If someone pins ur lower body with their body weight and hold ur hands and is overpowering u in strength or bodyweight...how do u break free from it ? How do get out of that what method/technique/trick can be used for it assuming both parties involved are unarmed and it's not for any sport or anything but for self defence from an attack ....very intrested to know please let me know
I’m 19, about 5’8” and I don’t have much fighting experience. Today I was walking on the sidewalk with my girlfriend when a guy who was sitting near the sidewalk/parking lot suddenly rushed toward me.
I didn’t really notice him at first because he was off to the side, but I was glancing around my surroundings and ended up making eye contact with him. Right after that, he immediately got up/rushed me like he wanted to fight. He got really close to me, started threatening me, and was acting very aggressive and wanting to “smash my head”.
The guy looked around 6’5”, way bigger than me, and seemed unstable. I honestly felt like if he actually attacked me, I probably wouldn’t have won because of the size difference and because he got so close so fast. I also had my girlfriend with me, so I was trying not to escalate anything or make the situation worse.
I ended up de-escalating by keeping my hands up, not acting aggressive, and saying things like “sorry” and trying to calm him down. Eventually it didn’t turn into a fight, but afterward I kept thinking about how close it came and how unprepared I felt.
For people with actual self-defense experience, what should I have done in that situation? How do you create distance when someone much bigger is already within a couple feet of you? How do you protect yourself and someone you’re with without escalating the situation? Also, how do you avoid freezing when someone suddenly rushes you like that?
I 30F recently started dating someone, also 30F. For some reason when I’ve been single or in other relationships, keeping my partner safe if something were to happen hasn’t really crossed my mind. The only time I can think of is when my ex and I were driving somewhere separately a road rager was trying to push her out of her lane. We stopped a red light and I yelled at him out my window that she was my girlfriend and to leave her alone. That was the first time I’ve considered I might be in genuine danger but I think I was so angry and worked up that I didn’t really consider what I’d do if he tried to hurt us.
Recently, my current partner and I were getting ice cream and she accidentally bumped into this guy, and he touched her back for a little too long before moving away from her. Not a huge deal, expect this man also had a sword on him and was wandering around the place not ordering anything, walking in and out of the bathroom, and just in general being sketchy. Both of us were really uncomfortable. Side note: she lives in Chicago and I live in the suburbs. If a man with a sword walked into an establishment where I live, the cops would have been called immediately by someone, but obviously it’s not unusual to see weird shit in the city.
Later that night, my girl made a joke about how I didn’t “protect her” from this guy. And for some reason that’s when it really hit me that if that guy had tried to hurt her, I’m not sure I would have been of any use. Again, if there was an actual threat or if I was mad, there’s a possibility I would try, but I’m smart enough to know that being mad is not a strategy for defending yourself or someone else.
In recent years, especially living in the US, I’ve wondered if I should get a gun just in case I ever need it. But I genuinely don’t feel comfortable with the idea of being armed. I do believe everyone should know gun safety and how to use one (I’ve been to a range and was taught the bare basics) but the idea of carrying that around just is a challenging concept for me at the moment. Now, my girl has a gun, but she doesn’t carry it in public and I think it’s more for protecting herself at home. Out in public she carries mace and sometimes a taser.
I know she wants to be with someone who would protect her, and it’s starting to really bother me that I’m not that person right now. In the last few months I have been interested in learning boxing and there’s a boxing gym about 5 minutes from me. I’ve also considered BJJ (again, a gym very close to me). I’m not even gonna ask the question of if I should start doing some form of martial art because the answer is obvious. If I’m not gonna carry a gun, I should at least know how to fight.
So, this was more of a rant than anything but I’m open to hearing any thoughts.
