I get that ideally you should run away from the attacker. But the question is, how? Run in a straight line? Zig-zag? Run to the nearest hiding place so that you're out of the attacker's sight, and then call the police?
Also, how would you know if a random person was going to attack you with a knife? Does being paranoid/overly-cautious whenever you see a person you think might be up to no good help?
I am a male that trains in BJJ, weight lifting, and I am 185lbs.
I believe that one should train to be able to handle all unarmed assailants with their body alone.
If an assailant is armed with any kind of weapon and is putting my life in danger, I will deploy my concealed carry firearm.
If an assailant is armed and within 21 feet, I will try to defend against their weapon and deploy my firearm when I have the chance to.
Thus, I question why carry anything else other than your fists and a gun? If I don't want to take the life of an assailant I can just use my body. If they have a weapon and I still don't want to take their life, I can shoot them in the leg/abdomen away from vital organs. If I was 110 lbs, perhaps a pepper spray alongside a gun will work. But in my current situation, is there a need to carry anything else? Why even carry a knife if you have a gun and your fists?
Without going into too much detail, me and my family have been getting threats and stalked by a drug addict for a while now and the police aren’t helping beyond “if they do something there’s a report on them so there’ll be bigger consequences” which is great except i I feel like we’re all just waiting around to get stabbed 🤦♂️ They know roughly where I live and work, and I want to feel safe going to and from work. I know it’s illegal in Australia, or at least definitely in NSW, to have pepper spray or tasers or even those self defence sticks. Is there any everyday objects you guys can recommend that I can carry A) easily, and be able to store in my work locker B) without getting into legal trouble
Someone I know suggested a small can of spray deodorant but I’m not sure how affective it would be and I don’t want to waste time making my stalker smell good if I do end up attacked. Any ideas are appreciated.
Please note that I was raised to respect my elders. Basically, I was raised in a way that makes me a subordinate to anyone who biologically older than me. That sort of thing.
Story 1:
So, I am at my Mom’s birthday party with my girlfriend at the time. The other party goers are the parents of my then girlfriend, and, obviously, my Mom. My sweet little kitty cat is NOT all that young, so, yeah. I figure that IS an important detail.
So, anyway, we are just doing our own thing, and I am sitting with my girlfriend, where, for some reason, my cat decided to jump behind my Dad, who is sitting in a recliner. I just whispered to my girlfriend that my cat was going to give my Dad some kisses. I hoped to have THAT as a memory. But, NO. Of course not! Immediately, my Dad decided that it would be a "brilliant" or "FUNNY" idea to do this bucking bronco thing to make my cat hit the ground. Hard. As soon as the cat hit the floor, I was stunned to see my Dad and my girlfriend’s parents LAUGHING THEIR ASSES OFF to the fact that my cat hit the ground. I gave my Dad a stone cold look, and said "Not impressed", and THOUGHT THAT WAS THE END of the stupidity. Once again, I was proven WRONG. My cat jumped behind my Dad a second time, probably to give him a second chance. My Dad did the stupid thing again (bucking bronco, best I can describe it), only for my cat to not fall. Then, my Dad decided to recline, and he does it at a nice, SLOW pace. At first. After I think that my Dad was FINALLY coming to his senses, he STUPIDLY accelerates hard, forcing my cat to hit the ground. Once again, uproarious laughter from my Dad and my girlfriend’s parents. NOBODY ELSE. I react the same way. "Not impressed" I say with a frown.
Anyway, comes dessert time, and everyone enjoys it. Now, you probably think I contaminated my Dad’s dessert, but, I wouldn’t do, not even as an act of revenge. Instead, when comes the time to pick up the plates, I pick up everybody’s plates, EXCEPT for my Dad, and he points out that I didn’t pick up HIS plate. I made sure he knew that my choice was deliberate. I said to him "You want to be cold?", referring to the atrocities that have been inflicted upon my cat. It is important to know that, after the second act of stupidity, my cat was AFRAID of approaching the crowd. In fact, I checked up on her in my room, and she was very afraid. She didn’t act defensively against me, and I just wrapped her in one of my robes to comfort her, and she could enjoy my scent.
Probably going to post this in "Am I the asshole", but, I get the feeling that the majority of readers will side with me.
Story 2: Girlfriend’s dog attacks my cat. I stop it in an instant!
Yes, my cat is ATTACKED.
This happened after the story in the initial post.
So, I am with the same girlfriend, and she is driving me on the snowmobile on the property. However, she ends up tipping the snowmobile, and breaks her wrist. At the time, we did NOT know it.
Anyway, I just stay with her to comfort my girlfriend about the accident, and I hear a VERY nerve wracking proposition. "Let’s get the dog and the cat to play. By the by, the dog is BIG, and is triggered by smaller animals that growl at her. I try to warn them that it’s NOT a good idea. The dog’s family KNOWS that the dog is danger to smaller animals who growl at her - THEY have told ME about their dog being triggered by smaller animals growling at her, which baffles me. I know my cat is territorial, since… she’s a cat. Anyway, it’s not long before I hear the dreaded sound of the dog barking at my sweet kitty. I BOLT to the scene, and strike the dog just hard enough to stop her. However, the dog attempts to CLAMP HER JAWS AROUND MY CAT'S HEAD. I separated the jaws to force the dog to release my cat (no worries-my cat is still alive). I shove the dog away to the dog’s human family, and I darkly said "Let this stupid shit happen again, and I won’t be so nice." Prior to the shove, EVERYONE WATCHING was just standing there like statues. I am a bit fuzzy about if I flipped the bird/double bird at the dog, but, I remember that I DEFINITELY considered it. That is just how fast THAT happened.
Now, fast forward to when we are going to the hospital. I overheard someone say "I guess the dog won’t play with the cat ever again", to which I shouted "Fucking told you so!"
Not sure if I flipped the bird at the dog after the shove, but, I definitely have considered it.
In Michigan, Stun guns are illegal while tasers are legal with the addition of a pistol license. It's pretty windy here most days and I don't trust pepper spray. What are some possible alternatives?
Just everyday items I can carry with me that work just like a stun gun.
I’m working as a nutritionist at my local hospital, they said we are allowed to carry pepper gel as long as it is concealed, anything else that is concealed that i should need.. glad breaker..etc..?
Hello all,
I’m making a career shift and want to work as a self defense instructor. I already have a job as an assistant instructor at a local taekwondo studio but my personal experience with martial arts is more varied than just TKD. I’ve been having trouble finding a reliable certification to accredit myself. Any recommendations?
So I was watching a horror movie where the killer puts a bag over the woman’s head in order to suffocate her and she immediately starts panicking and screaming and I thought well that’s a terrible idea you’re gonna use up all your air etc. Then I got to thinking well is it possible to survive after someone tries to suffocate you with a bag? I have this crazy fear/anxiety that i could be kidnapped, and m*rdered, for context I’m F21, so I feel like it’s valid. I’m just worried I’ll be snatched up somehow IDK. My mind is constantly making sure I’m aware of my surroundings so I try to think of scenarios and how I’d get out of them so if I ever encountered them I’d have SOMEWHAT of a plan. I realize I may sound crazy but I’m just curious. Like is there a way to fake out the killer and calm my breathing in order to not suffocate? I also hope this doesn’t fall into non-realistic self defense/pseudoscience because it’s just my mind thinking!!
Is there an enjoyable to learn martial art post age fifty ie to maintain effective self defense skills?
Considering Krav maga, Muay Thai, jiu jitsu. (Already have an LTC. Not interested in carrying a gun, too less so a blade).
Used to be an adequately capable guy. I know now injuries have piled up, upper body strength is way down, conditioning is way down.
Writing is in the wall and I want to feel confidence in my ability to protect myself against eg a random average aggressive drunk.
So I stay with it I want to enjoy the learning process and gradually improve my stamina and strength. A former wrestler I enjoy competition.
Thoughts?
So recently in amoungst a bunch of drinking someone thought it would be funny or that he would try and intimidate me with holding a knife to me as I was sitting down and he was standed.
I had been drinking myself. I grabbed the blade and squeezed. He immediately realised I was reacting not how he wanted and if I can remember right it kind of just diffused itself with onlookers saying things, and I must of eventually let go, I'm not cut so he obviously didn't pull the knife out hard or try to. I'm sure he was shocked more than I was by me grabbing it. Everything was OK after, and only now I'm thinking if that was someone attacking for real how much worse that could have been.
Any thoughts on what to do as all I thought was grab the blade, and wait, if he didn't show he was playing around and cut my hand I believe I would of tried to wrestle the knife by exploding out my seat. But in reality he just kind of gave up after I grabbed it, I could feel that he was concerned about cutting my hand or escalating further myself, so I for better or worse loosened my grip and the whole thing was forgotten about.
Looking back, though, I don't like how I reacted. If this was for real, by grabbing the blade, I could have triggered an all-out knife attack? As surely, they wouldn't just show me a knife if they really wanted to stab me. They would just do it. But I just grabbed it and waited for his next reaction. He made me believe that it wasn't the right call escalating any further unless he pulled hard enough to cut my hand. But I'm now thinking I should have either not touched the knife and just used words, or when I did grab it, I should of full on went into attack mode. I didn't know the guy well and that he wasn't serious.
What's you guys thoughts? I'm a bit unsettled by the whole thing, knowing that I may have just gotten myself killed if this were a serious attack and not some drunk idiot fooling around.
I never believed in training knife defense, but I do believe that now I need to make a call with how I'd react in the future if I'm ever that unlucky. Talk and hope for the best or grab and fight. I feel like I didn't commit because I suspected that deep down, he was bluffing and didn't want to risk turning things real. But I could have been wrong. But it does seem like I lucked out in my decision this time
I (28M) recently got into a krav maga class where most of the people are females. The teacher requested us to wear cups, but most people don't, so I thought it wasn't really necessary. It's been two weeks since I joined and I've already been hit in the balls like 4 times now. It's embarrassing being knocked down by a woman. Why don't women just play fair?
There is a common thread in self defense where people advise running away or using some type of strike to hurt their opponent and then running away.
My question is, how good is the "average person" at doing this? How far and how fast can you run without being completely exhausted? Do you actually train running specifically for this scenario?
I want to be told i've done the right thing by someone other than my mum. I was having a cigarette on break from a bartending shift and saw a patron walking out, following a girl who was clearly distressed by his presence. Her saying something along the lines of; "go away, not interested". To which he was unphased by...
I sternly said "hey" to distract him so the lady could walk past me, as she did. This triggered a whole bunch of crap from him, getting within a few centimetres of my face and trying to provoke me into a fight.. you guys know how it is.
The part where i'm internally conflicted is: I just copped his verbal abuse, remaining silent (but not breaking eye-contact with him). I could smell his breath.
He was slightly taller than me but seemingly scrawnier. He didn't have a weapon, he had an empty plastic bottle in one his hands and a packet of chips in the other. The floor was wet, as it had just rained. The opportunity seemed perfect...
I can't help but feel as though I simply should've elbowed him, while he was in my face. Instead of allowing myself to be disrespected like that. Instead I did nothing and he got to walk away muttering something along the lines of; "that's what i thought" under his breath.
I feel kind of emasculated after telling my mates and hearing how they would've handled the situation...
At least the lady got to leave in peace i guess?
What should i have done/what would you guys have done? Thanks gang :)
I’m 5’6” male. Average build. I’m getting married next year. My only goal is to protect my family, but I have little fighting experience. What self-defense art (ju-jitsu, MMA, etc.) do you feel is best suited to protect my familly against someone much bigger than me. And maybe they have a knife
No pepper spray, guns, etc. if I ever go to jail I want to be confident I can defend myself
Hi!
I live in a big city and, since having a child, have thought a lot about what would happen if someone broke into my home. We have a security system on all doors and windows, but I’m thinking worst case scenario where someone doesn’t care that an alarm is blaring. I’m not a big guy (under 5’ 6”) and I have no self defense training. I also don’t feel comfortable having a gun in the home. Is there another weapon that would require little training (I couldn’t fumble in a panic) and would stand up to someone twice my size?
I usually carry a tactical pen. We are going on another trip soon and I can't usually get it through airport security. We're not going anywhere unsafe (southern Europe) but I just like having something handy. I am a trained martial artist, and also a little older. Any good ideas?
In a constitutional carry state. Oklahoma.
What does a Situational Awareness Training curriculum typically consist of? What pedagogical techniques are used?
Hello everyone, I'm trying to complete some defense tips for the women at my family and friends as in my country (european one) sexual assaults to young women have raised a lot during the last 2 years.
I have separated the tips in two cathegories. The first one aims to help improve home security to avoid assaults at home. the second one tries to tackle street insecurity. Some of them are maybe too much, but want an as much complete list as possible). I have not included carrying a gun as in europe is not permited.
Home Security:
Safety Tips:
Any feedback will be appreciated.
tried to shake out a cart that was in between my cars front bumper and the small partition separating lanes while I was sitting in my car on my break
when shaking it up he was potentially scratching my bumper because it was lodged in there, don't know why it was there
after a few seconds he started slapping my hood to tell me to do something about it, for context the guy has no respect in general
(a week before he grabbed the back metal part of the golf cart I was in and told me to move, as this was the first time he had ever spoken with me I told him to relax, he didn't, so I yelled at him and said he's not talking like that with me and the next time its fhk you etc)
this being the next time, I then got out the car, grabbed the cart, threw it then tried to tell him in spanish to not do that
in a gradual increase of aggression getting closer to him I was just going for a take down but
two days before I started feeling extreme fatigue and knowing the symptoms I may have gonerrhea
the energy I exerted from that movement immediatly hit me and I needed to sit down
so the aggression in mid application depleted
I considered that maybe because he was damaging the car despite the intention of removing the cart there was cause for me to at least put him on the ground or move him away from the car to prove a point to him that I will do something (defending property what have you)
but because of the fatigue and that I didn't speak spanish I told him that I'd put him on the floor next time whatever
I think I had the right but because the legality in the circumstance is something id think is hard to determine until consequence starts to shed light on it idk
but anyways it will happen again in some way (what also perpetuates that probability is that he knows I didnt do anything in that moment and like I'm not going to explain why I didn't) but not in a setting where I have the right to do anything
weird circumstance
does anyone have any insight on it
edit: by old I mean he's late 40's and a dick head
I want to be more confident in situations where danger starts and have more control where I think more clearly.
I can't train twice a week because the second session in my gym is when I am busy. So I came up with a solution to go to another boxing gym at the same time. But for now I am sticking to one.
I lift 3 to 5 times a week and sometimes shadow box at home.
Is training once a week enough for me to get conditioned to fighting?
I'm looking to get myself a new pepper spray, but i'm conflicted as to which one I should get. The brands I'm considering are sabre red, pom, or fox labs, but of those three I don't know which to pick. I just want whichever one that will cause an attacker the most physical pain.
We live in a very urban area. Our front door faces a busy street (it’s a double door.) I already have cameras and alarms that let me know when somebody has opened the door, as well as lights that turn on automatically when there’s motion in our foyer. Nevertheless we’ve had people try to get in several times, and one time, somebody succeeded (I ran down the stairs screaming GET THE FUCK OUT OF HERE like a maniac, and the intruder ran.) Not believing that my sheer loudness will generally win the day, I want some kind of self-defense tool that I can keep at hand - something I can grab quickly in case somebody gets in and tries to get up the stairs. Firearms are not an option. Pepper spray? A blinding flashlight? Several friends have suggested a baseball bat, but that seems pretty iffy to me - not sure I could accomplish a solid blow with one in the dark, heat of the moment, etc.
Met up with a friend at a mall a while ago, and he was bringing a laptop to show some (programming) stuff. He brought nothing else: just his phone and cards in his pocket and a laptop in hand.
He took a bus through a very ...problematic... area. I expressed concern about having a MacBook Pro out in the open, but he said "If someone tries to f*ck with me, I got a solid 3lb aluminum slab". He was safe, but hypothetically, if he was mugged in that situation, would it have been possible to use the laptop in self-defense without actually causing significant damage to it?
Although, the best strategy would just be to carry the $2000 laptop in a concealed way to avoid attracting attention for a mugging, What would be the strategy, for a 17-20 year old man with average strength? (A dented corner would be a lot better than having it stolen).
Someone at work is threatening to cut my hair. i’m 19 and he is in his 50s-60s. He may be joking but hes persistently saying he’s gonna lock me in a room and cut my hair and if that happens I’m gonna break his face so i just need to know if i’m gonna go to jail or not
What are good tips and tricks for a parents with young children in a stroller. I'm an anxious person and would like to be prepared as much as I can. I'm currently pregnant with my second boy. I am nervous about carrying pepper spray since my sister's friend decided to spray herself and my sister when they were young.
Thanks for any help and tips you can give. I appreciate it.
The only time I feel I would really need pepper spray is if my wife and I go downtown usually to a bar or dance club. A lot of them make you empty your pockets and pat you down.
The bouncers typically won’t let you in with pepper spray. Are there any discreet looking pepper sprays that don’t look like the usual canister style?
It seems dumb that the one time I actually need it is the one time I can’t have it.
Lee Morrison's Urban Combatives vs Paul Vunak's RAT (Rapid Assault Tactics), I want people who either have experience in both systems or people who have at least seen both systems in action to comment. (Compare, Criticize and Complement, also Pros and Cons). And after your complements and criticisms, I want you to comment IN GENERAL, which system out of these 2 would make an average untrained and undersized 5'6" 140 pound man (168 cm and 65 kg man) be MORE LIKELY to survive unarmed street situations better (and thereby increase his base lethality level compared to his former untrained self) ??? ANSWER TO THE POINT AND DIRECTLY TO THE QUESTION AT HAND. (Don't give answers like make him train Combat sports like Boxing, Wrestling, BJJ. The choice is between only these 2 systems. Nothing more, nothing less. Assume that our undersized and untrained man is able to train 2 days a week for about 1-2 years.) Thank you for participating in this comparison ! Wish you all a great day !
I’m a 100 lb woman and have enrolled in self defense classes but feel like that would not be enough in case of an emergency. I learned carrying a knife could be used against me. I can’t use pepper spray because I have a lung disease and that would actually make me choke and die pretty much. Is pistol permit my next best option? I’m in Upstate NY, btw. I’m also an avid rollerblader and have been chased by four dogs!!!! So thought about bear spray but that’s also like pepper spray. sigh
Regardless, I’m still going to keep up with the self defense classes as they are obviously a good idea and I’m learning good ways to defend myself there. Any advice is appreciated, TIA.
Someone with a white supremacist tattoo served us at a place where it's necessary to know our contact information. She didn't seem to care, just wanted our (bf and I) gay money, but better to be paranoid and prepared than dead. Any advice?
EDIT: I've calmed down. Thanks for the posts. I do need to learn self defense and look into home security asap tho.
I was browsing social media and watched a video of a middle-age looking woman walking in the street. A man snuck up behind her holding a belt and looped it around her neck, dragging her to the ground as she passed out without being able to put up much of a fight. It scared me. I would hope I wouldn't be caught unaware like that but I can never be too careful. What would be a good way to resist?
My initial thought would be, maybe if she based out, immediately pulling down on the belt to loosen the choke, but I'm not sure how much time that would really buy her.
Can you leave a pepper spray or gel in the car? Looking at the sabre
Im 23, 6'6 and 220lb and are decently fit but have never taken any form of self defense training.
Recently went on a trip with some friends and we all got drunk. One of my friends started pushing me to wrestle but I wasnt into it. Eventually he went at it with me anyway and got me on the ground pinned and made jokes like he could get me anytime.
While I go to the gym moderately to stay fit, it was demoralizing to see how unprepared I was to defend myself and made me realize I am not where I need to be in terms of self-defense.
So, what is the best form self defense or training advice in general? While i'm not looking to become a professional, I am willing to dedicate as much time and effort as necessary in order to feel confident and assured of myself if the need to defend myself arises.
Thanks
I just saw a chilling video (on Reddit but I'm not linking to it) of a man walk up behind a woman on the street, sling a thick, looped belt around her throat, and drag her away. It seemed like she was motionless within 20 seconds or so.
What self defense would be possible for a woman in such a scenario? She has no "room" to turn around, and was down on the ground within a few seconds. Belt too thick to really pull away from her neck. The man was clearly strong enough to haul the limp woman around by a belt.
Recommendations? Thx.
Hello everyone. I have been training boxing for over a year now but I have realized since I am 5'4 and have to close distance against taller opponents, this would work pretty bad against a tall attacker on the streets since thats when grappling begins. I was thinking about also adding a specific martial art that mainly emphasizes on throws rather than takedowns or submissions because I am not interested in ground game, I have to still be standing in case there are several attackers. Is sambo and sanda a good idea for this? Or are muay thai throws and sweeps all I really need for situations like these? Thank you.
If someone was to attack me with a knife, could I use my knife to parry/deflect or smth and then counter-attack? Would it be a good idea to keep a mini shield with me to use that for parries/deflects?
advice for people of this hypothetical situation, for example they have medical reason(s) they can't run, they can't always walk away, they can't use any strong chemicals like mace or pepper spray, what would you give these people that are out there in a real self defense situation were they can't have a fist fight to defend themselves and a gun may not be an option or not always be an option, what recommendtims for self defense if someone attacked them then what and what to use, I would appreciate any real replies that are usable and helpful as this is not real, but there are many people with disabilities or have health reasons that 1 or more of all of these may apply to them and would be nice to be able to give them good advice and recommendations. thank you for your replies. (in this scenario they can grip with their hands and walk and are of sound mind and independent people etc
.
I've been trying to find a good self defense flashlight for a while. I want something that is small (no more than 6 inches) and good for edc, but has enough lumens to blind an aggressive attacker. Something that could go on a keychain would also be a plus.
As we step into the promising year of 2024, we have also crossed a remarkable milestone - we are now a family of 18000 members strong. What an incredible way to kick off the new year together!
Firstly, a heartfelt thank you to our most active members! Your insightful contributions and overall unwavering support have been the backbone of our community's success. With every question answered and your insights shared you have made this subreddit an invaluable space for learning and personal growth.
Let's use this moment to celebrate our collective dedication to empowerment through self-defense. Your eagerness to share experience and expertise not only enriches this community but also equips everyone here with vital life-skills; I hope it will also stand as a helpful testament to future generations who will seek for advice in the following decades.
As we venture into the new year, I encourage each of you to continue contributing and engaging. Share your valuable insights, ask questions, and support one another. Let's foster an environment where everyone feels empowered and equipped with the knowledge they need to stay safe.
Together, let's strive for more engaging discussions, insightful tips, and a deeper sense of community. Your presence and active involvement are what make r/SelfDefense exceptional!
Here's to a fantastic 2024 filled with learning, growth, and unwavering support for one another.
Let's make this year one of more self-defense training for all!
Cheers to the good guys!
Warm regards,
u/theopresent
I am a guy in my 20s walking down with my male friend of the same age from college. We were just talking when suddenly a jogger shoulder barged me in a manner that was quite clearly deliberate as he was coming past me. Obviously, I was highly irritated by this and so I shouted out "fucking watch where you're going", he looks back at me saying "YEAH YOU GOT A PROBLEM? FUCKING BITCH". At which point, before I could say anything back my friend spoke for me saying to the jogger "nah don't worry mate its fine" and dragging me away by the arm, telling me not to get angry. He was clearly panicked and scared that I would escalate things.
There are a couple of things to note, firstly, I am not stupid. I know when something is worth fighting for and when it isn't. I wasn't about to chase the jogger down the street to fight him, but I was also not going to say nothing and let him walk over me, so I called out to him once, he clearly wasn't sorry and wanted to be the big man, I would have walked away at that point regardless. It's not that I think we should have stood and fought together, it's just how eager my friend was to avoid conflict at all costs and how he sucked up to the jogger because he really was frightened of a fight happening. Obviously don't create problems where they don't need to be, but living in fear? What's he going to do if walking away isn't an option? Secondly, me and my friend clearly come from very different places in life; I was in fights in school and witnessed / was involved in violence often growing up and I have several years of experience in martial-arts, he's never experienced any violence and is basically a pacifist. We live mentally in different worlds, I doubt it has ever even occurred to him what he would do if somebody attacked him, it's a scenario I consider every week in training.
All this to say, my friends are great. They're good for laughs, good to rely on and talk to, fun and interesting. However, it concerns me to know that if shit ever hit the fan and it was a life-or-death situation, some of them would not be reliable. One time, I was walking down the street and there was a women screaming because a man was trying to attack her car while her and her two children were inside. I immediately stepped in and involved myself assertively, which caused him to back down as he knew I was willing to escalate if I had to. I can't help but think that if some of my friends were there they would either just freeze as they've never even considered something like this happening, or they would desperately try to avoid danger pulling me away saying "it's not worth it just leave it's none of our business". If I can't rely on them for those situations, I feel like it's a problem for me.
I've been training in boxing for about 8 months now and I'm really enjoying it. However, I'm considering adding Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu (BJJ) to my routine to diversify my skillset, especially for self-defense purposes. Do you think it's a good idea to pursue BJJ alongside boxing, or should I focus solely on mastering boxing for the time being? My plan is to dedicate Saturdays to boxing (padwork and sparring) and Sundays to BJJ, while fitting in strength and conditioning during the weekdays. Any advice or experiences you can share would be greatly appreciated!
Just watched a few YouTube and seen bear spray make all the difference vs mobs of attackers. I sold, where can I find bear spray in California?
My girlfriend cannot carry knives or peppers pray to her work but feels unsafe. Other than a pocket flashlight, which I am encouraging her to get, what are some unassuming defense tools along the lines of self defense pens?
I caught up with some old friends from my hometown and went out clubbing and actually had a really great night up until we were about to get into a taxi
We were followed by a group of pretty dodgy looking guys who we found out later were prospecting for a motorbike gang, they kept trying to harass and scare the girls in our group and we told them that we didn't want trouble and that we were heading home
After telling them to back off, in about under 5 seconds one of the guys sucker punches my friend in the head and he knocked out 3 of them
There was a pause for a few seconds and they seemed to back off a bit, We were yelling at them yelling to them to fuck off and that they were being fucking stupid fighting over nothing. I thought that hopefully it was over at that point
One of the guys who got knocked over gained his senses back and panicked and starting yelling for the rest of his mates to fuck us up, a bunch of their friend came running in and swarmed us and it happened so quickly, my mate who intially knocked out 3 of them was then targeted and getting punched in the head by 4 guys
I ran in to help him out and almost got kinghit running in but my other friend punched him over before his punch connected (saw him about to punch me out of the corner of my eye), managed to step over the other guys knocked out on the ground but by the time I got to my mate he has been taken to the ground and I stood over him with my back facing our attackers getting hit, I managed to hold off a few of them but two other guys ran around me to kick my mate in the head, managed to somewhat block it with my arm, I managed to get him up and the 3 of us managed to regroup and break through the circle of guys around us, got the girls we were with and tried to get into a taxi to get out as quickly as possible. We managed to pull out other mate out who got seperated from us and was having to fight a bunch of them on his own.
They were trying to attack us as we left but then the police came, most of them ran but a few of them tried coming after us so I just stood my ground and yelled at them that the fight was over, he keep walking over so I went after him and he ran off.
The police tried arrested us since we had done quite a bit of the damage and were probably the loudest and had bystanders pointing at us but fortunately we had others who told the police we were assaulted and they let us go.
We finally got into a taxi and made it home but at the cost of my friend getting a broken jaw and cracked rib, my other friend got a busted jaw too, other friend has has bruises on his face and my back is sore as fuck. My friend has since been treated in hospital.
Did I do the right thing in trying to avoid violence and defuse it or should have I started using a lot more force a lot sooner.
I have a black belt in Shaolin Kungfu have done boxing and jujitsu and not a stranger to street violence, been in multiple life threatening situations before and seen it go really bad very quickly so I wanted to stop it, for example I managed to stop two guys from stealing my friend truck but we got shot at in return, didn't realise they were armed and it's a blessing no one was shot, broke a guys ribs after almost getting stabbed (violent robbery happened right in front of me) and many more incidents. If you're wondering I lived in a really dodgy city and was one of the reasons I moved.
I realise that even with all my training, real fights are so different and more brutal so although I was wanting to do more I know that escalating it could have lead to much worse circumstances. Turned out it was good I didn't as someone got stabbed close by a week later by the same group of people.
Did I do the right thing, I realise my ego is bruised but at least we're safe and alive.
