Hi CCW, not sure if this is the best place to post this but I figured that many of you are quite conscientious about self defense and you all might be able to give me some adviceTo make a long story short, my sister has been involved with a man I will call Mathew since before I was born. He has always been crazy and everyone who knows him knows it. He is the type of person that makes the hairs stand up on the back of your neck. He has always had problems with substance abuse, he is a pathological liar, and he has delusions of grandeur. He hates everyone and everything except my sister who he has always had an obsession with. They were high school sweethearts who eventually married and have had a nightmarish rocky relationship ever since. They have "broken up" multiple times due to his substance abuse and volatile behavior, but he always manages to comes back and she always excepts him back. She has had innumerable chances to end their relationship but she always comes back for one reason or another, generally because of the financial security and her innate laziness (all she does is smoke pot and sit on her ass day after day). Throughout their relationship he has said and done incredibly erratic things and has made vague threats that he justifies as "crude jokes because of his military life". He was kicked out of the army years ago for substance abuse. He has told his therapists multiple times that he is homicidal.The situation came to a head about a year ago when his drinking and pill abuse became too much. He and my sister were involved in a confrontation where she ended up in a headlock, which led to her leaving with the children and living with my mother. She always exasperates the situation by calling him to argue and scream over the phone, all the while continuing to take money from their joint bank account.Fast forward to now. I moved away to another state to get away from all the insanity and drama, and have happily started a new life. My sister decided that she wanted to be "closer" to me and followed me here, moving into a house 30 minutes away and bringing all the drama with her. She has been keeping her location a secret from him because we all fear that he will explode, but he recently found out what state she is in because one of the children told him. He believes that my mother and I are hiding a secret from him that she is now with another man, and now hates all of us. He hasn't made any overt threats but makes vague comments that keep us on edge. He constantly drives up to our state (a six hour drive) and searches for her. He calls me and wants to meet to "give me some packages filled with her stuff", but I feel like it is a ruse to find out where I live or find out where she lives.I feel like the worst is about to happen. He has a multitude of illegally owned firearms, including an ak-47. Though he doesn't know my address or my sisters, he does know my mothers address. I only feel like it is a matter of time before he cracks and I end up embroiled in some type of murder-suicide event. My sister will do nothing to advance their divorce, nor will she alert the police to his stash of guns (she claims it will only make him more angry, the police wont do anything, etc), so she just sits in the house smoking pot, and hiding from him, all the while talking to him and arguing with him EVERYDAY... It is only a matter of time before he finds out where she is. He is dangerous and irrational in every sense of the word. I am extremely worried about the safety of my family and I don't know what to do. I cant sleep at night, I'm just waiting for the phone call telling me something horrible has happened. I don't feel safe around her, and she continually tries to hover around me. I cannot move as I am currently enrolled college in the state, and have no plans to transfer. I hate her for playing her own part in making this situation 100% worse, putting our entire family and her children at risk.What can I do? I do have a CCW in my state and am hyper situationally aware of my own safety, but I don't want to even be in a situation where my carry comes into play. I feel powerless to deescalate the issue and I simply don't know what to do.My sister is making things worse day by day. Any insight that can be given would be much appreciated. via /r/CCW http://ift.tt/1TrE9fP
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