I'm an active member of this community, just using a throwaway for privacy purposes.This happened in December, and I've been ruminating about it since. Landlord calls on a Thursday night at 7pm and says that he needs to get into my basement to change the UV water filter, and plans on doing it the next day after work (Friday). I tell him that this isn't a good time for me (was extremely busy with work) and ask if he could come Monday instead. This seemed to upset him a little bit, but he agrees to come Monday.I woke up to a flat tire Monday morning, so I called AAA because I knew I wasn't going to have time to change, it because the landlord was coming soon. The landlord pulls up with his friend who knows how to replace the UV filter and they go in my basement to change it.Shortly after another one of his friends pulls up, and they are all down in the basement talking. I now have 2 grown men in my house whom I have no idea who they are. UV filter installer friend leaves, and its just Landlord and friend #2. Landlord then says "Yeah I told my buddy to come by I want to show him all the renovations I did" I should've never consented to this, but I saw no problem with it as I have nothing to hide. I figured he would just take him into the kitchen and show him the cabinets and hardwood he did. Nope! he decides to walk through my entire fucking house with some guy I don't even know! Friend #2 also saw all the guns in my room and I have no idea who he is or if he will come back to steal them. Now I'm a bachelor in my mid twenties and not the cleanest guy in the world, but the only thing that was damaged was one of those crappy apartment grade bedroom doors that I took a chunk out of when I was moving a dresser (easily replaceable, probably 50 dollar door if that) he starts talking shit to me (with his buddy backing up everything hes saying) about dust,clutter,the hole in the door.I could understand if the place looked like an episode of hoarders, but the guy was freaking out about dust, and a hole in a cheap door. I then realized that he was getting revenge on me for making him wait for the UV filter, and was intentionally being an asshole. The 3 of us are now downstairs and he points at the stove with has maybe a quarter sized thing of grease on the front of it as I had just cooked a steak. He points to it and goes "See now that will ruin the stove!!!" I sarcastically go really? (knowing that hes an idiot, its stainless steel) As hes about to walk out the door he turns slow and stares me down with an evil look for a brief second. Just to give you a picture this guy is a 5'6 redneck typical short man syndrome lifted truck etc etc.We then go out into my driveway where the AAA guy is hooking up my car to tow (spares valve stem was corroded, couldn't put air in it lucky me). Landlord and friend #2 are standing at the top of the driveway talking and waiting for the AAA guy to leave so they can back their trucks out.Now I was bullied a lot as a kid, never beaten up cause I was always one of the biggest kids, but definitely verbal abuse because I lacked self-confidence and had social anxiety. I know the saying when you carry a gun you become the nicest person in the world,lose every argument etc...and I totally agree with that, but I do feel at some times its appropriate to put someone in their place if it doesn't lead to violence.AAA guy leaves and I walk up to Landlord and friend #2, and say "Hey Landlord, don't worry about the stove, if its ruined I'll just buy you a new one" kind of said that in a fuck you I have money type of way, but nothing too aggressive. He then goes "Yeah Throwawayccw54321, I know you're a bachelor, but its pretty bad in there" Then he starts walking towards his truck and halfway there turns around and goes in a more angry voice "I hope its cleaned up and the doors fixed when I come back in a few days to take the water sample!"Were about 10 feet apart at this point after he last spoke, with me just standing at the top of the driveway when I realize he is walking towards the passenger side of his truck. This is when all my alarms started going off. I know he has a pistol permit because when I was moving into the house my mom was talking about getting hers and he mentioned that he had one.He opens the passenger side of his truck, I can vaguely see him open the center console and grab something. Whatever instinct told me not to reach for my gun I'm so thankful for, because I felt that he was just puffing his chest (He has a wife and 3 kids ages 5-10 so hopefully he doesn't want to go to prison). He's now standing in between his open passenger side door on the opposite side of his truck to me (presumably with a pistol in hand im 99.9% sure) and yells in a confrontational redneck voice "What do you need me to do, come get your mommy to come clean it up!?!?!?!" This really pissed me the fuck off, and apparently my face instantly changed. Friend #2 even goes "omg his face!" after he said that backing up Landlord in picking on me.The reasons I didn't draw were that I was out in the middle of my driveway with absolutely no cover, I was carrying at 3:30 under a winter jacket and knew my draw would be slightly compromised...he also had the drop on me at this point. Also like I referenced above, something in my gut just told me he was puffing his chest and that if I did draw someone would actually die. I'm really really glad I didn't draw.After he yells out his final insult, I just shake my head and turn around and walk back inside, deescalating the situation. Told my parents who co-signed on the lease and they were absolutely furious. My mom also used to work in real-estate and told me that his surprise home inspection without 24 hour notice, especially with a third party was extremely illegal. We mentioned this to his wife, and she admitted what her husband did was illegal. We didn't mention the gun because most of my cameras are inside my house, and the only exterior camera was pointing at the drivers side of his truck...so it just looks he goes to his car to grab something...you can't tell if its a gun or not even though I know it was.3 days later I get a knock on my door and I'm like great here we go again with the little redneck psycho, but thank god it was his wife who showed up instead to take the water sample. She was extremely polite, looked at the house and said it wasn't bad. She also said that she told Landlord that its not illegal to have clutter and dust and there's nothing they can do about that...as long as its clean and the doors fixed when I move out.How do you think I should handle this? I'm moving out of this house in April. Is there any way I could take legal action even though I don't have proof of him pulling the gun? I should've called the police that day and told them he was menacing with a weapon, but I also didn't really want to have to move back into my parents house. I want to text this guy after I move out and basically tell him hes a fucking idiot and that NY isn't a stand your ground state and that he needs to get training, but all that will do is just re-escalate everything.Couple areas where I feel like I made a mistake...Walking back up to him and saying the "Don't worry about the stove, I'll buy you a new one" was dumb and was purely out of ego. It wasn't a threat but it was a passive-aggressive way of saying fuck you. I also realized after the fact that I had my hands in my pockets when I said that and he had just seen pistols in my bedroom, so maybe he thought I had my hand on a gun or something...granted it was open pea coat pockets that would be impossible to carry a gun in since they don't zip or button shut. Still it didn't give him the right to walk 15 feet away to his truck and get a gun and start hurling insults at me.Another area where I think I made a big mistake was not carrying what I usually carry. I had gotten a new holster for my Walther for hiking, and was carrying at 3 under a coat, where I daily carry all my other pistols at AIWB with a spare mag. So the closest I've ever had to come to drawing, and I was wearing a system I wasn't used to, and I didn't have my spare magazine.All in all I de-escalated a situation in which someone could of died, and I'm proud of myself for not drawing in that situation. I did make some mistakes though. How do you think I should handle this? Send him a PDF of article 35 NY penal law that explains the duty to retreat and say I think you need to read this? at the end of the day hes a hardheaded redneck I don't even think he'll read it. Should I get the authorities involved? I can't prove he pulled the gun, if I saw the gun and could describe it or had it on video I would be much more inclined to involve the police.Any advice would be greatly appreciated.TLDR: Landlord gets mad that I make him wait, comes over sees a damaged door and stove, presumably pulls a gun from the passenger side of his car and starts insulting me, I don't draw because I didn't technically see a gun, de-escalate and go back inside. Landlord leaves. via /r/CCW http://ift.tt/2I3JgDq
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