Confrontation at Coffee Bean this morning...

I've been carrying for a bit now and I was outside chatting with someone with a LSX swapped Jeep. I'm walking inside and open the door for a person carrying out a bunch of drinks in a drink carrier.For some reason, as soon as he exits, he turns quickly to the left and trips over my left foot. He spills all of his drinks and gets extremely pissy and immediately confronts me. He's cussing, yelling, etc.At this point, I'm kind of freaking out and I feel some adrenaline kicking in. He bumps his chest into me while stepping forward (I'm a pretty small guy.At this point, I apologize to him. I tell him it's my fault. I then offer to buy him his drinks again. I apologize continually while walking back in with him to buy his drinks.The guy orders all large drinks of what he had before (small) and orders a damn muffin lol. I pay for it. Apologize again. His drinks are made and he exits.Here are some things I've learned.1) Ever since I started carrying, I've become the biggest bitch in the world. I got my license so that I do not become a victim. This doesn't give me the license to become an aggressor.2) I was nice. I was passive. But I didn't win him over. He didn't apologize. In all aspects, it really was his fault. But he left still a bit pissy. But it's okay. Everyone has bad days. Or bad months lol.3) When carrying and in a confrontation, winning is not about who's right or wrong. It's not about who apologizes. Winning is both people leaving the scene with their lives and good health. It's about deescalation. And yeah I understand sometimes, use of force is the only way to deescalate a situation. Luckily, this was not the case for me today.Before my CCL, things wouldve been different. I would've reacted in a much different way. And this instance should not dictate how I should act in every situation. Every situation is and will be different, and every situation will call for a different measure with good judgment.I lost out on 16 bucks. I was cussed at. I was bumped into. But you know what? Today, I won. He will continue on his life being a huge jerk, while I will continue on maintaining the positives in life.Today was a good day. via /r/CCW http://ift.tt/1QB1KGB