Some context: I'm a 5'3, 110lb 20 year old with a baby face. I often get mistaken for being 16-18. Because of my baby face, it's also hard for me to look scary or mean.
To keep myself safe, I hold pepper spray and a taser at all times. I keep one weapon visible and the other hidden in my sleeve. All other devices and accessories are put away. I do not engage with any man, no matter the time of day. I also walk fast, stay alert, and look straight ahead.
The problem is, I am very frequently stopped by men, especially at night. Most of the time, they're hitting on me. Sometimes, though, it's a supposedly harmless request, like "do you have directions to xyz?" or "do you have the time?"
This infuriates me. I'm a visibly young, small woman walking ALONE AT NIGHT. Why do men think it's ok to come up to me!? It's astonishing how frequently this happens. In a bus or train full of people, they always come to ME. It's almost like they know they are scaring me and enjoy it. It feels like I'm being picked on because I'm visibly defenseless.
When this happens, I either completely ignore them or say no to their request. In response, the men continue to be persistent before eventually giving up. However, they then become visibly irritated or annoyed. No physical assaults or threats have come from this (yet), but it terrifies me nonetheless.
My question is, should I be threatening them with one of the weapons to scare them off, or will this end badly? I feel like saying "no, get away from me or I'll tase you" could work.
Or, do I continue doing what I'm doing, which always results in them being pissed? I'm extremely scared of retaliation and it seems like both options could put me in harm's way.
Any advice is appreciated.
Submitted November 9, 2026 at 03:49AM by june1441 https://ift.tt/Cx9QAas
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