, I'm 25 and I wanna learn how to protect myself.. tbh I wanna beat my highschool bully up, he's the real motivation (toxic, I know). So I live in a small town and I got 2 main options for combat training... karate and boxing. Please advise your personal opinion and why. Thanks in advance family

Submitted April 1, 2026 at 08:53AM by Bossman2270 https://ift.tt/C142zTW

How can I develop bravery

I'm 23 years old and male.

I accept that I am prone to self loathing. I know that I am a coward who is utterly terrified of confrontation.

Whenever I have a confrontation with another man, I am so scared that I tremble and I despise myself for this.

I believe that I was kept away from conflict growing up and believe this is the underlying cause but it could also be genetic, at least to degree.

My question is, how do I change this? How do I develop the heart to be able to stand up for myself physically, should I need to. Above all, can any of this be done or will I be a coward for the rest of my life?

It prevents me from being happy inside of my relationships as I believe I'm unable to protect my relationship partner.

Thank you in advance.

Submitted March 31, 2026 at 09:07PM by Hevfuevdhc65639 https://ift.tt/h7ZO4kS