How can I develop bravery

I'm 23 years old and male.

I accept that I am prone to self loathing. I know that I am a coward who is utterly terrified of confrontation.

Whenever I have a confrontation with another man, I am so scared that I tremble and I despise myself for this.

I believe that I was kept away from conflict growing up and believe this is the underlying cause but it could also be genetic, at least to degree.

My question is, how do I change this? How do I develop the heart to be able to stand up for myself physically, should I need to. Above all, can any of this be done or will I be a coward for the rest of my life?

It prevents me from being happy inside of my relationships as I believe I'm unable to protect my relationship partner.

Thank you in advance.

Submitted March 31, 2026 at 09:07PM by Hevfuevdhc65639 https://ift.tt/h7ZO4kS

Caugth someone breaking in I let him go

Yesterday I walked into my appartment on the ground floor. When I got in there was a burglar standing right in front of me. I was flabbergasted he looked scared. I told him: who are you? Get out! I stepped back and he walked through the front door talking gibberish or a language I didn't understand. I still wasn't 100% realising what was going on. When he walked through the hallway towards the entrance door of the building I grabbed his arm out of instinct. I'm a judo blackbelt and have 4 years of boxing experience as well. Instead of throwing this guy to the ground or punching. I just let him go as he was looking anxiously at me and back at the door a couple times. He didn't steal anything right when he got inside I entered the room. I rang the police and my family. They also said why didn't you stop him at first. I don't know what to think about the situation I want to ask some people with self defense experience on how I handled this situation was I smart to not escelate or should i have stopped him? are there things i could have done differently. What should i know if this happens another time. He did have a chisel on him the investigators said which he tried to force the door open with. When he was standing in front of me he was only carrying his phone.

Submitted March 29, 2026 at 05:27PM by No_Formal_9210 https://ift.tt/VsFdl78

Homem tenta agredir mulher e SE DÁ MAL: a eficiência do chute baixo

https://youtube.com/shorts/V3z6ebDRZ3Q?si=KzZLZJyfJ074ZzuX

Submitted March 29, 2026 at 09:42PM by OpEsp01 https://ift.tt/O4Z3GLf

P E P P E R. S P R A Y.

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Submitted March 29, 2026 at 04:51PM by Proud-Resource4594 https://ift.tt/q9nYz2B

Is there benefit to sparring hard enough to drop you?

As in, learn to take a hit that hurts hard enough to collapse and get back up and keep going?

Submitted March 28, 2026 at 09:17PM by bad-at-everything- https://ift.tt/IY2y4p1

Mulher escapa de tentativa de estupro - NÃO espere para reagir

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Submitted March 28, 2026 at 07:11PM by OpEsp01 https://ift.tt/wZfRN7v

So I always been curious about this situation

If someone goes to body slam you in a street fight, while ur face to face, could you not just eye gauge them or elbow their face once they drop their hands to try and grab you??

Submitted March 28, 2026 at 07:03PM by Used_Construction577 https://ift.tt/pfmvDsJ

I Need A Suggestion

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Submitted March 27, 2026 at 08:15PM by impactdefense https://ift.tt/6oUi345

defend against dogs with tools that can be carried daily to work?

Of course, I don't carry guns/knives to work daily. I even want to take the metro, so I need to pass the security check.

Food is a good option against dogs, but I want to hurt it instead of feeding it.

'Umbrellas'/'tennis rackets' may work.

Spray is a thing, but it's a consumable. I want something reusable.

I want to know if there are any other easy-to-use tools?

Submitted March 27, 2026 at 08:07AM by iwarrior_xr https://ift.tt/b3eP2f0

What spray is this?

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Submitted March 26, 2026 at 03:27PM by RogueShadowUnit https://ift.tt/EFvqNDP

How to be safe in this situation

/r/SavetheNextGirl/comments/1s3rxz9/how_to_be_safe_in_this_situation/

Submitted March 25, 2026 at 09:01PM by George_ros4969 https://ift.tt/39sn8d6

Looking into boxing or martial arts which is better?

/r/amateur_boxing/comments/1s3jr6n/looking_for_something_to_make_me_more_athletic/

Submitted March 25, 2026 at 03:04PM by Dry_Cycle_6555 https://ift.tt/dlBYs6f

Tips for self defense with a chair

If you have a normal chair, those made of wood with a back support, how would you use it to defend yourself?

Submitted March 23, 2026 at 03:49AM by Kaze_Senshi https://ift.tt/pi3PVWq

Has anyone gotten beaten by a group before ?

Hi this thought came to me today and I’m just wondering seeing how life is tough and gangs are still up. I never have been beaten before and mostly stayed in the “ normal “ part of the life I know a few that talked about their experiences and I myself only had few altercations where that adrenaline came but it was ended fast without much real kicking or punching. But I am still that naive or how do you call never been through a fight or beat down. And I’m just don’t know what should I do if it ever happens, going into the inner city where both normal people and small gang people and big gang people hang I keep hearing stories in news and from people in my course who live in those ghetto areas about what they seen and how normal it is they even know who killed who and who killed Someone’s that police haven’t caught etc. I just wanted to ask how do people deal with being assaulted by a group or beaten up , because I would water likely go in a depression or struggle hard and jsut do police report and nothing happens , or maybe be tired of life trigger point and try find some of them and hurt them back possibly with knife in anger if the feeling of revenge gets over me. I find it hard to imagine and the anger of wanting to get back at them. But I wanted to ask from those of you who are older and maybe lived double the time and have gathered that life experience

Submitted March 22, 2026 at 02:03PM by Ok_Drummer6347 https://ift.tt/kpaJDL7

So In a setting that’s a room like or semi office type with one exit.

Regular build with 2 guys height is around 6 feet and other are 5 and half feet pretty regular guys but they operate in a gang.

No big or dangerous weapons in hand . I got a batton stick weapon . How should I go about the situation.

Submitted March 21, 2026 at 11:52AM by RoughCarry9919 https://ift.tt/YuAW4yO

HELP! I accidentally sprayed mace in my bedroom.

Sorry if I’m posting this to the wrong subreddit I’m kinda panicking.

Backstory: I was cleaning my bedroom today and went to return a can of mace to my family kitchen counter when I pressed down on the spray not realizing the safety was off (maybe for a max of 3 seconds). I stayed in the room long enough to put a fan in before spending the next 20 minutes flushing out my nose with saline and half n half (it was all I had) since it was mostly all inhaled and crying while my father laughed at me over the phone because it’s such a dumb situation. Anyways as I was walking to the bathroom I got the can out and put it on the counter and now it got moved to the table (I think my mom moved it, how screwed am I?). Eventually I went back after about 3 hours and took my fan out thinking it was okay before leaving to study. Then I went back to try and sleep (my bed is in front of my window where my fan was with my camera bag, clean cloth on it) but tested my sheets before laying down and I immediately started feeling the burn again. So now after washing the contaminated area I’m sleeping in my family room and I don’t know what to do. Help!

Questions:

- How do I re-clean my room, bedsheets, clothes, backpack, desk, and school supplies?

- And how long do I have to wait until I can be in my bedroom again?

- How long can mace stay on objects?

- How screwed am I?

Submitted March 19, 2026 at 07:59AM by RefrigeratorSudden11 https://ift.tt/2SKelO1

An anti-dog spray that doesn't harm dogs?

Hello!

Could you recommend me a spray that makes stray dogs retreat, without harming them too much? I live in Romania, so, if someone could recommend local brands, all the better, if not, I could also buy from outside the country.

Submitted March 19, 2026 at 04:50AM by Som3r4nd0mp3rs0n https://ift.tt/XDo6n7G

Pepper spray that will NOT FALL OFF from keys?

I’ve had two pepper sprays given to me by a friend (no idea what brand) and they’ve both fallen off my keychain (one had just the pepper pray itself fall out of the container, the other just unclipped from another plastic part it had)

Do you have any recs for any that will actually stay on my car keys??

Submitted March 17, 2026 at 05:27PM by natasharomanon https://ift.tt/ZLyHVoW

Serious advice only please

/r/TeenIndia/comments/1rw1iru/serious_advice_only_please/

Submitted March 17, 2026 at 05:40AM by Street-Support-3364 https://ift.tt/dyxtPVN

How do you protect a video from an aggressor?

One common piece of advice in self-defense situations is to start recording if something feels unsafe.

But I’ve always wondered about one thing: what actually stops the aggressor from just taking your phone and deleting the video?

If someone grabs your phone, breaks it, or forces you to unlock it, the evidence is basically gone.

Are there any good strategies for protecting recordings in situations like that?

For example:

• automatically uploading video somewhere
• streaming instead of recording locally
• some kind of remote backup

I’ve been thinking about this problem for a while and actually ended up building a small Android app that uploads the video to the cloud while you’re recording, so even if the phone is taken or destroyed the footage is already saved.

Not trying to advertise here — I’m genuinely curious what people here think about this problem and how you would handle it in a real self-defense situation.

Submitted March 16, 2026 at 04:22AM by KHTRE https://ift.tt/uUylH69

Should a 4'10 woman learn to fight or just get mace?

My girlfriend is 4'10 and she recently told me that she wants to take boxing classes so she can fight off bad guys. My initial reaction was to be supportive but I am kind of doubtful of this. I think it would be cool for her to learn boxing but I really dont see how it would help in a self defense situation because she is so tiny. I want to support her but I also dont want her to attempt to fight some guy instead of using mace because she takes boxing classes. Any advice is appreciated.

Submitted March 15, 2026 at 07:05PM by MintyRed19 https://ift.tt/nfQCZpA

Any techniques which are painful but harmless ?

Any techniques which are painful but harmless ?

Mostly for self defence (I get brutally bullied and have been since third grade)

Administration has been no use, cant switch and my mom's a teacher so I cant do anything without coming out

I Practice mma but in most altercations, anything I can do will lead to permanent damage or them losing consciousness

Idk if this is the right place to ask but are there any techniques which are painful but harmless ? They won't lead to permanent damage or visible damage for that matter but still are excruciating enough to keep them off me

Submitted March 14, 2026 at 02:58PM by Conscious_Back_1059 https://ift.tt/Eqmd6LN

I don’t get it? What would throwing golf balls do?

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Submitted March 14, 2026 at 08:16AM by bad-at-everything- https://ift.tt/7c9dhik

How to shop for tasers or stun-guns

I'm new to the idea of getting a taser or stun-gun. Where would I look to learn what factors make one model different from another and the reasons why people pick one over another?

Submitted March 13, 2026 at 09:09PM by Delvog https://ift.tt/5VkO4JH

Self defense technique need

Hi everyone

I train muay thai and bjj and thought i'd be safe because i'm not on the streets where violence happens, i'm safe in my cozy gym. Yeah... It got into 3 quarrels in broad daylight and were lucky. Despite in my country there are a lot of knife violence and like lunatics going beserk with knives killing innocents. I need a few reliable kombos/techniques to drill for defending against a knife with a blunt weapon. YouTube is full of stuff but i do not know who is selling BS and who is legit. Please don't ban me 🥺🥺🥺

Submitted March 11, 2026 at 02:38PM by Potential-Estate4058 https://ift.tt/lbyxP5G

Is this a worthwhile non lethal attachment for a home defense weapon?

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Submitted March 11, 2026 at 01:19PM by Green-thumb-gary https://ift.tt/rAXIPOJ

What self defense tools do you use?

What do you prefer ?And which brand do you prefer ?

Submitted March 10, 2026 at 06:46AM by Fluid-South7062 https://ift.tt/3vUwhNe

What type of shotgun should I get?

Plain and simple I’m 33 years old with a beautiful wife and two beautiful boys. Need a shotgun for self-defense might only use it one percent of my life, but if you had to pick and choose, which one are you taking? I keep hearing about what feels best in my hands.?

Submitted March 9, 2026 at 10:10PM by Equal_Government5444 https://ift.tt/DV2BzAh

Mitsubishi L200 Triton GLS pickup truck, 2.4 TD diesel 2024 B6 level

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Submitted March 8, 2026 at 09:11AM by BrazilianClassicCars https://ift.tt/aTsnWgI

Is martial arts worth it for self defense without hard sparring?

Hey guys, I've become highly interested in self defense after a scare taking a date through a racist town. I realize I don't have the luxury of lacking the capability to properly defend myself as a man, and have been working on remedying that.

I've spent the last 3 months purchasing and firing thousands of rounds through multiple guns. I've started carrying a concealed firearm daily and can draw, remove the safety and be on target in less than 2 seconds. Now I've also begun carrying pepper spray and Intend on using that by default. You know, that middle step between angry words and drawing a gun, but I do still feel lacking in terms of hand to hand defense.

I'm intending on enrolling in a martial art, but I refuse to do hard sparring. My father got dementia, and I spent the last 5 years taking care of him until his actual dying breath. I watched my pops lose everything, and I simply refuse to intentionally do any activity where someone will be repeatedly punching me in the head full force.

Would martial arts still be a good option for me? It's going to be self defense, but also more. Shooting has also become sort of a hobby for me. I intend to go to the range at least once every month and maybe buy a new gun once a year or so as a treat. But its super practical. I'm hoping martial arts can become something like that for me as well. But it needs to be practical. I need more than just additional fitness and a hobby. I need some practical self defense as well.

Submitted March 7, 2026 at 06:44PM by HumanAntagonist https://ift.tt/3Fnx0kN

Should we just assume that everyone has a gun these days?

Back in the day if someone got in your face, we just dealt with it using our fists. The world is so different now.

Submitted March 7, 2026 at 05:26PM by totally_depraved https://ift.tt/pCwSB0W

What do I do about teen boy groups screaming at me and my wife?

I live in the UK in a small town, and whenever me and my wife go out we are yelled at constantly, barked at and called ‘emo’ etc two incidents recently of us being yelled at in a dark walkway by a large group of them in the dark, and today one following on his bicycle screaming ‘fucking emo bitch’ at my wife. For context, we are not even emos, she was dressed in a more flowy white blouse and a black office skirt like any working woman, and I was dressed in jeans and a hoodie but usually I wear a formal black coat. I’ve also been harassed on my own while wearing a normal jacket and jumper. I genuinely don’t know what to do, and I’m scared. I know these boys are probably just doing it to scream, but I’m genuinely afraid to go out as I’m quite small, and I don’t know if it’s better to just ignore them and take it which makes me feel honestly humiliated for not defending my wife I feel so guilty, but I dont want to start an argument and worsen the altercation which I don’t want to be in. Is there any way to ward them off/what to do about them, because I walk everywhere and cannot drive and I’m so tired of it.

Submitted March 7, 2026 at 03:56PM by scummywretch1 https://ift.tt/ipdWkFD

Are cocky aggressors usually good fighters or not?

There's no shortage or people thinking they're badasses and you can tell by their demeanor. I never waste my time with these kind of people but its something I notice. I don't know if they've won some fights and think too highly of themselves or if they just think so regardless and don't know what they don't know and its the Dunning Kruger Effect. Just curious.

Submitted March 7, 2026 at 01:58AM by youlikethatsherrie https://ift.tt/Y5b37fs

What are Top Moves/Techniques Beginners Should Know?

I have been asked to "teach" a class about self-defense to a youth group (girls aged 11-17). An actual self-defense instructor was going to teach it, but they had to cancel. I guess I was asked to step in because they know I box, and a lot of the girls know and like me. (I used to be one of their advisors)

Realistically, I'll only have about 30-45 minutes (maybe less because not all the girls speak English fluently and we'll have to translate). I have gone to self-defense workshops before, but it's been a while. What are some moves I should study up on with a week to prepare? Given the limited time and attention of the girls, I want to demonstrate and teach techniques that are either the most universal, effective, essential, etc.

What moves should everyone, especially every beginner, know?

Submitted March 6, 2026 at 06:24PM by theWildWaffle-is-me https://ift.tt/RykMGc7

What are good home defense alternatives?

I grew up around guns, learned gun safety at a young age, and have felt safe around guns for as long as I can remember. Years before I knew my wife, she was a victim of gun violence. Thus, not at all cool with a gun in the house. I completely respect her feelings on the subject, and I don’t have a need or desire for guns, so it’s not a problem for us. However, I’ve often thought about alternatives for self defense. In a gun free home, what would you keep nearby for defense from intruders?

Submitted March 5, 2026 at 01:05AM by davescilken https://ift.tt/AK8ur6a

What martial arts should you learn for self defense?

The only reason why I would ever learn martial arts is because of self defense. I don't wanna look good or flex or anything. I just need to defend myself, while being injured the least and protect at the same time my wife. Thanks.

Submitted March 4, 2026 at 01:56PM by occidentalnat https://ift.tt/BxSeHNz

Which martial arts style would suit me?

I'm an ectomorph — very thin and tall. Right now, I'm trying to gain some mass, and in the near future, I want to get into martial arts, not for competition, but for self-defense. I've narrowed it down to Muay Thai and Jiu-Jitsu (in case the fight goes to the ground). Is this the right choice? What martial arts would you choose in my place?

Submitted March 4, 2026 at 11:28AM by JaiPris https://ift.tt/ekmTbgS

Solo hike self defense advice needed

Looking for advice. I am going on a solo hike this weekend. I’ve gone on solo hikes before, but I have PTSD and am worried to go alone without my dog. She’s getting older and it’s a 6.5 mile trail. What should I know about self defense? I am very small. Thank you.

Submitted March 2, 2026 at 07:32PM by Dizzy-Cabinet3895 https://ift.tt/YZvG8nw