What would make a solid self-defense grappling... ruleset?

Been thinking about it lately, and I've realized every grappling martial art has some sort of issue regarding self defense. BJJ allows guard-pulling nonsense that'll get your skull caved in in a real fight, much of Judo doesn't work without a gi (+ the higher level Judokas pulling some magical BS just to not land on their back, meaning they could easily break an arm) and wrestling forgets that fights don't stop the moment you hold someone for a couple seconds, they're still gonna be fighting back and trying to bash your skull. So... what is there to do?

(In fairness, this's coming from a dude who's got minimal experience in any of this so feel free to yell at me for being a major idiot. Also these're just ideas)

• Gi-less like wrestling (and some BJJ spots)
• Allows "strikes" (not full bore bashes to the head, more like playfighting strikes), 10 would-be solid strikes that AREN'T blocked mean a win for whoever did them. Notice how I said would-be solid, since I'm not including any weak "I'm in top closed guard, my opponent's pulled me close and I'm doing weak little nothing punches just to do SOMETHING" strikes
• Good self-defense tactics like pulling someone close while on bottom closed guard get rewarded, crappy ones like pulling guard or effectively offering your back get penalized.
• Takedowns VERY rewarded, but only if you end up on top
• Getting OUT / disengaging (not from standing) rewarded plenty
• Training in tight environments often since a lotta times you're not gonna have a ton of grappling space IRL
• Points awarded 3 seconds after the fact (ex. if you land a solid takedown and KEEP top for 3 seconds, points awarded, if it's immediately reversed, no go)

(Man do I sound like a bot lmao, but whatever, yell at me all you want like I said)

Submitted 2026-09-08T17:37:49Z by Lieutenant_Yeast https://ift.tt/H509MOP

A guy keeps trying to start on me at school what do I do?

This dumbass keeps trying to start a fight with me over literally nothing. Like I don’t even know him and haven’t done anything to him and he keeps pushing me in corridors and taunting me. The other day I pushed him back on the stairs and he tried to advance on me but I walked away. I have a feeling he’s gonna start a fight properly soon, and idk what more I can do apart from knocking him down. If push comes to shove it’s what it’s gonna have to happen, but I’m not sure what to do exactly. I’m a boxer but I don’t street fight or anything like that.

Submitted 2026-09-08T16:38:08Z by Particular-Syrup4617 https://ift.tt/ON4QsYd

How to modify pepperball gun

Sadly i live in a country we're self defense is illegal and without a real firearm licens i cant even own a pepperball or Ram gun withe more Power than 7,5 joul

So my question is: Is there a way to modify an 7,5 j pepperball gun so IT hast any real Power? And what model do i need for my Projekt I saw a gun withe 35 joul online but If i try to ship IT im gonna end Up on an terrorist watchlist :(

Pls Help a man thadts trying to Not get stabbed Like my homies.

Submitted 2026-09-08T10:09:20Z by Huge_Flow_9624 https://ift.tt/8FBJVd6

Apartment Building Self Defense

Hi all, i’m 21 years old living in a converted terrace house into multiple apartment units in London, UK.

My neighbour who lives below me is quite erratic, constant in and out all night, loud music, shouting and quite threatening behaviour. My other neighbour is a drug dealer.

Just wanted some ideas of self defense tools i can use in case something happens and someone with bad intentions comes knocking. I have a baseball bat, metal 28”. What else could i use people?

I am looking into martial arts training.

Cheers everyone :)

Submitted 2026-09-07T11:33:42Z by aviieeemoon https://ift.tt/fRmcbUy

Which martial art would you recommend for a smaller man?

I’m looking to become proficient in a martial art, primarily for self-defense, but I don’t know which one to choose. I was considering Krav Maga, BJJ, Judo, or Muay Thai, as there are schools for these near my home; I even thought about MMA classes, but the ones nearby seem more like conventional kickboxing classes.

Submitted 2026-09-06T16:38:56Z by Acceptable_Worth8817 https://ift.tt/ecsoGUB

I’m 5’11 195lbs mostly muscle. How helpful is my build a w/o training

As I said in the title I’m a 5’11” 195 lb man and probably somewhere around 13% body fat.

I‘m not the biggest guy around but not exactly a little dude either. Believe me, I know first had size is not everything, and neither is strength even. I have had my ass walloped in some scenarios by guys 6 inches shorter than me and 50 lbs lighter.

I have some boxing experience from when i was a teenager. I was in a league for about 2 years so I can still throw a decent punch and have good footwork.

But it’s been a while since then. I want to know how much of a defense my size is in and of itself.

I ask since I recently went out with my girl to a club. I went to grab her water at some point and as soon as a left a guy jumped on her and started grinding. I pushed him away, but he came back and started pressing at me, but I just acted like he doesn’t exist and eventually moved on to bother some other girls.

The guy waa probably 5’9” and maybe 165lbs but of a normal build. Not particularly strong or muscular looking. If he had started trying to fight me, what would that have looked like given size and strength alone if he wasn’t trained in anything.

Would I have kicked his ass? Would it basically be a crapshoot? Would I have probably won but only through a ton of effort?

As I said, I’d like to know the optics, given that we both have 0 experience

Submitted 2026-09-06T10:18:54Z by Appropriate_Hope_383 https://ift.tt/HC2s3aY

How do I deal with the freeze response?

A few weeks back, I was with a friend and he got into an argument with someone. I'm not going to into all the details of the incident.

This guy basically pushed my friend while he was standing in front of a store and my friend yelled at him, telling him that he should've given him time instead of grabbing his elbow and moving it. This guy came up front and it turned into an argument. He threatened my friend and I stood there like a bystander. Given that he's my friend I should have butted in and confronted him about threatening my friend. But I couldn't, in the moment my heart was beating fast and I felt scared. The only thing that was going through my mind was how I can escape the situation. My voice automatically went to a low pitch and I kept telling my friend to let it be. While he kept arguing with the guy.

I feel ashamed for being like this. For being so scared and getting a freeze response. I know this is part of my biology meant to keep me safe. But I just don't like how I lacked courage in those moments. As a guy it makes your guy friends lose respect for you. I did apologise to him later on and he was chill about it. But I just feel really ashamed.

I'm someone who grew up getting bullied and physically intimidated by people. I had never been able to confront people growing up and to think that I'm in the same place makes me feel horrible. Like I'm a loser.

I had really low confidence because of this and other reasons growing up. Now I lift weights, have a good physique, have some good amount of strength but still being so scared makes me feel like I'm still weak. That I never improved.

Submitted 2026-09-05T13:13:15Z by Awkward_Implement324 https://ift.tt/30R4OMC