Suup guys. I trust all of y'all are top. look, I'm 25 and I wanna learn how to protect myself.. tbh I wanna beat my highschool bully up, he's the real motivation (toxic, I know). So I live in a small town and I got 2 main options for combat training... karate and boxing. Please advise your personal opinion and why. Thanks in advance family
I'm 23 years old and male.
I accept that I am prone to self loathing. I know that I am a coward who is utterly terrified of confrontation.
Whenever I have a confrontation with another man, I am so scared that I tremble and I despise myself for this.
I believe that I was kept away from conflict growing up and believe this is the underlying cause but it could also be genetic, at least to degree.
My question is, how do I change this? How do I develop the heart to be able to stand up for myself physically, should I need to. Above all, can any of this be done or will I be a coward for the rest of my life?
It prevents me from being happy inside of my relationships as I believe I'm unable to protect my relationship partner.
Thank you in advance.
Yesterday I walked into my appartment on the ground floor. When I got in there was a burglar standing right in front of me. I was flabbergasted he looked scared. I told him: who are you? Get out! I stepped back and he walked through the front door talking gibberish or a language I didn't understand. I still wasn't 100% realising what was going on. When he walked through the hallway towards the entrance door of the building I grabbed his arm out of instinct. I'm a judo blackbelt and have 4 years of boxing experience as well. Instead of throwing this guy to the ground or punching. I just let him go as he was looking anxiously at me and back at the door a couple times. He didn't steal anything right when he got inside I entered the room. I rang the police and my family. They also said why didn't you stop him at first. I don't know what to think about the situation I want to ask some people with self defense experience on how I handled this situation was I smart to not escelate or should i have stopped him? are there things i could have done differently. What should i know if this happens another time. He did have a chisel on him the investigators said which he tried to force the door open with. When he was standing in front of me he was only carrying his phone.
As in, learn to take a hit that hurts hard enough to collapse and get back up and keep going?
