Self defense and prepping

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Submitted October 29, 2026 at 08:06AM by apokrif1 https://ift.tt/JopaIP8

HAVOC Self-Defense

Is the heavily advertised HAVOC system valid or BS?

https://centerlinetactical.com/products/havoc

Submitted October 28, 2026 at 06:25PM by Apprehensive_Key_798 https://ift.tt/T8UQ3vN

What is wrong with my Sabre launcher

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Submitted October 28, 2026 at 03:03PM by pagedidntexist https://ift.tt/y3zvIfE

BJJ is useless for real self defense.

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Submitted October 28, 2026 at 12:02PM by Ill_Improvement_8276 https://ift.tt/muaWTGk

Best self defense class for a girl wanting to solo travel?

Im planning to do a bit of solo travelling next year, but really want to be prepared for the worst, and capable of defending myself. What would be the best class to go to for a few months to then have the skills/knowledge needed to protect myself when I'm alone?

Submitted October 26, 2026 at 02:04PM by Ok-Replacement-1254 https://ift.tt/NQFSi5c

I’m scrawny and a weak target. Where should I even start???

For context, I am a 22 year old woman and have only been in a few mildly unsafe situations until recently. A new hire at work has made a point to tell our underage coworkers about how he finds me attractive, in somewhat explicit detail. I looked him up online and found out he has multiple charges from possession, resisting arrest, dwi’s, and a domestic battery charges (how my boss didn’t find any of this BEFORE hiring him I have no idea). A report has been made to hr, and I’m hoping it is dealt with swiftly. But my fear is the aftermath.

I have never had to fight in my life to save myself. Knowing a man with a violent criminal history is trying to pursue me has made me beyond afraid for my life. And I don’t know what to do or where I would even start to be sure I stay alive and safe. I have pepper spray and a stun gun. But if those fail? I wouldn’t know what else to turn to. Should I enroll in a martial arts course? Build basic strength to be able to land a hit if I’m in danger? I really don’t know where to start, and I get so overwhelmed trying to figure it all out all at once. Any advice from anybody who’s been in my situation or helped someone in a similar situation would be amazing.

edit: to clarify. i have no intention of harming this man or anybody else without reason to. this situation that i am in has scared me into wanting to learn how to keep myself and others safe.

Submitted October 26, 2026 at 01:53AM by elderscrolls-enjoyer https://ift.tt/IikxduO

Size vs skill in self defense?

We know that a smaller trained man beats a larger untrained man. But does this apply once the bigger guy trains too, assuming the smaller guy trains even more, harder, and smarter? Like, would a 6ft 200lbs dude who trains 2-3 times a week beat a 5'6 155lbs dude that trains 5-6 times a week and is trying to compete?

Submitted October 25, 2026 at 07:38PM by MysteriousMan194 https://ift.tt/8VBH0ui

What to use at a moment’s notice to make vambraces?

Hello! I’ve been carrying a knife for years due to a cultural tradition (my dad is from Finland), but thankfully have never had to use one to defend myself. However, I’m a woman that likes to hike alone, and while I like where I live, I’ve been told by enough people (including people that grew up in South Boston/Dorchester) that the city right next to mine is dangerous that I figured I should at least be cautious. I don’t personally feel unsafe walking around the city next to mine and I actually quite like it, but I figure knowing some basic knife defense would be helpful. I’ve unfortunately had something happen to me when I was younger when I didnt have a knife on me at the time, and so I just feel safer carrying one. My dad has taught me some basic knife defense and BJJ, and I plan on signing up for 1:1 self defense/knife defense lessons.

I also have a work friend that grew up in a rougher area, and he’s been giving me self-defense advice. Yesterday he told me that if I ever do have the misfortune of someone starting a knife fight with me, to immediately cut off some cloth to wrap around my wrists. I was wondering, to this end, if it might be smart to carry some cloth on me just for this purpose. How good are bandanas as makeshift vambraces?

Submitted October 24, 2026 at 12:07PM by Superb-Cell736 https://ift.tt/TmX5Zh2

5 trained fighters vs 1 knife guy

https://youtu.be/ipf1mROm6rg?is=Mj-6eBUxvDQJTtB5

Submitted October 24, 2026 at 10:05AM by Adventurous_Dig_7117 https://ift.tt/9LxQSKY

The importance of owning and carrying weapons.

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Submitted October 23, 2026 at 09:59AM by PizzaHands https://ift.tt/oJWUkEM

Shaking fear despite 5 months of training

I was recently in a scary scenario at night, i didn't expect to be so scared despite 5 months of intensive training. I managed to turn to and shout at the guy when he came down from the car and came at me but he still followed me after. I felt pathetic that i didn't kick him or something to make him leave for good when he first came out the car. How do you manage such a thing?

Submitted October 23, 2026 at 07:18AM by CompetitiveKick7063 https://ift.tt/DJEZ9Sb

Question about Sabre Red.

Hi.

I tested a Sabre Red 22g pepper spray outdoors with a very short burst on a piece of paper.

It came out as an orange stream, which I assume is normal. However, when I got close to the paper right afterwards, I barely noticed any smell and felt practically no effects. No eye irritation or any other reaction.

Is this normal? I’d like to know if I might have been sold a fake or defective product, or if this is completely normal. I thought that after using the Sabre Red and getting close to where the spray landed, I should feel some irritation in my eyes or nose, but I felt almost nothing, even though the stream was orange.

Thanks.

Submitted October 22, 2026 at 04:05PM by Practical-Grocery-44 https://ift.tt/B3wWn67

Bjj instructor flips security

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Submitted October 22, 2026 at 08:49AM by StatusInside432 https://ift.tt/Ut1GTuA

Women who’ve taken self-defense classes: what made you start?

Hi everyone, I’m a graduate student doing a project on women’s experiences in self-defense classes. I’m trying to understand how people arrive at these classes in the first place.

If you’re a woman who has taken (or is thinking about taking) a self-defense class, I’d love to hear: what led you to sign up? Was there a particular moment, a general feeling, or something else entirely? Any personal stories?

There are no right or wrong answers.

Replies are voluntary and I won’t use any usernames or identifying details in my work. If you’d rather answer privately, feel free to DM me. Thank you!

Submitted October 17, 2026 at 08:15PM by Slight_Gate1058 https://ift.tt/MLJvDfP

Looking for a defense manual

The pdf was titled, 'the Magicians guide to self defense'. It had various builds such as firecrackers on treble hooks and how to make ninja smoke bombs.

I can't seem to find it online, does anyone have a copy?

Submitted October 16, 2026 at 11:14PM by TeacherOfThingsOdd https://ift.tt/Xm2AtIY

Im scared of getting bullied in school

Im scared of getting bullied in school, especially in school fights. I do not want to be involved in a school fight, if i were accidentally involve in a school fight, what should i do?

Submitted October 15, 2026 at 11:21AM by Eclipse_RealmzZ https://ift.tt/puEW9o8

How do you defend yourselves while outnumbered?

I get extremely anxious in larger groups because of past experiences of being bullied and witch hunted by multiple groups in several contexts.

I'd rather wanna avoid those feelings of helplessness in the future if I can, and so was wondering what I could do to make sure I stand a chance in confrontations where I'm outnumbered if it were to escalate to something physical. And if only to gain more confidence when I find myself in crowds.

I'm a weak woman, sitting at 54kg and 170cm. I take walks every day but I could go to the gym if that's what I need to do.

Submitted October 14, 2026 at 07:53AM by New-Elderberry-3098 https://ift.tt/5WxOIlN

Bulking to 200lbs at 5'6

Turns out if you're light, you can work as hard as possible but will still lose easily to somebody heavier who's trained for 6 months. This means, in a street fight, if the dude who's attacking me has a bit of training, I'm probably screwed because of my size.

At 5'6, without an exceptional skeletal frame size, how feasible is it to bulk to 200lbs while retaining athletic and fighting ability?

Submitted October 12, 2026 at 07:31PM by MysteriousMan194 https://ift.tt/dHktO2R

hi guys im needing a pepper spray recommendation

can anyone recommend me a high quality, tested, and trusted pepper spray for self defense?

in life right now im in a bit of a sticky situation with neighbors and they are showing signs of being deranged.

i can't get any firearms. but if you have another options of weapons and tactics feel free to lmk. i also carry a pocket knife always. but that is highly escalated deadly force and kind of wanna carry also a less lethal option.

i never had pepper spray before. only a homemade bottle of pepper extracts one time. it was able to shoot like 7 yards in a stream. which i saw is better than most actual oc spray models out there. however it doesnt fit in the pockets easily and can leak out the nozzle.

so any spray that has a good amount fluid inside. and also sprays a nice long stream as long as possible is what i'd like to carry.

Submitted October 12, 2026 at 01:48PM by real_solja https://ift.tt/DHCjtFJ

How often is someone attacked by more than one person?

I'm talking about when someone is attacked of course. When someone is attacked how often is it by two people? Or three? Or more? I'm sure the statistics are out there but I can't find them myself.

Submitted October 12, 2026 at 05:59AM by Shadow-Pie https://ift.tt/biuKoBa

Self-defense training while pregnant?

What would you do to improve your physical self-defense skills while pregnant? My current thought is non contact boxing but curious if there are any other baby-in-the-belly friendly suggestions? I'm continuing to workout and weight lift as I'm able.

Submitted October 11, 2026 at 11:19PM by growol https://ift.tt/VL8bBcT

What could've been the right response to this incident?

I got assaulted today by what seemed to be a crazy woman. She pushed me while cursing me and kept coming close. All I could do to avoid escalation was to back up and tell her to back off with my palm raised infront of me but she responded by hitting my arm and telling me not to tell her to back off while still cursing. She kept intimidating me until her friend opened the door to the building (which I was also staying in and trying to open the door but struggling) but even inside she was still cursing and looking back at me through the glass like she was about to come out again and fight me.

Mentally, i was prepared to kick her away from me but i was too scared she would get too crazy and do something seriously harmful to me, so I didnt exactly freeze. I was assessing the right thing to do and felt it was too risky to provoke her more but she also seemed like she would've done more if her friend didnt open the door.

I've done muay thai and BJJ for three years and stopped due to major life events, also did a couple of self defense workshops, then started kick boxing recently. Whenever im out alone, im always alert and mentally prepared for things to go south so that i dont freeze. Here, i really couldnt tell whats right.

Are you supposed to know when to hit back, or is it a matter of a reflex that happens without thinking? Was I actually assessing the situation properly or did I really just freeze?

Submitted October 11, 2026 at 06:31PM by NotAllThereAnyway https://ift.tt/F51Xoqr

Years of martial arts, but a guy with a hammer made me feel helpless

Last week, for the first time in my life, I came close to a situation where I might have had to physically defend myself.

I was trying to park near my house when a guy started tailgating me. I felt pressured to park quickly because of the car behind me, and it pissed me off. I ended up yelling at him (car windows were closed, he could not hear me. He only saw it). For context, I recently became a father, I’m barely sleeping, and my patience hasn’t exactly been at its best lately. No excuse to get mad, I am aware.

When I got out of my car to get to my house, I noticed that the other driver had stopped too. He grabbed a hammer and started walking towards me.

I’ve trained martial arts for most of my life. I have a brown belt in judo, years of kickboxing and MMA experience, and some wrestling experience as well. I always understood that real-life violence is unpredictable, but I guess I never truly understood what it would feel like to face someone who was actually threatening me with a weapon.
All that training suddenly felt irrelevant.

I didn’t feel confident or prepared. I didn’t feel like a fighter. The only thing I could think to say was, “Did you really just grab a hammer over this?”

I know that de-escalating the situation and getting home safely was the right priority. I’m not upset that I didn’t fight him. I’m upset by how helpless I felt in that moment, despite all the years I’ve spent training.
Part of me knows that avoiding a potentially life-threatening confrontation was the sensible thing to do. Another part of me keeps interpreting that feeling of helplessness as some kind of failure.

Has anyone here with a martial arts background experienced something similar?
How did you deal with the mental aftermath? Did it change the way you view your training or your ability to handle yourself in a real-life confrontation?
I’m not looking for advice on how to beat someone armed with a hammer. I’m trying to understand why I reacted the way I did and how to stop interpreting a sensible decision as a personal failure.

Submitted October 11, 2026 at 02:32PM by Fantastic-Estate-938 https://ift.tt/IXm4KSt

Is a jaw punch MOST LIKELY gonna cause someone to get knocked out?

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Submitted October 11, 2026 at 01:48AM by nexusgaming11 https://ift.tt/QgPpDX4

Need help in self Defense

I’ve been dealing with this bully for quite sometime now and it’s gotten to the point where he would always follow me home just to beat me up I already tried going to the police but nothing was done and he shows no sign of stopping he has a huge size advantage I think he’s 6 foot and I’m 5,4 and very skinny everytime I tried fighting back he would always overpower me by grabbing me if anyone knows how I can fight back I’d appreciate it

Submitted October 10, 2026 at 07:12PM by Fearless-Teacher6991 https://ift.tt/N0Hv9Qd

Kick between the legs

Hello, is a kick between the legs in women as effective as in men?

Submitted October 10, 2026 at 01:18PM by Superb-Tea-8613 https://ift.tt/7xezuIt

Recommendations for Self Defense Classes in LA

Hi all, I am an old man in the Midwest so these recommendations are not for me. They are for my daughter. She is a new college graduate and living on her own in the LA area. I have been thinking about purchasing her some self defense classes but this is an area where I know absolutely nothing. The last fight I was in was 50 years ago while in the 7th grade after a disco dance class at the local park district (flame away). It taught me one thing: that I am not a fighter.

Anyway, suggestions about the types of classes that would be best for a single, young woman on her own and, if allowed, recommendations to actual places in LA that would be good. I know LA is huge so think Playa Del Rey/Westchester areas (north of LAX).

If it matters, my daughter is on the smaller side (5'3ish) and not a particularly serious work out person so she has little to no experience with weight lifting and/or physical confrontations. She has never been in a physical fight in her life. She spends a lot of her time outside walking with her dog. Recently she had a "strange" interaction with a guy near a dog park and this is what triggered my interest in finding her some type of professional self defense training.

Thank you all for any advice!

Submitted October 8, 2026 at 12:44PM by Nika65 https://ift.tt/ofC4sPO

Hand Wrapping Step By Step Tutorial for Boxing Training 🥊

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Submitted October 8, 2026 at 10:39AM by heck28 https://ift.tt/65JgtaA

Are martial arts actually useful for defending yourselves?

This is a question for anyone with any relative combat experience (military or police).

I know a lot of people recommend martial arts in this thread.

BJJ - I imagine in ground fighting you don't know where you could end up: near glass shards from some bottle, rocks, or some kid's left-behind plastic toy (because everyone's littering).

Another suggestion is judo; you don't necessarily have to go to the ground; there are throws while standing up, but judo is known to have more frequent injuries. Any tips on doing Judo safely?

Though is Krav Maga or Kali actually useful?

Striking arts (boxing, Muay Thai, etc.). If you grapple your opponent, you can avoid doing excessive damage. The only exemption would be multiple opponents (you can't exactly grapple your way out of that); then again, I don't think any martial art can save you from that, not to mention striking arts put your lifespan in danger (strikes to the head during training), not enough return for the risk. I'm assuming your only chance is running away.

But are these relevant or worth it for civilians (they don't have handcuffs or other equipment)?

Skills like sprinting (for running) or first aid help you help others, potentially treat yourself; those are probably the priority.

Submitted October 8, 2026 at 07:35AM by Fine-Market9841 https://ift.tt/RPfb52o

I just knocked out a man in self defense.

This happened about an hour and a half ago. I'm currently traveling for work, and I have found myself in India for the past week. I was taking out my friend's dog for a walk at night, around 7 p.m., and we stopped for a breather. I heard a sound behind me. I turned around, and a man was right behind me, maybe about four feet away, growling and looking at me, and slowly approaching. I told him to stop. He didn't stop, and instinct just took over, and I punched him in his left jaw. He fell down immediately, knocked out for about one minute. It was a walkway so he hit his head on cement, but his fall wasn’t very hard. He got up, sat on his butt, sitting down for about six maybe eight minutes, and he bled quite a bit from his mouth. He got up, gestured to me to piss off. He didn't say anything, and he walked away. He was clearly drunk, as one of the people who was there told me, and they told me he'd be fine. But I'm a bit scared because I've never hit a man like that before. I've had some training in boxing and a little bit in self-defense, but I've never been in a situation where I've had to actually use it. It happened so fast in about the span of five seconds, and he was knocked out. I feel very anxious, and I'm overthinking, and I'm having thoughts like, what if he dies because of this? What do I do? I would love some clarification on this. I've never done this before in my life.

From what I’ve researched about Indian self defense laws, I was well within my rights to act in self defense as I believed to be in immediate danger, and didn’t have time to run due to his proximity to me.

Submitted October 7, 2026 at 11:54AM by Successful_Bar9187 https://ift.tt/2vAKlP7

Counter-Attack! How to Survive on the Street by Allen Wheeler

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Submitted October 6, 2026 at 07:33AM by latestartoneheart https://ift.tt/n8u1ECB

Why is self defence usually either run or fight? Whats in between?

Whenever i see someone talk about self defence i always hear either "you need to run away" or "you need to fight better"

But here comes a question that none of these people in the thousands of videos i have seen could ever answer: what if none of these are possible?

I have a disability, heart condition and a few other things. So i can "run", for exactly 50m and then im already almost dying.

Also i cant really fight cause im weak and also it would be too dangerous to risk getting hit in the chest.

What do i do?

Usually in dangerous situations i walk away, works 99% of the times and if i cant i match the persons energy which made them laugh and instantly defused the situation.

Why do these "self defence gurus" never talk about this? Why is it always to "run" and never to just "walk" away?

And what would alternatives be?

Also if i use pepperspray on an attacker and then walk away. Cant they recover and run after me to attck? So pepperspray also doesnt seem like a good option.

Ofc you could say "just dont get in bad situations" but i cant really not go out to socialise....

Submitted October 6, 2026 at 01:03AM by Advanced_Corgi_924 https://ift.tt/V6sEb7C

Legal self defense tools when traveling to SE Asia

Hi, so I’m about to travel to SE Asia in a few months , and I know that the laws about wpns in those countries are very strict. I don’t condone or encourage any kind of violence or ask for any recommendation for wpns of any type. However, what kind of everyday tools that you guys used that are legal every where and can be put inside a checked bag with no harassment from airport customs in those countries that are perfectly legal ? I know that SE Asia in general is safe, but as an Asian immigrant myself, I know that is not always the case, for ex: 2 foreigners got kidnapped and murdered in Thailand. Lemme know your thoughts and experience. A little bit about myself: I had some boxing experiences and know basics of striking, but I’m still lacking on my grappling game.

Submitted October 5, 2026 at 07:24PM by Available-Refuse-748 https://ift.tt/LB4jOdf

How does CR spray compare to capsaicin pepper spray?

i carry a 40ml spray containing a 0.1% concentration of CR (dibenzoxazepine) and yes it is legal where i live. is this kind of spry more effective then capsaicin? because i have heard different opinions. people generarly say that it hits way stronger but lasts shorter.

Submitted October 4, 2026 at 02:10AM by Dj_scarlicker https://ift.tt/6e0ycEv

Self defence help/training for teens?

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Submitted October 2, 2026 at 01:53PM by RainbowTurtle876 https://ift.tt/DrvREYh

An older woman was assaulted literally right outside my door.

Last night i was relaxing on the couch when out of nowhere i hear a blood curdling scream like some shit out of an eldritch horror. I ran to my window and this tall young man has his hands wrapped around my elderly neighbor by the throat. I have no idea whether he was mentally ill and simply aiming to assault this woman, attempting to sexually assault her, etc. I suspect he was trying to steal her necklace as muggings have become more common here. I did not get a look at the young man because he had a hoodie on. Within moments half of the neighborhood went outside and sheltered the woman (way to go to my neighbors).

There is a region near me where muggings are particularly common. My aunt saw an older man get the shit kicked out of him by three younger men. It tends to be younger guys (16 - 23) that are responsible. Someone almost mugged me too quite possibly. He tried to stop and ask for the time which seemed suspicious. I think he may have been deterred by the height differential (i was considerably taller). However, what to do if someone tries to mug me? Say they lay hands on me or catch me by surprise? What if there is a group? What if they have a weapon such as a blunt tool or knife?

Submitted October 2, 2026 at 01:15AM by Designer-Photo-8840 https://ift.tt/pEkmGQD

Are these self defense keychains worth it?

was sexually assaulted in Walmart a few days ago while I was with my grandmother. Two men walking past us grabbed my butt. Since then, I’ve been feeling uncomfortable going out alone, especially at night.

I’m looking for a small personal safety item that I can carry with me when I’m walking or going places by myself. I’ve been looking at some of the premade self-defense/personal safety keychains on Etsy, but I’m not sure whether they’re actually useful or worth purchasing.

For those who have experience with personal safety products:

• Are the self-defense keychains sold on Etsy actually effective?
• What personal safety items do you recommend carrying?
• Are there any products that you would consider ineffective or not worth buying?
• What should I look for when choosing something that is small and easy to access?
• I’m also in New Jersey, so are there any legal restrictions I should be aware of?

I’m mainly looking for practical advice from people who have actually used or carried these types of products.

Submitted September 29, 2026 at 12:05PM by Fumblingthroughlife2 https://ift.tt/dYFruMz

In the US, is owning a large dog is enough to deter? I am a s young f

I have a female shorthair German Shepherd, and I'm hoping that even though I'm small, end up looking like a minor to a lot of people, and overall just a young adult, that it is enough to effectively deter a grown man? I'd like to stop the situation before one ever happens, if that makes sense.

Submitted September 29, 2026 at 09:00AM by OwnIndependence1852 https://ift.tt/nAik3qt

Techniques to avoid a fight?

Like how to be more diplomatic? How to de-escalate a situation? I'm asking that because you might not have an option to run, for example if surrounded

Submitted September 28, 2026 at 02:49AM by fillkas https://ift.tt/q2QD9eo

Is this good self defense against a bigger opponent?

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Submitted September 27, 2026 at 06:48PM by Tcustomcorner https://ift.tt/ZdyKtPs

How do you dela with the paranoia or fear of getting shot by gangs ?

Living in Scandinavia crime rate is generally low and normally I never had that fear or anxiety before about this issue. I guess the main reason was I still living in my fantasy world of being invulnerable or thinking it’s like the movies and hard to get hit. But these recent weeks reading about my country gangs stories and conflicts and ours being a small country the crime areas aren’t far away from each other. Just made me get a reality check how weak our bodies are from dangerous stuff and I guess I now constantly have paranoia or anxiety eveytime I see groups or people with the steotpical clothes and those what you looking at eyes. And fearing what if one of my brothers get targeted how would I react, revenge etc stuff going your mind. What bothered me most is that there has been cases of innocent kids and people who got killed by mistaken identity and I don’t know how to find the confidence back and not be afraid of it and being intimidated by it
Any advice ?

Submitted September 27, 2026 at 06:10PM by Ok_Drummer6347 https://ift.tt/0kcv7gF

OC/Pepper spray

Can someone explain to me the reasoning behind these tools being illegal in some countries? The only thing i could find on the internet is that it could be used to escalate minor interactions but that could be said of a hefty handbag.

Submitted September 25, 2026 at 11:23AM by AntOk4073 https://ift.tt/rvLDsZW

🤔 How important is hand to hand combat in the Army?

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Submitted September 24, 2026 at 09:49PM by silat_australia https://ift.tt/vSZCRzb

How do i defend myself as a woman in public?

Hi,

I’m 19 and f for reference. Today I had a really scary experience for the first time in a long time. A man who was very clearly mentally unwell came up to me today while i was waiting for the bus. I didn’t initiate it at all we just locked eyes for a second and then he came up very close, honestly my ears went kinda mute after it occurred and i didn’t hear him but as i backed away and avoided eye contact he just kept coming closer. So i started to speed walk to the next bus stop but then he follow and really fast too!!! This was a tall shirtless 6’ man. Anyway i honestly thought i was so screwed i didn’t know what to do until a man interfered and said hey and got weirdos attention. He finally left me alone after that. This whole interaction left me feeling uneasy because what could I have done in this situation? This was not the kind of guy where if you say “i’m calling the police leave me alone” he’d leave you alone, he would just laugh in your face. I am beyond grateful there were people there but barely any of them spoke up except that one guy who caught his attention. I think maybe a car honked at him? But what i hate the most about this was that it took a man to deescalate the situation (this isn’t a hate post towards men lol), it just made me feel uneasy and scared because what if there was no man around, what could i have done to defend my self. I’ve dealt with the usual weird guys staring, some guys come up and talk to you, but never anything like this.

Honestly looking for any tips for what i can do in situations like these, Generally speaking i would want any type of physical self defense to be a last resort but any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Submitted September 24, 2026 at 06:11PM by Live-Bluejay-4952 https://ift.tt/JneU0MP

Weapons for a late-night bike commute?

Hey all,

I'm going to be starting a new job soon, my shift will be ending around 1 AM and it'll be a 15 minute ride to my apartment by bike. The route is going to take me through a quiet neighborhood, but it is going to be just a few blocks off from a major thoroughfare which definitely has some sketchy activities happening late at night (and even during the day).

I'm planning on riding hard and keeping my speed up to reduce the danger, but I'm also wondering if there's any sort of weapon which might be a good fit for a bicyclist. I've never owned any weapon before but I anticipate that being on the bike would make things awkward physically.

Submitted September 24, 2026 at 05:52PM by Bravelungs https://ift.tt/jWyXsNM

🤯 Learning Pencak Silat Sarong. How effective do you think it is?

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Submitted September 23, 2026 at 08:37PM by silat_australia https://ift.tt/jwoHAZk

Is Kudo effective when combined with wrestling?

I train wrestling twice a week and want to combine it with something else. There are a few MMA clubs in my area, but I recently discovered there’s a Kudo club as well. It looks like they fight very hard, but I’m curious to hear the opinions of people who have trained in it—specifically, how they compare its effectiveness to other martial arts.

Submitted September 23, 2026 at 12:48PM by ciechu90 https://ift.tt/RknrE5e

Self Defense Routine Help

I’m 32yo and a smaller guy (150lb, 5’6). Looking to learn martial arts to be able to defend myself and my wife. I’ve tried boxing, bjj, and Muay thai classes and out and honestly liked all of them. Trying to figure out the right path to achieve my goal. I’ve done boxing the most at about 8 months of classes

M Boxing 1:1
T no gi bjj
W Boxing 1:1
Th no gi bjj
F Boxing 1:1

M Muay Thai Drill class
T Muay Thai 1:1
W Muay Thai Drill class
Th Muay Thai Sparring class + 1:1
F Muay Thai Drill Class

With the first option, although i get both striking and grappling, my main concern is whether I’m spreading my focus too thin

Submitted September 22, 2026 at 04:34PM by SwolatmaGaindhi https://ift.tt/8uzpkVw

My kid is 5 and getting bullied.

School is not helping. What type of fighting style is best to learn at that age so he can fight back if necessary?

Submitted September 22, 2026 at 07:34AM by Melodic_Leg9827 https://ift.tt/EfIXcz7

When youre about to get carjacked but youre late for work

https://ift.tt/5DQYrEL

Submitted September 21, 2026 at 01:45AM by ap0g33 https://ift.tt/31q9hGH

How to handle violent mentally ill homeless person?

Im a small woman and today I was borderline assaulted by homeless man who i assume is mentally ill and I realized I have no idea how to handle such a situation.

I could hear him yelling at a woman crossing the street as I was unlocking my bike. I continued unlocking it and didnt look at him. Usually ignoring works but unfortunately he started approaching and yelling. One thing he kept yelling was "why wont you look at me".

He kicked my bike then came in front of me with his bike and I had no idea what to do so I said "are you ok? can i help you at all" with genuine concern but also fear. Anyways he then smashed the front of my bike with his bike narrowly missing me and screamed fuck off then left.

I feel very lucky that he didnt actually hit me or do something worse. I'm 5'2 100lbs I have zero ability to fight back against a grown man. Its also illegal to carry pepper spray where I live.

it got me thinking what the ideal way to handle this would have been?

Submitted September 19, 2026 at 11:57PM by canadianalady https://ift.tt/doL0Aic

Best striking art compliment to a wrestling base/background

In terms of striking arts, which one would you guys say compliments a wrestling background best in terms of easily transitioning into and setting up takedowns and just any other things that you guys would consider good striking traits for a wrestler.

Submitted September 19, 2026 at 07:23PM by North_Indication2898 https://ift.tt/ABLqMKR

Kubaton vs stungun which is better

If I had one choice what would be the most effective thing to seriously hurt someone so they can't attack me and hurt me . Assuming there both ok to use where I live.

Submitted September 19, 2026 at 02:44PM by Available_Safe3782 https://ift.tt/bnHTNr5

Pepper Spray vs Tear Gas?

I recently purchased some pepper spray for self defense but I realized it’s not the 3 in 1 stuff that has Tear Gas in it. Would the tear gas spray be a more effective option? If I do have to use it it’s likely that it will be multiple attackers so I feel like tear gas is better since it’s not as important to directly hit all of them in the face with it.

Submitted September 17, 2026 at 03:53PM by Putrid-Trick-1583 https://ift.tt/BPbf4TX

Did martial help you handle more conflicts and tough situations?

/r/martialarts/comments/1wen2po/did_martial_help_you_handle_more_conflicts_and/

Submitted 2026-09-14T14:59:33Z by apokrif1 https://ift.tt/vOSnKTg

Pepper Spray for Dogs?

I hike a lot.

I have been attacked twice by dogs requiring rabies shots, and one attack had pretty deep punctures on my hip and foot ( i was kicking the dog in the head).

I see black bears, and carry bear spray.., usually in a fanny pack that i wear in front, where I can get it very quickly.

The problem is..,I don't want to whip out the bear spray every time i see a dog coming the other way.

I want something smaller.

I was thinking of some kind of pepper spray that I can keep handy without it being too obvious.

The personal defense sprays; mace, pepper spray etc. look about right.

I just want some advice as to exactly which product I should get.

I was looking at the Fox Labs products - which would be best?

Wouldn't something that deploys in a cloud be better than a gel? The dogs are often moving very fast, and i'm not sure i could get them with a gel.

thanks.

Submitted 2026-09-13T15:06:47Z by JGF310 https://ift.tt/PRnTf0a

Did you lose the safety pin from your pepper spray?

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Submitted 2026-09-12T10:37:02Z by TonyHighfinger https://ift.tt/0EHT3ks

Tactics that don't put much strain on neck and back?

I am a small young adult female, I have long term injuries on my back and neck and have to be careful with what I do, but would like to be capable of defending myself if needed. Please include details of and recommendations you have as I am not at all educated on any self defense terms etc. I need some tricks that actually work though. Thank you!

Submitted 2026-09-11T23:45:15Z by OwnIndependence1852 https://ift.tt/crkM3FZ

Did anyone faced something similar

Hi I’m a male 25 never been physically strong maybe below average I started working out in the gym 1.5 years ago but still feel I want more of my body unfortunately I faced situations where I lacked both self confidence and physical strength and I really want to start martial arts but still have doubts as if I’m gonna gain strength or not it might sound stupid but I would really appreciate if anyone have some advice

Submitted 2026-09-11T07:31:43Z by Cool_Necessary9679 https://ift.tt/3d56WDB

How to build strong mind to be able to read about tough things

Reading about gang crimes and how big it is in my country and how brown peole kill other brown people in my country. Made me very frustrated afraid and unsure. Mostly in regards to innocent cases that got caught and the perpetrators never get punished or convicted even if police know who did it. It jsut makes me realize how injustice the world is and people get away with it and idk if there is a god and it’s a hard reality to deal with makes me fear for my brothers too when they go out. All in all I feel it makes me have a weak mind that can’t handle rough topics. Sure I could keep away from it but it’s part of the world and reality and rather learn how to strengh my mind to be able to handle it so any advice ?

Submitted 2026-09-10T22:54:49Z by Ok_Drummer6347 https://ift.tt/KphlkFz

Tried to see if I would survive being attacked with a knife

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Jf22mrO5pdU&t=7s

Submitted 2026-09-10T15:20:59Z by StatusAd3357 https://ift.tt/arEJQV3

What self-defense skill actually saved you in real life?

If you have ever been cornered or attacked, what specific skill or technique kept you safe?

Submitted 2026-09-09T15:01:31Z by makemestand https://ift.tt/zwpHCkb

What would make a solid self-defense grappling... ruleset?

Been thinking about it lately, and I've realized every grappling martial art has some sort of issue regarding self defense. BJJ allows guard-pulling nonsense that'll get your skull caved in in a real fight, much of Judo doesn't work without a gi (+ the higher level Judokas pulling some magical BS just to not land on their back, meaning they could easily break an arm) and wrestling forgets that fights don't stop the moment you hold someone for a couple seconds, they're still gonna be fighting back and trying to bash your skull. So... what is there to do?

(In fairness, this's coming from a dude who's got minimal experience in any of this so feel free to yell at me for being a major idiot. Also these're just ideas)

• Gi-less like wrestling (and some BJJ spots)
• Allows "strikes" (not full bore bashes to the head, more like playfighting strikes), 10 would-be solid strikes that AREN'T blocked mean a win for whoever did them. Notice how I said would-be solid, since I'm not including any weak "I'm in top closed guard, my opponent's pulled me close and I'm doing weak little nothing punches just to do SOMETHING" strikes
• Good self-defense tactics like pulling someone close while on bottom closed guard get rewarded, crappy ones like pulling guard or effectively offering your back get penalized.
• Takedowns VERY rewarded, but only if you end up on top
• Getting OUT / disengaging (not from standing) rewarded plenty
• Training in tight environments often since a lotta times you're not gonna have a ton of grappling space IRL
• Points awarded 3 seconds after the fact (ex. if you land a solid takedown and KEEP top for 3 seconds, points awarded, if it's immediately reversed, no go)

(Man do I sound like a bot lmao, but whatever, yell at me all you want like I said)

Submitted 2026-09-08T17:37:49Z by Lieutenant_Yeast https://ift.tt/H509MOP

A guy keeps trying to start on me at school what do I do?

This dumbass keeps trying to start a fight with me over literally nothing. Like I don’t even know him and haven’t done anything to him and he keeps pushing me in corridors and taunting me. The other day I pushed him back on the stairs and he tried to advance on me but I walked away. I have a feeling he’s gonna start a fight properly soon, and idk what more I can do apart from knocking him down. If push comes to shove it’s what it’s gonna have to happen, but I’m not sure what to do exactly. I’m a boxer but I don’t street fight or anything like that.

Submitted 2026-09-08T16:38:08Z by Particular-Syrup4617 https://ift.tt/ON4QsYd

How to modify pepperball gun

Sadly i live in a country we're self defense is illegal and without a real firearm licens i cant even own a pepperball or Ram gun withe more Power than 7,5 joul

So my question is: Is there a way to modify an 7,5 j pepperball gun so IT hast any real Power? And what model do i need for my Projekt I saw a gun withe 35 joul online but If i try to ship IT im gonna end Up on an terrorist watchlist :(

Pls Help a man thadts trying to Not get stabbed Like my homies.

Submitted 2026-09-08T10:09:20Z by Huge_Flow_9624 https://ift.tt/8FBJVd6

Apartment Building Self Defense

Hi all, i’m 21 years old living in a converted terrace house into multiple apartment units in London, UK.

My neighbour who lives below me is quite erratic, constant in and out all night, loud music, shouting and quite threatening behaviour. My other neighbour is a drug dealer.

Just wanted some ideas of self defense tools i can use in case something happens and someone with bad intentions comes knocking. I have a baseball bat, metal 28”. What else could i use people?

I am looking into martial arts training.

Cheers everyone :)

Submitted 2026-09-07T11:33:42Z by aviieeemoon https://ift.tt/fRmcbUy

Which martial art would you recommend for a smaller man?

I’m looking to become proficient in a martial art, primarily for self-defense, but I don’t know which one to choose. I was considering Krav Maga, BJJ, Judo, or Muay Thai, as there are schools for these near my home; I even thought about MMA classes, but the ones nearby seem more like conventional kickboxing classes.

Submitted 2026-09-06T16:38:56Z by Acceptable_Worth8817 https://ift.tt/ecsoGUB

I’m 5’11 195lbs mostly muscle. How helpful is my build a w/o training

As I said in the title I’m a 5’11” 195 lb man and probably somewhere around 13% body fat.

I‘m not the biggest guy around but not exactly a little dude either. Believe me, I know first had size is not everything, and neither is strength even. I have had my ass walloped in some scenarios by guys 6 inches shorter than me and 50 lbs lighter.

I have some boxing experience from when i was a teenager. I was in a league for about 2 years so I can still throw a decent punch and have good footwork.

But it’s been a while since then. I want to know how much of a defense my size is in and of itself.

I ask since I recently went out with my girl to a club. I went to grab her water at some point and as soon as a left a guy jumped on her and started grinding. I pushed him away, but he came back and started pressing at me, but I just acted like he doesn’t exist and eventually moved on to bother some other girls.

The guy waa probably 5’9” and maybe 165lbs but of a normal build. Not particularly strong or muscular looking. If he had started trying to fight me, what would that have looked like given size and strength alone if he wasn’t trained in anything.

Would I have kicked his ass? Would it basically be a crapshoot? Would I have probably won but only through a ton of effort?

As I said, I’d like to know the optics, given that we both have 0 experience

Submitted 2026-09-06T10:18:54Z by Appropriate_Hope_383 https://ift.tt/HC2s3aY

How do I deal with the freeze response?

A few weeks back, I was with a friend and he got into an argument with someone. I'm not going to into all the details of the incident.

This guy basically pushed my friend while he was standing in front of a store and my friend yelled at him, telling him that he should've given him time instead of grabbing his elbow and moving it. This guy came up front and it turned into an argument. He threatened my friend and I stood there like a bystander. Given that he's my friend I should have butted in and confronted him about threatening my friend. But I couldn't, in the moment my heart was beating fast and I felt scared. The only thing that was going through my mind was how I can escape the situation. My voice automatically went to a low pitch and I kept telling my friend to let it be. While he kept arguing with the guy.

I feel ashamed for being like this. For being so scared and getting a freeze response. I know this is part of my biology meant to keep me safe. But I just don't like how I lacked courage in those moments. As a guy it makes your guy friends lose respect for you. I did apologise to him later on and he was chill about it. But I just feel really ashamed.

I'm someone who grew up getting bullied and physically intimidated by people. I had never been able to confront people growing up and to think that I'm in the same place makes me feel horrible. Like I'm a loser.

I had really low confidence because of this and other reasons growing up. Now I lift weights, have a good physique, have some good amount of strength but still being so scared makes me feel like I'm still weak. That I never improved.

Submitted 2026-09-05T13:13:15Z by Awkward_Implement324 https://ift.tt/30R4OMC

Understand the difference

Ok team let's do a little bit of education.

Self defence is the act of protecting yourself from harm. This starts at preventing conflict. If someone is being problematic then you avoid them and move on. Hands on should only be used when evasion and retreat are not options and should be disengaged once an opening presents itself.

Trying to stand up to a bully is not self defense and is not a good idea. Any physical conflict has the potential to escalate beyond what you are prepared for. Injuries are also not a one size fits all type of thing. Even a small broken bone can create a potentially life threatening bleed and internal trauma is often left untreated in young people.

I promise you that your high school drama is not worth what can happen if a fight gets out of control. Walk away and be the better person.

Submitted 2026-09-05T12:33:49Z by AntOk4073 https://ift.tt/lCHKp6Q

Why is it that simply dropping into a fighting stance works?

I’m a small woman with a decade of martial arts experience. A hand full of times over the years I’ve had men invade my personal space, harass me and get aggressive. I responded by reflexively dropping into a fighting stance and they backed right off. Is it because I broke the script- they expected me to cower? Or is it something else? I realize it might look like escalation but they were already grabbing at me and crossing lines.

Submitted 2026-09-04T22:05:58Z by bad-at-everything- https://ift.tt/rUXAWQp

advice to fix paranoia of having potential conflicts with gangmembers

I seem have a lot of recent months or years. Always seeing them around at night reading the news how they Robb lr shoot people in Scandinavia. How they walk and look so intimidating and being able to call friends and large groups to back them up if they need it. And I compare to myself that I have no network or real friends or how to talk with people and make it into a relationship. I always keep having paranoia of potential conflicts, like what to do if one of them starts harrasing a family member or future partner and how I should respond. Or even just former street thugs who also have friends they can call to beat you up if conflict arise and me not having any friends I feel give me paranoia and I don’t know how to deal with . I’ look at myself as soft 0 tough skin quickly intimidated and scared. And in my head i imagine no one can screw with me and im tough when im not. Any advice from people who have experience so I can try fix my life a little

Submitted 2026-09-03T21:59:27Z by Ok_Drummer6347 https://ift.tt/WsNXACx

Need help in how to strategize during a defence scenario

How to know if someone's following you????

I've been a bit paranoid lately and I just need assurance

So that's why I'm on this page

And secondly what's the best everyday item that I can bring around with me that's best for self defense????

Submitted 2026-09-02T12:41:09Z by ThrowRAsemperfi6628 https://ift.tt/E3gt4OX

How do I stand still after getting pushed?

My classmate has been acting a jerk with me for a pretty long time. He has gone out with me for lunch and isn't like a bad bad guy , but he's getting more aggressive and really crosses the limits. Since yesterday he has been shoulder pushing and I do get pushed and stumbled sometimes. Idk how to deescalate this he has been tryna have a friendly fight with me for the past 1 weeks. Any suggestions or advice on how to deal with this 🤔. Just to add on he acts extra tough in front of my female classmate , she doesn't like him.

Submitted 2026-09-02T07:11:25Z by artsypeace https://ift.tt/keuHUbD

Fighting someone much larger

Hello!! I recently found out from a friend of mine that one of my ex-friends has threatened to jump me many, many times at this point.

She’s 5’2 and 240+ lbs I think??

I’m 5’6 and 115. I’m slightly underweight but I workout a lot and as far as I know I have really good endurance.
She’s scrappy and has gotten into two fights as far as I know, And I haven’t been in any.

I would rather avoid a fight, but because she has a violent history and has made genuinely disgusting threats I would like to feel safe in my small town again.

Is there anything I can do to train at home? I thought about taking up some kind of martial art just to feel a bit better but I’m too poor to continuously afford classes. As I said I workout quite a bit so I’m willing to include training into my routine. (Mods I’m aware training pre-ludes to starting a fight but I genuinely just want to feel safe and would not be starting anything.)

Submitted 2026-09-01T22:19:41Z by Rough-Classroom-5930 https://ift.tt/MGPO1fd

Question what type person I should be if I see others in trouble ?

As a taxi driver I had a weird client in uber that spoke only English and Eastern European, it was a long ride she looked very tired or exhausted and breathing heavry dunno if sickness. Someone had ordered uber for her and he was waiting in the car right at the crossing to a main route and behind him a big apartment complex for others , she says he is with him and steps out and goes into the car and after a little the drive off. This felt very unusual the guy looked a little buffed as 50 year olding looking and it just felt like potential human trafficking case with forced labor.

But my main question is in regards if you in your life see someone in trouble and the one who does the violence looks like gang member or someone in organized crime what should you do I don’t want to let them do what they want but I understand this world mostly sucks bad peolle often remain in top and it’s a big risk to step in and risk getting hurt or ended or targeted later for intervening. I know it’s rare likely but a lot of human trafficking and other stuff is happing in shadows. Some good influences who don’t post much ego sometime say they believe men or they themselves would be willing to risk their life for others if they ever see it. But I feel scared generally and wondering what you guys in your own life and to this question think about it.

Submitted 2026-08-31T22:49:25Z by Ok_Drummer6347 https://ift.tt/BOdvFa0

Self defense for adolescents that are busy?

My kid is nearing teen years and is rather busy with school, competitive dance and other activities. I’m wondering if there is anything for them to learn any techniques without committing to doing something weekly for years? They got a pretty solid base with core and arm/leg strength because at dance there is a lot of conditioning and strengthening but afraid that kiddo doesn’t know how to stand up for self.

Thank you.

Submitted 2026-08-31T04:48:50Z by RaulDukes https://ift.tt/C23JA1F

What are some good self defense techniques?

Hi guys so I’m lwk weak asf, almost everytime I get into a fight with my little brother it ends up physical and I end up with alot of bruises, I don’t know how to fight well, I know I’m the older sibling and I should know how but I js don’t😢any advice accepted

Submitted 2026-08-31T03:34:18Z by moidmanipulator67 https://ift.tt/IXOoPpD

Self defense tip: Put a sock on the end of a baseball bat

Then if you ever need to defend yourself and someone grabs the end of the bat, all they'll get is the sock.

Submitted 2026-08-30T18:02:49Z by ThundergunTLP https://ift.tt/cha85yK

Is BJJ actually good for self defense or is it overhyped?

Compared to things like wrestling, judo, striking.

Submitted 2026-08-30T02:51:09Z by North_Indication2898 https://ift.tt/MhwJfgQ

Please help: best advice for a 16 year old girl in CA to-from school

Our high school aged daughter has a stalker. She began noticing him yesterday, walking home from high school. Today, he followed her in such an obvious and creepy manner that 3 complete strangers pulled over to warn her that he was following her. He made 3 u-turns to stalk her today.

We are in California, and this is happening on her walk home from school. Police are now aware, but we also want to ensure her safety when our work won’t allow us to escort her home from school

Here are our Ca problems:
- The school prohibits pepper spray. (I am going to push for her to be allowed to store pepper spray in the office because this creep is following her).

- Any weapon options that a 16 year old can have in CA? (ccw age is 21)

- recommendations on personal alarms or sound devices?

We are enrolling her in “model mugging”, now that we understand the dangers. I am so upset with myself we didn’t work on personal safety sooner because she’s so tiny - and she was so unaware (wearing headphones, didn’t recognize the danger which was so onvious and concerning that strangers were interfering, she didn’t understand to use her phone, was too afraid to take photo, etc)

Thank you.

Submitted 2026-08-29T01:24:05Z by glorificent https://ift.tt/VzUhiTW

i live in canada , anything i do in self defence will put me in jail.

can’t have a m@c3, no f1r3arm5, if someone enters my home and i knock them out i’ll go to jail .

do i just like surrender my life

Submitted 2026-08-28T06:22:43Z by Fit_Economist_9936 https://ift.tt/sw4dYES

Are daggers any good for self defense?

The reason I like the idea of having one for self defense is that since the blade is longer, it means I have more reach so I don’t have to get as close to my attacker.

Submitted 2026-08-27T16:03:00Z by Fabulous-Introvert https://ift.tt/rTEWhd5

Strong man self defense tips

I am a very strong 240 lbs powerlifter (405/600/700 for anyone this means anything to).

I had a confrontation where I accidentally turned off a bathroom light on a drunk guy (for a single second before turning it back on). The man cornered me before his buddies got involved and pulled him away. It had me thinking - As an untrained strong man, what would be the best way for me to defend myself / my family if running weren't an option?

I feel like these "Looking for a fight" types generally will outclass me by a large margin as a striker and my mass would make me tire quickly. I was thinking of tackling/wrestling/bear hugging?

Submitted 2026-08-26T20:04:32Z by MuffinFit https://ift.tt/ov8FwmI

Small vulnerable woman in a sketchy living situation

I am a small, young woman, whom to everyone I come across looks like I'm about 13 apparently. I live in a very crime filled apartment complex. There is a lot of drug activity, some violence, attempted break-ins, theft, even sexual assaults. I am looking for good ways to protect myself, and definitely to deter others, both while inside my apartment and out and about in the complex. I currently need some physical therapy etc. so cannot take self defense classes, though I do carry pepper spray and a small knife.

Submitted 2026-08-26T17:08:31Z by OwnIndependence1852 https://ift.tt/atz0hnq

Bedroom door lock- any recommendations?

Live with roommates who disregard basic safety and don’t give af to lock the front or backyard door, even after constantly telling them to do so. One of the roommates (35M) has tons (over 40) firearms just sprawled all about the living room unlocked with the curtains wide open so anyone outside can see them. Can’t move out due to not being financially stable yet.

My bf does have firearms secured in our bedroom which does make me feel safe in a way but not really, but I’m always having to get up multiple times at night just to lock the front and backyard sliding door due to my roommate (22F) being dumb as rocks. I can’t even go into the house by myself anymore because they’re never locked and I have to wait for my bf to get home before we go inside. An unlocked door was an invitation to come in by the night stalker. I have trauma from being assaulted and this living situation isn’t great for my well being.

The town we live in has a 60% higher than national average for crime, break ins especially, and this stresses me out so much(we live in SoCal). The doors to the home we are renting are very flimsy/weak and all we have for our bedroom door is a keyed lever handle and it’s not enough for my peace of mind. I am not on the lease but my bf is, yet the other roommates won’t bother to listen to our concerns over this.

I(29F) am 5’2” 145 lbs and I’m physically disabled so I can’t even do anything if someone does break in.

Does anyone have any recommendations for a door block to put inside of our bedroom? Changing the door to be a more durable (?) one isn’t allowed on the lease.

Submitted 2026-08-26T12:35:18Z by wtfRichard1 https://ift.tt/ivopl8W

What's better for self defence?: Boxing or MMA.

I'm 22 and lean, trying to gain some weight and wanting to learn to protect myself. What would be the better path to follow.

TIA

Submitted 2026-08-26T04:20:53Z by Leaked_Gore https://ift.tt/BK8Dzcu

What are the best Marital Arts to learn for Self Defense?

I am interested in getting into Martial Arts mostly because I want to get more exercise and go out and meet people. Tho another factor is I would like to learn to protect myself in IRL situations. I've been put in a few scenarios where I've been threatened and thankfully nothing came of it but that was usually due to the intervention of a third party.

Submitted 2026-08-23T20:53:30Z by waldorsockbat https://ift.tt/Eenu1XM

How to act classy yet imposing against a drunken brawler?

The other night I was at a friend's birthday in a beautiful village in Spain. There was a local celebration with music and art shows, and we were sitting on a bar terrace around midnight. I was tired but in a good mood.

A drunk guy came over asking for a lighter. I told him I didn't have one, and he replied something like, "I'd only accept a lighter from a lady anyway." I jokingly said, "Well, nobody's going to give you one anyway."

He immediately got closer and started insulting me—telling me I should shoot myself, get out of this world, that I was uneducated, that I didn't use my brain, etc. I hadn't really said anything to him beyond that first comment. My friends were talking among themselves and didn't really notice what was happening.

I was confused because his aggression was intense enough that I started wondering whether I was justified in physically defending myself if he attacked. At the same time, I didn't want some drunk stranger to ruin my night. Looking back, I wonder if my first response was a mistake. Maybe if I'd simply ignored him, he would've walked away.

Instead, I let him talk for a while and eventually decided to ignore him. He then moved on to my female friend, bothering her, kissing her hand and asking her for a cigarette while she was clearly uncomfortable. I still didn't intervene physically.

Eventually he left. Nothing happened, but I had a huge adrenaline spike during the confrontation and felt strangely defeated afterwards. The next day I realized how much the encounter had affected me. I had let some random drunk guy get inside my head and ruin my mood.

I'm still unsure what the right approach was. Maybe the best option was to ignore him from the very beginning. But once he was already in my space and bothering my friend, part of me felt I should have imposed myself more firmly and told him to leave. The problem was that I didn't want things to become physical and I was afraid of it.

A year ago I had a similar situation with another drunk guy, and I felt confident enough to stand my ground until he backed off. This time the guy seemed much more willing to fight and I was also more tired to be imposing.

So, what would you have done? Would you have ignored him from the start? At what point do you think ignoring someone stops being the right response? And for situations like this, what martial art would you recommend—especially something focused on controlling or neutralizing someone rather than just punching them? How to act classy yet imposing in such scenario? What can I do now to feel better about myself?

Submitted 2026-08-23T10:02:08Z by Mansohorizonte https://ift.tt/ni0oZvd

Do martial arts develop aggression… or control it?

I often see a common idea in martial arts discussions:

that you need to become “more aggressive” to be effective in self-defense.

But in my experience (teaching and training in silat/kali), it’s almost the opposite.

Aggression and violence are not the same thing:

- aggression can be a useful energy

- but violence is often loss of control

Most traditional systems don’t try to increase aggression,

they try to channel it — so you can act without panic under pressure.

I wrote a short article about this (with a bit more nuance):

https://gelanggangpenditabunian.blogspot.com/2025/05/violence-agressivite-developper-ou.html

Curious to hear your take:

Do you train to become more aggressive, or more controlled?

Submitted 2026-08-22T07:56:40Z by PenditaBunian https://ift.tt/zPOhNbo

Restrictions on Pepper Spray - 1.25 to 3 OZ

I recently purchased a 3 OZ container of some powerful pepper spray, and I felt safer than I ever have before. I even bought another one, which was more of a cone fog rather than a stream for certain environments.

While looking at the products and doing more research, I noticed my city only allows people to carry 1.25 oz of pepper spray.

Even before I was serious about carrying pepper spray on a daily basis, I had one that was 1.8-oz and did not have the slightest clue that what I was doing was illegal, since the majority of pepper spray on Amazon is over 1.25-oz, and it seems the most popular ones under 1.25 oz are the Saber 0.75-oz containers.

I feel awful about this since it seemed, other than a firearm, that the pepper spray I thought I could carry is now illegal, and I have to resort to lesser-grade and shorter-lasting products to replace the ones I have.

It seems the topic has rarely been addressed, and I was wondering if anyone has experience carrying a container of pepper spray over the legally justified amount, or if I should get rid of the ones I have?

The rule seems ridiculous since most people attempting to defend themselves may want a larger container. I wonder how the use of a 3-oz container would be viewed in court if it is legally justified.

Submitted 2026-08-22T05:40:00Z by ManaPaws17 https://ift.tt/FqVWauT

How come many people see the man who got kicked did the right thing?

Context: this video

https://x.com/AltRightEspan/status/2089733087538126899

Some say the man is weak for not returning the kick back , some say he did the right thing. For me , I think he did one simple mistake. Turning his back on the aggressor. I would never turn my back in any verbal altercations. Unless I can make a good space between me and the guy, or we settled it down by apologising and moving on. Turning me back give him an opportunity. Yet , this is weird. The guy kicked you and the other guy didn't do a thing. How is that the right thing? Watching this video boiled my blood , I felt I wanna grab the guy and fucking eat him alive. When should we fight really? I know physical fights have consequences. And we shouldn't fight , but even here??? At least hit him in the balls . Do something. But again , the whole thing should have been avoided from the start by apologising and smiling and moving on. That is the bigger guy

Submitted 2026-08-21T22:37:07Z by ProcedureFar4995 https://ift.tt/8aATyol

Self defense against machete (simulation)

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Submitted 2026-08-21T21:46:44Z by KookyBar4723 https://ift.tt/BKtdhO5

Groin kicks as self defense- not a good idea?

/r/martialarts/comments/1vttamh/groin_kicks_as_self_defense_not_a_good_idea/

Submitted 2026-08-21T06:32:40Z by apokrif1 https://ift.tt/jeIMtTh

Hoodini holsters

Has anyone tried these? And are they any good?

I'm looking for something that I can pull my S&W m&p 9mm quickly.

If you guys have any recommendations... I'd greatly appreciate it.

Submitted 2026-08-20T00:47:05Z by InternetOk7753 https://ift.tt/zk93ElM

Did i handle this like a coward?

I'm 26M and something happened tonight that I can't stop thinking about. I want completely honest opinions, even if you think I handled it badly. I'm not looking for people to tell me "you did nothing wrong" just to make me feel better.

I'm seeing this girl. We're not in a serious relationship and I've only known her for a relatively short time. Tonight we were sitting outside her apartment building talking for a few hours. Her 20-year-old younger sister and 12-year-old younger brother were also outside, around 20 meters away from us.

At some point, three guys came over and started hitting her younger sister.

The girl I was with and I immediately started walking towards her. I was thinking about getting involved, but there were three guys and I was alone. I didn't know who they were, whether they were drunk, whether any of them had a weapon, etc. So I turned around to get my phone and call emergency services.

The girl I was with kept walking towards her sister and got to the entrance of the building. I followed her and called emergency services. The operator kept asking me questions like who was attacking her, why they were attacking her, etc. I honestly didn't know any of that. I just knew I had seen three guys hitting a girl. Eventually the girl got inside the building, so I told the operator that she was safe inside and ended the call.

The guys then started coming toward me and yelling things like "Who the fuck are you?" and "Come here, motherfucker." I went inside the building and shut the door.

A few minutes later, everyone was together in the entrance: the girl, her sister, their brother, grandmother, etc.

The grandmother, for whatever reason, decided to come out with a broom and threaten the guys that she would call the police. One of the guys walked past her, the other two stayed at the open door.

Then the weirdest part started.

The one that walked past everyone went straight to the girl I was with, put his hand on her shoulder and asked if she was okay. She didn't seem particularly scared of him and didn't push him away. As she nodded, the grandma started screaming to the guy that she didn't want anything to do with him anymore or something alongside those lines. He was holding himself and i could see it. I grabbed his arm, told him to calm down as lashing towards the grandma wasn't a good idea. As soon as i finished that, the other two guys pulled me out of the block by the arm. One of them was giving me a handshake, the other one was walking very close behind him.

They started asking what my "F*cking deal was. Who did I think i was, that they heard i acted like a big shot around here". That was the first time I've ever been in that area.

I basically told him:

"Look, I have nothing to do with this. I'm with her sister. I just came here to see her. I'm not involved in whatever is going on."

He initially seemed aggressive, but after talking for a few minutes, he completely changed his attitude. He started telling me I was cool and that I had nothing to do with their problems.

At one point, all three guys were basically being friendly toward me. Two of them even kissed my hand several times, which was probably the weirdest thing I've ever experienced. Imagine Marlon Brando from the Godfather. That's the type of "kiss" I received. They had been drinking, so I assume that had something to do with it.

One of them told me that he had slept with both sisters multiple times and basically warned me not to get involved with them seriously. Not in a threatening way. More like "You're cool, bro, don't get yourself into this mess." The girl I was with later told me that this particular guy was "a mistake from her past," so at least that part of his story seems to check out.

At some point I started walking toward my car to leave. One of them called after me:

"Bro, come back for a little bit. We don't want to run after you, we just want to talk."

And I actually went back.

This is one of the parts I'm questioning the most. I could have just kept walking. I knew I could get to my car before they caught me. But I was curious about what they wanted, so I went back and talked to them.

Everything ended peacefully. Nobody touched me and I left completely unharmed.

But throughout basically the entire situation my heart was racing like crazy. During the actual confrontation I didn't really notice it, but once I was walking away from the situation, my hands started shaking. Even 15-20 minutes later I was still somewhat shaky.

And that's what bothered me the most.

I don't consider myself a violent person. I don't start fights and I have absolutely no interest in proving myself by fighting random people. But I also don't feel physically competent at all, and this situation made that very obvious to me.

I keep thinking: what happens if something like this happens again, but it's someone I actually love? What if it's my future wife or child? Would I be able to act?

I didn't want to fight three guys. I know that's stupid. I just wanted to know whether my reaction was reasonable or whether I psychologically folded the moment I saw three people.

For context, I've actually had a pretty bad experience with something similar in the past.

About six years ago, when I was 20, I had a girlfriend who lived in another city about 50 km away. She had a friend who was about 15 years older than us. He was gay and had a big group of male friends.

One night my girlfriend wanted us to go to his house, have some drinks and sleep there. Every part of me was telling me not to go. I didn't want to be there at all. I kept refusing, but she eventually convinced me because she was my first girlfriend.

We went there. There were around 10 guys there. I wasn't drinking and wasn't causing any problems, but some of them were watching me and I could tell the atmosphere was strange.

Around 1 AM I told my girlfriend we should leave. She didn't want to, so eventually we started walking.

As I was putting my shoes on, one of the guys came into the hallway and started calling me a "big shot" and saying he was going to beat my ass. I pushed him away twice because he was getting in my face, but I didn't punch him. I told him to back off because I wasn't interested in fighting.

We left.

About five minutes later, two guys followed us. One was around 40 kg heavier than me and the other was significantly taller.

They knocked me to the ground and kicked me for probably around a minute. I couldn't really fight back because I was on the ground. I tried to flag down a taxi but it didn't stop.

Eventually I made it back to my girlfriend's house.

Then around 4 AM, her mother woke us up screaming that my car was on fire.

Someone had poured gasoline next to my car and set it on fire. Luckily the car itself wasn't burned, but it was clearly meant as a warning.

That experience taught me to trust my instincts. Ever since then, I've avoided situations where something in my head tells me "don't fucking go there."

Which is why tonight was so strange to me.

The moment I saw three guys attacking the girl, my instinct was basically "get the phone and call for help." I didn't want to jump into a 1v3 against unknown, possibly drunk men.

I still feel conflicted about that.

Part of me thinks I handled it correctly because I avoided escalating a potentially dangerous situation, got emergency services involved and ultimately got everyone out safely.

Another part of me thinks I'm psychologically weak because my first instinct wasn't to physically intervene.

I also felt like the girl I was with might have been disappointed in me. She apologized to me several times afterward, and she asked me to stay in contact while I was leaving for the UK soon. I told her I didn't want her waiting for me because I don't want to promise her a relationship I can't give her.

I'm not interested in getting into a serious relationship with her. I like her and she's attractive, but I don't want to become involved in whatever is going on around her family.

So my questions are:

Did I actually handle tonight reasonably, or did I act like a coward?

Was going back when those three guys called me over a stupid decision?

Is the shaking/adrenaline response normal, or does it say something about my ability to handle danger?

And most importantly, if I genuinely want to become more physically and psychologically capable of protecting myself and people close to me, what would you recommend?

I'm planning to start boxing when I move to the UK. I don't want to become some guy looking for fights. I just want to be competent enough that if violence becomes unavoidable, I don't completely freeze.

I'm genuinely interested in hearing both sides. If you think I handled it well, tell me why. If you think I was a coward, tell me why. Just don't sugarcoat it.

Submitted 2026-08-19T22:29:31Z by KKKirilow https://ift.tt/eORyhHb

Pregunta sobre los bastones extensibles

Tengo preguntas para las personas que tengan experiencia usando bastón extensible.

1. ¿El bastón es frágil al golpear? Al ser extensible me da la impresión que al golpear se dobla por ser hueco.

2. ¿Hay marcas de este tipo de bastones? Y si las hay, ¿Cuales son las más cómodas y útiles (menos frágil)?

3. ¿Como reconozco un bastón extensible que es de mala calidad y no me va a servir para defenderme? (que se doble al primer golpe)

Submitted 2026-08-17T19:11:46Z by 0AnonimoAnonimo0 https://ift.tt/XiZjVKe

Soy mujer y mis padres me ven débil

Soy una mujer de 23 años que se cansó de que los hombres la acosen y la toquen en la calle, así que empecé a hacer pesas y a practicar kendo. El problema es encontrarme con personas con armas. Vivo en un país donde roban mucho con armas y ahí no puedo hacer nada. Hablando con mis padres salió el tema de que necesito gas pimienta y otros elementos que las reglas de esta comunidad no me deja mencionar, ellos empezaron a decir que yo no necesito esas cosas porque soy mujer y soy muy débil para defenderme, así que no me van a servir para nada. La cosa es que siempre, ellos me enseñaron a jamas defenderme ni física ni verbalmente. Toda mi vida fui a una escuela religiosa donde ahí y mis padres siempre me enseñaron a que tengo que aceptar ser maltratada. Lo peor, es que mido 1.70 pero todos piensan que soy menor de edad porque mi voz es de una niña de 12 años. No vine a pedir consejos ni nada por el estilo, solo necesito desahogarme porque no tengo a nadie con quien hablar además de mi pareja.

Submitted 2026-08-17T18:19:32Z by 0AnonimoAnonimo0 https://ift.tt/yKRBNnO

What’s the most lethal pepper spray out there?

I want the strongest one, I really liked Fox Labs 1.4, but the only store that sells it in Brazil is completely sold out, so can you recommend any others guys? I want the most powerful one plz that will cause the most damage, pain and suffering to the victim

Submitted 2026-08-17T16:23:22Z by UniqueAlps9380 https://ift.tt/Y76m3qT

Is this a good self defense?

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Submitted 2026-08-17T07:59:37Z by SternKill https://ift.tt/N8VEXGs

Thoughts on less lethal?

For context I carry a firearm whenever I'm not at work, as my job doesn't allow them, but I am shit scared I would ever have to use it. Although lets say I am in conflict at some point, may that be at work or if I'm out with the gun on me. I live in a "duty to retreat" state and have no problem running away if need be as apposed to shooting someone and having to prove my innocence. Also the law in my state says you must match the level of threat in order to "legally" defend yourself. So what do y'all think about less lethal options? Tasers and OC spray/gel stuff like that. On it's surface it doesn't sound like a bad idea to carry lethal and less lethal because lets say I'm in a conflict where I can't get away, if someone is charging at me with a knife or god forbid they have a gun I'm gonna shoot them, but if they are trying to fight me, I don't wanna kill them nor do I think it would hold up in court. Not asking for recommendations, just what y'all think.

Submitted 2026-08-17T02:46:02Z by CodyT_556 https://ift.tt/UPRaBQd

Best self defense knife on the market ?

https://ift.tt/L1gOrBe

Submitted 2026-08-16T13:40:29Z by KingGlizzyYSL https://ift.tt/oj2Flz6

Karate vs Kickboxing for self defense?

Hi!

Recently i'm having a dispute in my head regarding which option is better for a street self defense scenario. I have been attending this special self defense karate dojo for a while and I love it. It is Shotokan based, practices a lot of Kata, as well as applying Kata movements to a self defense situation, joint locks etc. The instructors themselves are former police officers so I assume they know their stuff when it comes to actual self defense. They also drill striking combinations as well as some throwdowns. Training overall is very fun, the community is great and there are lots of people attending. So far so good right? My problem with this dojo however is that there is almost no real sparring and realistic drills for applying those methods. Its all mostly scripted and choreographed. Like do these 3 punches and the other guy deflects and counters in this way. I did some light sparrings 2-3 times when the dojo was preparing for a competition.

Kickboxing on the other hand is straight to the point practical. Body conditioning - drills - sparring. I just miss the traditional aspect, which it lacks. In a real street fight scenario you dont have time to think about complicated joint locks and blocks, your mind reverts to the most basic movements you know, unless you drilled those complicated moves for years and years and your opponent is drunk or highly incompetent in fighting. Overall I have seen kickboxers perform really well against ''street thugs''.

Now don't get me wrong, I know Karate is applicable in real fighting, there are many traditional practitioners that participate in Karate Combat like Rafael Aghayev for example but his gym focuses on preparing for full-contact competitions while retaining the traditional aspect of the martial art but unfortunately I dont think a gym like that exists where I live. My trainers always say ''here we develop the mind, not brute force, boxing and kickboxing is a sport, you dont wear big gloves on the street.'' Ok thats fine but in order to apply the techniques you teach me there should be more realistic practice, right?

Which would you pick if you were in my shoes?

Submitted 2026-08-15T12:34:53Z by Blood_Knight1523 https://ift.tt/jC675ug

Would this work

https://ift.tt/IdfirYl

Submitted 2026-08-14T19:53:21Z by Akthesmasher10 https://ift.tt/lpSErFj

How can I carry pepper spray?

Recently started carrying a small bottle of Sabre pepper spray. It sports a Twist safety and I don't know if I should carry it in my pocket. I sometimes carry a backpack, but it wouldn't do much good in there lol, any ideas?

Submitted August 11, 2026 at 10:00PM by Chibi_Radio https://ift.tt/xuYL5lz

I armed myself following several altercations this year.

Hi everyone, I'm French—sorry if my English isn't perfect.

I'm 35, and I've almost never had issues with other people in France.

But things have changed over the last 2 or 3 years. Specifically since 2026, I've been confronted—perhaps 4 or f5 times—when I wasn't at fault, and I had to back down and leave the scene to prevent the situation from escalating.

It happened twice while driving, once with a neighbor, and once with a delivery driver.

The last incident was this past Sunday.

I never want to let myself be intimidated by anyone again.

This time, I decided to buy 3 "Guardian Angel 3" pepper spray units; I plan to keep one on me at all times.

Do you have any stories to share about this kind of device?

Have you ever used one?

Did a potential attacker back off at the sight of the spray canister?

What was your attacker armed with?

Thanks.

Submitted August 11, 2026 at 06:11PM by Adventurous-Date2988 https://ift.tt/w95Aazt

Self defence for women

So I am moving to prince George bc and if you know where that is then you know it’s a bit um sketchy. I’m moving because my long term bf got an amazing job there. But it’s camp work so he will be home for a week and working away for two. I need some tips for self defence because as of now I live in a tiny town and have never needed it in my house. I’m not ignorant so I want to be prepared. Any tips to secure my rental aswell as for my car and my self aswell?

Submitted August 11, 2026 at 02:43PM by Anxious-Lion-6143 https://ift.tt/9wioU0z

Was I about to be robbed or overreacting?

As a taxi driver I got s client who ordered a ride through a app normally we have 3 ways ( standard calling a taxi remain anonymous only with phonenumber , app with name , uber ) he ordered with app and had name on screen. So he is like those young thug looking but more chill( the type that maybe unsure about himself who ended the wrong way of life or crowd ) I drive him him mix way he says he has 500 and aka if I have change was unusual to pay now but I say ok and try look for change took me a while I told him I have 250 and can give 50 in coins but he said just keep the rest as tips. And rest of the ride was silent minding his business. When I’m there at a industry dark area his guys or group of 5-7 we’re waiting he said I could just stop here a bit of road before his pals spot and from there my eyes badly focus on 2 of his friends walking towards the car and I lost focus on the guy sitting in the car but he goes out says thx for the ride and then crosses the street and the 2 who are coming looks weirdly at him like huh and lifts hand like what. They all have the same clothes in my country it’s the type our thugs and violent people wear. Any idea if I’m overstessing or if it was maybe a robbery but the guy who I drove saw I didn’t have money lying around and changed his mind ? Or just something internal for them ?

I won’t lie I’m not used to that part of crown or dealing with that I am soft minded unfortunately haven’t. Ever been in a fight or gotten beaten so I’m slow to react or read the room and have no experience of knowledge to read these scenarios any advice for this without having to actually be in that life lol

Submitted August 10, 2026 at 05:50PM by Ok_Drummer6347 https://ift.tt/pzAcVfX

Stinger whip to fist aka monkeys fist

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Submitted August 10, 2026 at 03:10PM by klickklacker https://ift.tt/qOJfps3

Female who got attacked by 2 guys on stimulants.

Hi guys. So my brother wants to Revenge on this. Both guys are 25 yo, both ❄️ addicts. One knows boxing and wrestling and the other one knows kick box. They are known in town for picking fights. A few days ago they asked me if I have 10$ and I said no and the one who knows boxing punched me really hard in my jaw. Police won't do a thing. My Brother says he wants to start training something and give it a year or two. Then Revenge. How can he deal with a person who is constantly on stimulants? Also, how can I defend myself as a girl in this scenario? I wasn't expecting it at all and I don't know why he punched me. The issue is they aren't big but they sure know how to punch. I feel sad and my brother is pissed off. He wants to fight them and I know he will lose he never trained anything.

Submitted August 9, 2026 at 03:43PM by LanaNailed666 https://ift.tt/XjUPRFk

Defused an angry individual, feedback on managing scenario better?

I was 15 at the time of the incident, had like a season of wrestling experience and weighed 140 pounds. Me and my two buddies were at a hotel during a basketball tournament, and we were walking the hotel. Eventually we wandered too far off into the parking lot of some apartments/condos that neighbored the hotel. As we were walking, a man flies outside his door screaming profanities at us, telling us to get off his property in a manner that was incredibly threatening. I was in the back of the group and didn’t really have anywhere to go, whereas my two buddies took off into the parking lot. I was left alone with this intoxicated, angry man much bigger than myself, so I knew fighting wasn’t an option. I made the mistake of bringing myself closer to him with my hands up in an attempt to calm him, but in retrospect that seems like a great way to get shot/attacked. Now me and the man are about 10-15 feet apart (I was on the sidewalk and he was halfway in his yard.) I’m talking to him clearly without sounding threatening, explaining that we were just from the hotel next door and had wandered off too far. Prior to us entering the area, some kids had run onto his property and harassed him/scared him, so his reaction was reasonable considering that he thought we were the same kids. He was still hot, but after I assured him we weren’t those kids and had just found ourselves over here, his demeanor changed and he apologized and told me to make sure nobody else came through that area later that night. I was pretty shook up after but I thought I handled the situation as well as I could and was glad I got out unscathed. I still wonder if just running and not trying to calm him would have been the right method, but at the end of the day nobody was hurt. let me know what you think and give me feedback for future situations if possible.

Submitted August 8, 2026 at 09:01PM by Specialist_Kick_8400 https://ift.tt/6WGPeri

Knife type and shape for self defense

Before anyone jumps in with "you shouldn't use a knife for self defense, you'd just be arming your opponent", I already know that but I'm from a country that doesn't allow sprays or guns and if in a dire situation I assume I'd be better to at least try and have one than not, considering you'd be getting beaten to death anyway.

No I cannot outrun or right hook a man or a group of teenage boys. So, anything that can be easily carried around and would be effective against clothed individuals? Would a hunter's skinning knife do since I already have practice with it on animals?

Submitted August 8, 2026 at 12:12PM by TaisDoubt https://ift.tt/ZTtoF3y

I think I did well yesterday, however...

Long story short, I'm an average sized woman, and an aggressive, large man came into my work yesterday. He was showing all the hallmarks of agitation the entire time I had the distinct displeasure of interacting with him, and even tossed a threat in at the end as he walked out the door. I managed to diffuse the situation and nothing but feelings got hurt. Great, mission accomplished.

All that being said, I can't help but worry he's going to come back and follow through on those threats. I know it was all probably empty bluster and bravado because of his quite honestly shitty situation (a reservation had been moved to a different location, and I was the first to inform him of this), and once his issue was resolved, he probably chilled out and forgot about me. However, a part of me is worried he hasn't chilled out, and that he'll return to try to kill me.

I guess what I'm asking is what do I do if he does come back? And what are the odds that he might?

Edit: fixed typo

Submitted August 8, 2026 at 07:51AM by IzzyB00UwU https://ift.tt/z17UCvb

Thai advice on how to survive a mass shooting

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Submitted August 7, 2026 at 09:32AM by The_Flaneur_Films https://ift.tt/jDV207H

Size and Pain Tolerance

Maybe it sounds like a silly question with an obvious answer up front, but is there any correlation between how built someome is and how much of a beating they can take from any angle of looking at the idea? We all know movies for one like to ham up the concept of the seemingly indestructible brutish huge guy, and it seems the snap judgement is that a big person must be tough, but just how much truth is there to this idea, if any at all?

Submitted August 6, 2026 at 06:37AM by RamJamR https://ift.tt/OHLbUgr

Electric incapacitation shock on touch of hands devices

Is there any device which is fit into my shoes or leg and when i touch someone with my hands or just body parts and the other person who touched m me gets electric shock enough to not touch me again - also a switch is a must while being safe for me like those shock prank devices- if would be even more better if i would have a button for extra shock incase of murder or help in fight with gangsters etc btw i have seen them in reels , there is a earth wire connected to bottom of shoe

Submitted August 6, 2026 at 01:51AM by Wrong-Tap9306 https://ift.tt/iv6JODB

In boxing, should I treat the bag like it’s a real opponent?

Also, is there any reason why I shouldn’t do this? The reason I’ve noticed that this is hard sometimes is because I get worn out and my hits get slower when that happens. How do I continue to make them as fast as they were before?

Submitted August 5, 2026 at 04:37PM by Fabulous-Introvert https://ift.tt/IxmYsbv

Anyone used any of these weapons in a fight? How effective were they?

So I'm going to list off a bunch of weapons and I'm just kind of wondering. Has anyone ever used these in any fights and how effective were they?

Kubaton

Brass knuckles

Tactical pen

Any similar Force multipliers that would fall under the umbrella of some type of punching device, whether that be a lighter in your fist or a roll of nickels. Or any other self-defense keychain doohickey that supposedly multiplies your force when you're punching or hitting. Such as but not limited to the Munio self-defense keychain, baby tonfa key ring, crkt Williams defense key, And any others.

Sap or a blackjack

Nunchucks

Contact stun gun

Big flashlight such as a 2D cell to a 6D cell maglite flashlight

Smaller flashlight with a strobe setting

Rattan escrima stick

Expandable baton

Walking stick or cane

Unbreakable umbrella

That's all the ones I can think of right now. I would love to hear any and all stories.

Submitted August 4, 2026 at 07:39PM by jaime_lion https://ift.tt/jLhspI4

Trial coming soon what can I expect?

I think I start trial prep tomorrow with my attorney, my trial is in about a week for some really serious charges. what should I expect coming soon? I’ve never been in trouble and this is my first trial for self defense. What questions should I ask my attorney at the meeting?

Submitted August 4, 2026 at 06:36PM by PlumExotic7419 https://ift.tt/fLygeRK

Have you ever used a monkey fist in combat?

If so can we hear the story? How effective was the monkey fist?

Submitted August 4, 2026 at 04:38PM by klickklacker https://ift.tt/rZcqKit

Froze up and think I should have fought back

Few months ago I had a run in with someone who works next to my office, I was sitting down and dude was standing up and he started threatening me saying he was gonna beat the crap out of me, at first I didn’t bother but then I saw him putting his hand briefly in his pocket so I did my best to deescalate the situation because I didn’t know what he could have in his pocket. Well after that it turned out he wasn’t the thug he claimed to be and probably just took advantage of the fact I was sitting down and he’s at the least 20 years older (I was 26 at the time). Thing is I forgot the situation in a few days but now recently I’ve started to think about it again (he still works next to me and when I see him I wish he got in my face again to have an excuse to fight him) and can’t help but think I shoukd have just stood up and fought regardless if he had something in his pocket or not, so my question pretty much is how should I have handled it differently, if it was even possible

Submitted August 4, 2026 at 02:18AM by Salt_Stomach4998 https://ift.tt/f0TmEv8

Full Nelson Escape - Self Defense

https://youtube.com/shorts/06CtcTB4ffY?si=0SSNlV1wK7Y8nVJ6

Submitted August 3, 2026 at 10:43PM by Ok-Welcome-8818 https://ift.tt/xVpu1Lf

Best thing to stop an attacker?

I plan on carrying pepper spray no matter what but I also would like something else to to compliment it.

My focus is protecting my 2 toddler brothers when I take them outside if needed, running is not a good option because they arent fast enough so my best bet is atleast putting up a good enough fight if not winning it for their sake.

My first thought is a extendable baton since its impact can easily incapitate legs/arms/hands. But i also am skeptical because extending it will cost time in the interaction but id like to hear your suggestions and comments

Submitted August 1, 2026 at 06:14AM by iammoordi https://ift.tt/e1XfVDj

POM vs. SABRE Red?

My SABRE Pepper Gel expired, so I'm looking for a replacement to keep in my car.

I want the most effective option possible—something that can stop an attacker as quickly as possible. From what I've read, a spray/stream seems like a better choice than gel, but I'm open to hearing otherwise.

Is POM actually better than SABRE Red, or is it mostly marketing? If POM is the better pick, which version would you recommend?

Submitted July 30, 2026 at 10:15PM by Original_Row_6269 https://ift.tt/jvrbiCn

Silat effectiveness outside of the gym?

I studied Silat for a number of months only and while it was fun I was skeptical of effectiveness of a lot of the drills. I am curious on what others think of this art?

In BJJ even a child can quickly perform a takedown on me if I stand still and let it happen. Then thats only the beginning.

In Silat if a student was shorter or weighed less than me they would really struggle to pull a move off even if I stood still and let them step, push, pull and do whatever to manipulate my balance while I held in place.... then the drill would end after the move was performed.

Submitted July 30, 2026 at 04:45PM by BellInternational315 https://ift.tt/EMTAi1v

The decision logic behind jamming vs. angling off a straight punch

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Submitted July 30, 2026 at 01:52AM by Wangsmartialarts https://ift.tt/3BkaS4H

New Self Defense Book

Has anyone read Timeline of Self Defense by
King? I just got it and it is really diffrent… Not sure my opinion yet! It is a fun read. But very different from other books I have looked at. Just curious if anyone else has read it?

Submitted July 24, 2026 at 10:29PM by kunalavast https://ift.tt/sjqvMNW

Evade threats on streets - what’s the best way?

Faced a guy walking towards me and started shouting at around 50m distance. He moved his arm. I quickly scanned him and didn’t think he was a danger, more deranged, so I walked past him calmly.

In case he would have been a danger and I sense I must dash. How do I dash. Walking backwards? Walking on right lane, he’s moving towards me from the left. To my right brick wall. To my left open street.

What is the best option here to remove myself from his attack range?

I appreciate your help.

Submitted July 27, 2026 at 05:05PM by RoughMidnight8303 https://ift.tt/2oTDbFN

My bully keeps stealing my new stuff

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Submitted July 27, 2026 at 04:48AM by Eyekonickai https://ift.tt/Ujadfm2

Joined a self defence class and it starts Wednesday.

I’m a male. The class I joined teaches a variety of martial arts styles, such as Karate, Taekwondo, Krav Maga, BJJ, Judo and some Boxing.

What should I expect ? I’m an introvert so I’m a little nervous about meeting a bunch of new people. I don’t imagine we will have to talk much lol. The classes are one hour long.

Submitted July 26, 2026 at 11:20PM by JQuick72 https://ift.tt/Qbpse5X

Shield-and-counter drill — one beat vs. two beats

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Submitted July 25, 2026 at 11:53PM by Wangsmartialarts https://ift.tt/dvku0cC

could you contract HIV from biting a attacker if you draw blood

if you had to bite someone what is the risk of you getting a infection

Submitted May 4, 2026 at 02:30PM by Royal_Category_2628 https://ift.tt/yi6bH9V

What is the easiest martial art to learn at home?

I understand that things such as sparring are important but what is the simplest martial art to learn at home at least to some extent via shadow boxing, muscular training (push-ups, squats, etc).

Submitted July 23, 2026 at 08:02AM by Designer-Photo-8840 https://ift.tt/2jaJX6H

Based on these stats, how capable would I be in a fight?

Statistically, what do you think my chances are in an average one-on-one physical fight against a random man?
For context, I’m 5’7” and around 180 pounds, sometimes up to 185. My best mile is about 5:45. I’ve boxed for about 7 years, have a purple belt in Brazilian jiu-jitsu, and I’ve been active in sports and fitness most of my life.
How would you rate my overall “character build” or archetype in terms of fighting ability? Against the average adult man, what percentage of fights would you realistically expect me to win? And how would those odds change against different sizes and builds?

Submitted July 23, 2026 at 12:34AM by Obvious-Produce-9566 https://ift.tt/WnIG4i2

Can hit in the head in defense end in unintentional fatal outcome?

I couldn't add more characters in the title, so that is how I decided to write it – I am aware it is possible.

So hypothetically, if I get in a situation where I have to defend, myself or somebody else, and if the circumstances are so in which I decide to hit the person in the head (as people do in fights, which I hope I never run into, but hope is not enough), thinking about it, it worries me, what if the hit I do is fatal? That would definitely not be an intended outcome, but every other consideration seems illogical for one's own survival in a moment that it's endangered. Should I, in a life threatening situation, think on how hard should I hit an attacker, gauging the risk of it being fatal in such intense situation (with even then the risk existing)?

Also, this is my first time on this subreddit, while I can surely imagine other mitigations that are better, you can't expect an average person to possess such agility, coordination, knowledge and practice to be able to neutralize threat with no risk of causing more than harm as a by-product than an experienced professional. Most people would have to rely on their physical defense insticts, rather than face possibly fatal consequences themselves – it could even be the only theoretical defense as well (if fight is already initiated and you are hurt already, and you don't happen to have a black belt to professionally incapacitate a person, which raises a question - should you always resort to hitting less vital areas?)

I tried my best to not make this sound concerning, but be assured that this is just that one impulsive adrenaline inducing random thought that keeps me awake at night, a what-if scenario, and I can't get over what if my action of defense could cause them to die.

Submitted July 22, 2026 at 10:53PM by Icy-Routine-6933 https://ift.tt/dnO0kMJ