if someone were to try this provided that their opponent is close enough to a wall, would it be effective enough to either knock them out or end the fight?
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if someone were to try this provided that their opponent is close enough to a wall, would it be effective enough to either knock them out or end the fight?
So im looking to buy some home defense equipment, im based in the eu & croatia Can anyone recommend some good self defense equipment retailers with shipping to eu Im mostly looking for stuff like led stun batons, extendable batons and maybe some cool knives just 4 the collection
I was gonna like for we*pon recommendations here but it seems that isnt allowed so does anyone know where I could go instead¿
I hope this is the right place to talk about this and if not, I apologize. I want to state that no actual fight took place and was avoided, no one got hurt, but I want to educate and prepare myself for future self defense situations because it's the world we live in. If you could recommend other subs to post this on, I'd appreciate it.
Me and my boyfriend (we're gay and were visibly holding hands) went bar-hopping in the city and on our way to another bar, a black Honda was stopped in the middle of the crosswalk, and one guy was yelling anti-gay slurs from the window. We ignored him and drunkenly tried to go around the back. My BF ended up bumping into their back bumper with his knee by accident, and almost immediately, 3 black men who seemed to be in their early 20's jumped out and approached us saying "why you hit our car?" and "you wanna fight?" and "C'mon fight like a man". They were not hearing our side at all and stalked/followed us down on our way to the next bar, while I made sure to stay along a well-lit path with several pedestrians out on a Friday night.
We did our best to ignore them, and upon opening the door to the bar, one of the black guys tried to block the door shut with his hand. My BF, who's bigger and stronger, retaliated by slamming the door open with the black guy caught between the door and wall, and we enter inside to chill. Not even five minutes in, the 3 guys enter inside, find us, and kept trying to instigate a fight by wanting to take it outside incessantly. And as much as I tried to deescalate the situation with words, they were just not hearing it at all. Decked in all black, I didn't know if they were carrying any concealed weapons or if they had any in their car. Was nervous to say the least but remained calm.
The 3 guys eventually get kicked out of the bar, but were waiting outside across the street in their car. Upon closing, the bar patrons disperse out and we used the small crowd as protection. We walk back to our cars and one of the black men kept following us, kept trying to instigate a fight and calling us pussies. He takes a picture of my car, probably with my license plate, and walks off. Probably on the lookout for my car from this point forward. All because my BF bumped into their car parked on a crosswalk on an uneven bumpy road.
I now carry Sabre pepper spray with me since this night, but it just stresses me out on what could've happened. I was defenseless when this was occurring. People have been shot for less, and killed for less and they end up on the nightly news. These guys were so adamant on a street fight and it's perplexing, and it's like I gotta watch my back from this point on since I go to this bar every weekend with friends.
Was there anything I could've done differently or better? Would it have been warranted to call the cops the moment they jumped out of their car and aggressively encroached in our personal space, or any time after? I have very limited BJJ training, but now I'm far more compelled to dive deep into martial arts. Learning BJJ as a base style, and adding Krav Maga on top. Haven't gotten much sleep since my head loves to overthink and go into alternate scenarios on what could've happened.
I live in a bad neighborhood and financial circumstances make it difficult to move. I took Muay Thai for a few months so I know basic kicks and some stuff from boxing classes I took.
I have a heavy bag in my garage. Where can I start? Any tips or workout plans? I plan to train 3x a week
if an attacker at 10 feet range rushes towards you and you don't have time to grab your gun, what would you do?
What can I put in my shoes to make my kicks stronger and I want good shi that’s rlly strong idc how lethal it is
If so did it work?
should it be avoided because of possible blood borne diseases?
I have two routes to the gym,the first one I took was my main go to because it was straight shot way to the gym but recently there’s been lots of loose and aggressive dogs running rampant,usually the stray dogs are more passive than the owners dogs,I had to stop taking that route cause I’ve had a few run ins with dogs that would’ve went very badly if the owners weren’t close by,so instead I took the alternate route and still every now and then I get into a situation where there’s one or two dogs ready to jump at a moments notice and i honestly don’t know what to do,I enjoy walking to the gym and it’s one of the most peaceful parts of my day but it’s starting to get annoying having to worry about if I’m going to get attacked or not,for reference I’m a 5’5 Male and I weigh 150 pounds I’m not doing anything to a dog that has made its mind to attack me unless it’s a tiny chihuahua
I like to travel light. And when I am in unfamiliar territory - hiking, camping, biking, traveling, etc I like to be as prepared as I can for possibilities. Looking for suggestions for non-lethal but powerful de-escalators, immobilizers, and/or escape enabling devices that I can carry on me as comfortably and as discretely as a small pocket knife. Pepper spray seems to be the go-to but wondering if anything else out there is worth a look.
As a side question, I am also considering risk/benefit of a small CC, like the Bond Arms Stinger (two shot) of the Switch (by Standard). I wouldn't CC it in public places but places where I and my loved ones would be isolated from the safety of "the herd" such as on a backpacking trip, remote camping, etc.
This is a question out of curiosity, but say an average girl, maybe fit but not anything crazy, was attacked by a guy and had to somehow defend herself with her bare hands. On average men may be stronger and probably go berserk if got by the balls but say the girl manages to somehow.
How hard would she need to squeeze to escape? Say he was halfway incapacitated, and then she decided to squeeze. What is the best way she can go about this? Like, if she grabbed each one somehow and tried to squish them with her thumbs, would she be potentially able to rupture them, or pop them?
I know this may not be the best idea because again I’d expect a man to go wild if caught by the balls but basically how much damage could an avg/above average girls hands/fingers cause if trying to flatten them?
Had a scary road rage a few weeks ago, i was out with my dad when a car squeezes past us for some reason (it was completely unprovoked, i believe my dads car stirs up a lot of road rage because of the make, my car basically gets no abuse), my dad naturally ends up a few cars in front of them and they attempt several overtakes, when an oppertunity arised they nearly spun out their car trying to get in front of us, pulled up alongside, shouted something that we couldn't make out (the window was up and always will be up, my biggest concern is not only weapons but chemicals, i will NEVER roll the window down for a road rager where i/we did nothing wrong) after this i started filming, i made sure to get the plate, persons face and other evidence on video, it was at this point they started doing werid hand signs i didn't understand including a wave? they stayed in front of us for the next few minutes before pulling off.
This happened in the UK, absolutely no self defense tools are allowed, i've heard even if you fight someone back with a pen, you can get in trouble, the only tool i have access to is a phone camera.
My standard procedure for road rage is let the person moan and keep filming, especially if i/we didn't do anything wrong, this also works on people who are driving aggressively or just badly in general, i have a video of a driver who was clearly wondering what he was doing wrong, after carving up my dad and nearly pushing him off the road, another time we had to explain to someone why they were being filmed and that tailgating someone following the speed limit isn't cool.
First protest, just need to know if there’s a specific kind of taser I should get or a specific power of taser. Or if pepper spray is better
My wife is a a cashier at a gas station up the road from the apartments we live in.
There's recently been this really shady dude who took offense to her not texting him when he gave her his number. He came in this morning asking other staff her name and when she gets off work. They all got a bad vibe and said they weren't able to give out that kind of info and he got upset and kinda stormed out.
Turns out, guy is some younger mentally troubled 19yo who lives with his mom and has a record of doing shit like this before.
I'm genuinely concerned for my partners safety. I can luckily walk her to and from work most days but not all the time.
Any advice is helpful. I've already told her to document everything he says and what times he says it if he confronts her so she can build a case for a restraining order if it comes to it.
I was taking my dog for a walk as usual and there was an old man (a private parking vigilante i suposse) standing there, he has always been there but i never had any incident with him until today, i always restrain my dog to pee when i see the home owners outside, so i did, lifted my dog and walk passed him by, as i was doing so he told me to take my dog to other place, then insulted me, at that moment he was close and i tought he was coming at me so i did a goofy hook kick to the air to try deter him (i do TKD lol), but it only angered him and he rushed towards me, i inmediatly got on a bladed stance and started backing off while i had my dog on one arm, as i was backing off i pulled out my pepper spray and shot him directly in the face, he stopped chasing me and then i returned home
Now i'm pretty much lost on what should i do know, report him? Im concerned that he wasn't coming towards me and i would look like the one who started, but im more concerned if the guy has a gun or hitmen contacts and he plans to take revenge on me or my family, i live just a few house from where he is and i walk pass by that parking 4 times every day, please i really need suggestions
You could save yourself and convince someone to not come near you but thinking you're protecting yourself is usually a false assumption. I think it just makes things worse and escalates something that doesn't need to be that serious. I'd probably carry a weapon if I was out in the woods in bear country or be useful in a dog attack.
I had a friend who thought he was protecting himself by having a gun but got drunk one day, pulled it out, fired it, and went to jail.
I'm out camping next to some roadside memorial that I didn't think much of, a couple guys got out and prayed to it in Spanish, then they kinda stood and stared at me while I was hanging out in my car and talked to each other. Less than a minute after they drove off I heard gunshots down the road.
I've got dunes for cover if I need it, in case they come back after sunset looking for trouble. I'm packing up camp now. 3 mags loaded and carrying. while I work. Any advice?
PS if I don't comment tomorrow, there was a nice sunset, and I fell in glorious combat.
Sorry if I can't post this, first time posting here. I hope I'm not breaking any of the rules.
I am a writer and am currently writing a story and need some advice about self defense, as a character in my story is attacked and they need to use self defense in a scene. I hope this post is allowed as I don't know much about self defense. Let me tell you about the scene in the story:
The character was surprised and is being attacked from behind. The attacker has a knife to the character's throat and their other arm is over the character's mouth (so they don't scream).
Here's information about the character:
The character that is being attacked is male, 6'1" and 180 pounds. He is in great physical shape (he works out daily). He does not have any type of weapon on him at the moment (the scene where he gets attacked is right after the character leaves the airport after arriving on a plane) and doesn't carry one usually. He is also trained in self-defense (I haven't specified how he has trained since I don't know much about self defense).
The attacker is also male, around the same height as the character and is in average physical shape.
How would someone defend themselves like this since the character knows self defense? Thanks!
I genuinely dont know why this is happening recently. I trained boxing, but when i get into hectic situations my body just freezes, and i feel genuinely cold, unable to take action. Heart starts pounding and aching aswdll.Its not fear, im taller than most of my opponents anyways. My limbs go numb aswell lmao. I remember sparring and i never had a similar feeling. How can i untrain that?
Robert Levine, the 77-year-old man who shot a dog walker in the ankle and beat him with a golf club at a senior community in Florida, avoided prison Thursday.
He was instead sentenced to six months in jail and five years of probation for his attack at the Kings Point golf course on April 24, 2022. Levine's friends and family, one of whom flew from New York to testify about his positive impact and remorse for beating the unarmed 64-year-old Herbert Merritt, wept in the back of the courtroom.
"I am truly sorry that I hit that man once he was down," Levine told the judge. "I am ashamed. And I deeply regret that I brought shame to my good name and my family."
Merritt said he did not feel justice was served.
The full story (use incognito mode if you get a paywall): https://www.palmbeachpost.com/story/news/crime/2025/03/28/florida-kings-point-golfer-robert-levine-who-shot-dog-walker-avoids-prison-gets-6-months-jail/82686404007/
So what happened earlier this night was i was minding my own business chilling outside my gate where i parked my scooter, a bunch of guys(two in this situation) came and made fun of it in front of me, they didnt direcrly talk to me, the talked to each other saying it looks bad and other things. These guys are from my same neighbourhood i see them every once in a while and one of them is my next door neighbour, he's not my friend but we just acknowledge each other and there use to be group sessions in his house, im a solo type guy no friends from my neighbourhood, no older brother, no father im a quiet guy but im respected by my neighbours, the older men. I do feel a little bit intimidated by them, how do i intimidate them, should i just avoid them?
So this girl is trying to fight me, and I won’t do it unless she strikes me first. But I need self defense techniques that won’t hurt her??
My intuition is telling me that my step dad, who is way bigger and stronger than me, will do something to me. I have my reasons to believe that, i will not share those reasons cause i do not want to cry again lol, for context, i’m 17, 67 kg and 1.61 cm (i know i’m overweight for my height, i’m working on it) and he, i think, is like 1.90 cm or something and i don’t really his weight, but just in case, how do i protect myself from him?
What would be your process if someone is wearing a full face covering, with sunglasses protecting their eyes? I don’t have a pew pew and won’t be able to acquire one so please don’t bother with that rec.
I have been victim of physical attack only twice. First time when I was quite young, by a frustrated service man who kept demanding unreasonable amount of money.
Second time today, by a car driver with anger issues. He got down shouting curse words at me but surprisingly swung his arm towards my face.
I was on my bike. I already had my arm out trying to calm him down, which stood guard against his punch, so fortunately my face is safe. Didn’t attack back to de-escalate the situation quickly and there was crowd around.
But I call this luck. I need to carry around something for self defence. I am 5’8” with a light body frame.
I’m strong and agile but not very effective against muscular or beefy people. Have training with nunchucks in the past.
I am considering carrying them during commute in a quick to deploy case. What do y’all think about it’s effectiveness against fights not involving guns?
im 188 cm (6.2" for americans), 127 kg (280 lbs), im looking for a medicine ball that has a weight that fits my size/strength and im basically somewhere around 3-5 times as strong (depending on lift) as an average untrained man. I plan on putting in one day of the week to dedicate it to explosives training since i feel i have lost some of the snappiness and speed i used to have in my punches from when i did kickboxing. What weight of medicine ball should i go for, if thats even the right tool? I have to train this outdoors and in a barn, either on grass or concrete floor.
Im also doing kettlebellswings, explosive jumps, shadowboxing with resistance bands, rowing springs plus squats&leg extension this day of the week (to offload some from the push day).
Okay i know it sounds bad ! But I legitimately could find this information useful one day
Just question really lol is the electric self defense actually effective ? Like how hard would it be to fight someone who is using it. Would water actually break it lmao ?
Note: Assuming the location allows you to carry flashlight, pepper spray, knives, gun, etc.
Thinking about it, it feels like having a super bright flashlight aimed at your eyes seems like a good defensive option.
But looking around online, tons of people say it's not a good idea, although do not really give examples why.
Why do people say having a tactical flashlight is not a good idea?
I've known people that buy pepper spray but don't really carry it out. I can kind of see why, it's troublesome/bulky, it expires, it can explode, there's blowback, etc.
Compared to a flashlight, it's innocuous looking, useful as a normal light source.
If trouble comes, can't you just flash them with the light then run away while they're stunned?
So, I'm kind of a tall guy (185) with little girl hands, and embarrassingly slim wrists. I've been going to the gym for a year, but admittedly not as consistently as I should've, so the rest of my body's fairly normal.
The main problem (other than the fact that I think anyone can tell based on my hands that I'm not much of a threat and that they can walk all over me) is that I freeze whenever confronted. This makes me always afraid of the prospect of getting into a fight. I am not looking for fights honestly, though I do have a lot of anger issues. The problem is that I am constantly living with fear, ready to bow down to anyone who's daring enough to get violent with me.
A couple of times I have been indirectly involved in fights. Recently my friend and I were in a car (he was driving) and he got into an argument with a couple of bikers which turned into a fight. They didn't let him get out of the car and were throwing punches through the window and violently kicking the car. I just froze there. I couldn't decide what to do. It took me way more than it should have to get out of the car and try to separate them and at least give my friend a chance to get out and defend himself. I was so shaken that I really couldn't register anything. Even my memory of the event is murky, and it happened only yesterday!
This has happened before too. And it honestly is tremendously emasculating. I used to think I could maybe practice pacifism and avoid such situations my whole life. But the thing is, even if I could do that l don't wanna have to live like a coward my whole life. So what should I do.
I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that I can't bring myself to throw a punch, or imagine getting hit, because I never have. My only experience comes from these recurring dreams where I try to hit someone but I have rubber arms and can do zero damage. So maybe I should try boxing or something like that?
So, do you think it is even possible to change this?
Tl;dr: I freeze when I'm in a fight, can I change that?
I work at an adult store and get threatened and creeped on regularly, and it’s scary. We are pretty much always running the store alone, and even though we do have a panic button we wear while working and one under the register, part of me wants to have some sort of other self defense tool other than my tiny can of pepper spray. I was thinking a taser of some sort, but when the opposing threat is likely gun or knife, I’m not sure ,,, I’m also hoping for something I can carry with me at bars and such, so knifes and guns are a no go for me. Best I can think of is a stronger, further spraying pepper spray? Thoughts? Any specific sprays meant for distance I should know of?
I (29F) live alone in a fairly safe area. I've stayed at my home for a year now without issues. Two nights ago, some guy woke me up at 1 am knocking on my door. I looked through the peep hole, I have no idea who he was. He said to come out and talk and he didn't want to hurt me but I needed to come talk. I didn't answer and he walked away and said, fine, don't come out and talk but you'll see. Shit scared me so bad, that's hella threatening. I called the police. They came and couldn't find him. I called my apartment complex who said they don't have cameras, and I also am not allowed to set up a camera "for neighbors privacy." I called police station, they said I have to abide by complex rules and can't set up a camera. Can anyone send me a link to a camera I can either hide from the outside of the door (I have a peephole, I don't know how else to hide it.) If anyone has any other advice on how to feel safe sleeping in my home, every time I hear a noise I freak out now and I want to feel safe in my home again.
I heard a lot about this one
So we went walking with our kids in our nabourhood, something we often do on Sundays. And as we were about to pass a house the gate opened and a dog rushed us, I put my hand on my gun and when I saw screaming didn’t chase him off I pulled my gun, ready to use it if he was going to come any closer. Luckily his owner came outside and took him in. It’s my first time pulling mu gun in an real life situation, I understand it’s not the same as in a actual life threatening situation. Very glad I did not need to use it though.
What is the best type of fighting/defense class should an average Joe take?
I’m not looking to go pro or compete in tournaments. Would just like to be able to handle myself in a dicey situation
For some context I am 19m 6’3 but pretty skinny and around 155( used to be big into running)
With that said I want to get into something more self defense oriented but also just for regular fighting knowledge. The gym I want to attend has a mma, kickboxing, and BJJ class.
I heard BJJ would be best for self defense but I also want to include some kicks possible. I know mma is technically just a mix of martial arts so some gyms may focus more on kicks while others may equally try and include a mixed amount of multiple martial arts.. but in the end what would you say is the best? Should I just go with BJJ and learn kicking in my free time? Should I go with mma and not be as good at gripping and ofc not good at jiu jitsu while then having better kicks and striking?
A little lost and confused and don’t know which to focus on.
My 3 year old and I love going on bike rides together. He rides in a little vinyl covered buggy, usually just the mesh cover in the front with the option of the vinyl cover for rain. I carry a firearm pocket carry on the right side with pepper spray and extra mag clipped on the left.
A few days ago we were riding through a neighborhood when I heard barking and turned to my right to see a pitbull charging us, aggressively barking, from a driveway. As it made its way into the street I yelled and it hesitated, so I pedaled faster. Then the dog gave chase at which point I drew my firearm and pointed it at the dog which was about 140° to my right. I retained good trigger discipline but I was basically pedaling forward, looking backwards pointing a pistol one handed. This seems like a terrible scenario. Innacurate fire, not a good backstop, my son dangerously close.
The dog gave up after a few tense seconds and the owner came out and called his dog back. At which point, I lower my firearm and stupidly yell at the stupid owner "hey. You almost got your dog shot." He yelled something back (couldn't hear him) then as I round the corner I realized I'm now potentially in a confrontation with a maniac whom I just threatened his dog.
I can't easily re-holster my firearm, without stopping or slowing down and I'm afraid this guy, who was next to his car, is now getting in it to give chase.
I'm close to home so I ended up pedaling fast for about 45 seconds with my firearm in my right hand in combination with the handlebar. I looked down and thought "well this seems like a bad idea" but prioritized getting home and not letting this guy see where I live.
My questions are.
Where did this all go wrong?
I feel like maybe strong side carry holster would have allowed me to re-holster. I always preferred concealment over convience. I never considered the difficulty of re-holster while riding a bike.
What could I have done differently, given my current equipment and scenario?
What would be the ideal self defence techniques for this situation?
Should I prioritize riding away from a dog or stopping and standing my ground, using the bike as a shield? Does having my son in the buggy change anything?
What if the dog approaches from the left?
I'm glad my son and I made it home safe but it felt dangerous to essentially ride one handed, looking back, firing one handed. I want to be ready for the next time.
I'm all for just riding away as fast as I can but dogs are fast too and falling off the bike would be a nightmare scenario so I'm genuinely at a loss here.
I'm looking for some inspiring martial arts and MMA technique videos to improve my skills. Whether it's boxing, Brazilian jiu-jitsu, Muay Thai, or any other discipline, share your favorite videos!
Post your favorite technique videos, tutorials, or fight highlights in the comments below!
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Today we continued practicing how to counter headlocks, as they are the second most common move in the streets to sucker punches. Today she was able to flip me easily, and was able to escape even when I held on when she took me to the ground. All though she is doing great, she still hesitates on some parts of the counter. Tomorrow though, we’re gonna focus more on the two other techniques I taught her, and perfecting the one we are focusing on. (I am not a trained professional but I do want my little sis to be able to hold her ground at least a little.)
Im 30 years old and have boxed on and off for about 12 years. By this I mean consistant class taking and sparring at multiple gyms with many people. Ive had one smoker fight which I won. Ive trained a lot of muay thai and jiu jitsu as well in the last 5 years but id probably begin with strictly teaching boxing. Im very used to holding all sorts of pads for training partners in all the classes environments im used to.
I havent fought many fights but feel I have a strong understanding of technique and how to start slow for folks and teaching fundamentals/footwork/jumprope/head movement.
What else should I know? Id probably begin by teaching beginners in my neighborhood. I have all the gear as well.
I am in no way looking to train serious competitors of any sort. Folks who want to learn.
Thanks for reading.
I apologize in advance if this isn’t appropriate for this subreddit. But I am staying at an AirBnB soon, a house, and it has a keypad. I am concerned perhaps the owners haven’t changed the code between guests and I don’t know who all has the code. How can I secure the entrances during my stay? Are these door locks good? What could I do to secure the home? Thank you!!
So recently there have been more and more knife attackers in europe and self defence videos always tell you to just give him whatever he wants.
Sometimes robbers want your phone. I rarely carry my phone with me. The only situation I carry my phone, is if I need it for work or social gatherings. Else I never carry my phone with me. Even when walking at night. And I carry almost no cash. And now, not because I'm worried or something just out of pure curiosity, what would happen if such a knife wielding maniac came at me and told me, give me your money and phone and I tell him I am not carrying my phone with me? Will he just search another target or become more aggressive?
Hey. Here's the situation in a shortened form. I have a family member with a disability who sometimes becomes violent on a switch. It is becoming more and more clear that I'm unprepared to keep myself and the environment safe when I'm the only person who's there to look after them. They (6'+ , 200-230 lbs)are much larger than I (5'4", 130 lbs) am. In order to keep them, my family, and my family's possessions safe, I've decided that physical restraint may be needed in dire situations. I am aware that environmental prevention/restraint and behavioral strategies are better, but it gets much beyond that very quickly.
Please note that calling the police is not an option given recent and not recent events around police handling situations involving people with disabilities with unnecessary and excessive violence.
Does anyone know any holds or strategies for painless restraint that a small woman could use on a larger individual that will keep the violent person neutral until someone else can arrive to help? Can't take much more of this as it's going. Thank you.
As in how do I stop the person I’m choking from elbowing me
I got attacked. I did stay calm for awhile (talked calmly to the attacker, so I would get him to leave me alone). But then he punched me, and I started shaking. He actually left then, but Im concerned, because Im not even sure I could run, let alone "fight" back, use self defense, because my leg was shaking so much from the shock. This scares me, and I wonder, is this normal and it wouldn't prevent me from running/other, or what? And is there a way to prevent this from happening?
So for context guys I’m not a violent person but I live out in the streets of LA where I have to walk my daughter at night sometimes and I feel very unsafe with certain people out there. I’m looking for a link or style that would be best for self defense. Any opinions or direction would be highly welcome as I only want to use this as absolute last resort incase I get corned in a situation where I have to defend myself and my daughter. Thank you
To be fairly honest, i excelled very well in Taekwondo in just a few weeks. I ended up progressing faster than others. I loved Taekwondo but what i miss the most is the company i had there. That's what i've been thinking over the past 1.5 years. I miss the people there.
But i've also been thinking of boxing. My dad used to do some underground boxing in Serbia back in the 80s and he's a tough lad. It's a tough choice but i can't afford both. I also have MMA and Muay Thai in my mind but never trained Muay Thai before. I did MMA for few months back in the days. What i'm looking is efficiency and what can really make me progress both competition wise and self-defense wise.
Sorry if this is the wrong subreddit. Will try posting in a women sub but have no other clue where to ask and seeking advice on it.
So I’m 19m and I have a younger sister who is 17. Ever since I was little I have always been pretty socially aware and notice patterns easily and have pretty good memory with people ( naturally it isn’t something I focus like crazy despite somewhat focusing on being socially aware). My sister doesn’t. She would have no clue if a car is following her or if someone is following her in the store. I get that as an older brother I may view things differently and trust me I don’t expect her to be paranoid but she is so unaware of everything it’s scary at times.
Recently I have tried to emphasize how important self defense is. She lets her friends use her pepper spray and doesn’t think about if it runs out and how she may need it and etc. or even if a dog is possibly attacking her or someone else how she might need it then. She walks around with this little bright purple wallet and leaves her phone on the side of things and not in her hand or pocket. Basically she hasn’t been stolen from so doesn’t actually realize how easy it is for one person with low morals to see her as a target and snatch her valuables let alone possibly attack her.
We even had a discussion and she was honest to God convinced she could beat a grown man in a fight if she wanted to especially if he is a little skinny. Mind you she is around 5,6 and weighs probably around 105 I would say ( I could be somewhat far from this but she is extremely skinny and for the longest time was around 95 pounds even when she was shorter). I offered to wrestle her or to rein-act a self defense situation to simply just let her feel the gauge of how easy it would be for a skinny guy like me let alone someone with muscle and adrenaline and bad intent to genuinly rob her or simply attack her due to mental illness or bad intent. And she said that it was useless since she wouldn’t be able to actually hurt me and even after giving her permission she brought up she would go for poking eyes and ofc kicking/ hittting genitalia which makes sense to me and ofcourse that couldn’t be done in a simulation for safety reasons. But she still doesn’t understand how hard it would be to actually go for that while some dude is trying to attack her or even if some woman attacks her.
Sorry for the long post and don’t want to seem like some overprotective brother but I’m trying to get my sister to value self defense and actually understand that she doesn’t need to be paranoid but that the world isn’t sunshine and rainbows and she doesn’t have a bubble around her.
Any advice would help.
I've watched a lot of videos about using flashlights as a striking tool for self defence. I tried to strike a full plastic bottle, but instead of damaging the bottle, it hurt my hand. That's why I wanna ask if you guys have any experience of using flashlights for self defence.
hi, I have had an extremely violent stalker for the past 13 years who raped & tried to kill me when I was a minor. The police make fun of me, it's infuriating to say the least. My stalker smiles in his mugshots for breaking & entering so to me it is only a matter of time when not if he tries to kill me again.
Anyway, I always thought my building was safe but lately (last 2 weeks) there have been breaks in next door on either side AND in my building (first floor). I intentionally live on the 5th floor but right next to the fire escape & keep my windows shut for that reason, but sometimes need the air flow & will open a far window. I know SWAT teams/psychos can scale anything so I'm planning on adding to my supplies.
Have: - pepper spray - personal alarm - keep phone charged, wear shoes I can run in when leave apartment - dog whistle - seatbelt cutter/glass breaker - I use fake names on deliveries, etc - confidential address
Adding: - taser baton - taser -- I want the kind that shoot - non lethal carbon weapon (my guy friend who hunts recommended this, initially I was offended lol but it will take a couple years to get a conceal carry permit in LA).
Not worried about my front door (sturdy electronic lock plus I roll my heavy trash can in front at night for peace of mind + so I'd hear if someone broke in) or bathroom (walled off, goes to a concrete shute). I definitely feel afraid walking around my building - ONLY during daylight hours, I don't have a death wish.
Tried to tell my assistant building manager what was happening but she ignored me. Was planning on giving photos & descriptions to the building manager ASAP.
I don't want to hear the self defense rants, just looking for concrete advice. Trust me I've heard it all & this sums up my thoughts on the matter https://www.genesisshelter.org/why-we-dont-teach-self-defense/ I am taking up boxing!! My physical health is not great so I resent not being allowed to be a disabled woman. But doing my best.
So , basically give me something to work on , till I get rich and move out to a better place where I can get some nice training .
Full Question: How can i bring someone on the ground or lock them on the ground without throwing punches for example when my friend is mad and wants to attack me? Or maybe different techniques?
I'm genuinely scared and don't feel safe where I live and including school, and I am working on getting a license to carry pepper spray or something like that, but can I? I have a past history of mental health and I'm pretty sure our president made it so if you have any kind of past history you can't have one, and I'm scared to even apply because of that, I'm also under 18 and my parents are saying that I can get a license, also can I carry pepper spray to school while I go so I don't get in trouble for having it because I won't get into details but people there have shown me how bad it is at my school, sorry I'm rambling but the question I'm trying to ask is Can I even get a license with past history of mental health and can I bring it to school without trouble (even if it's just to carry on the way then bring it to the office)?
I’ve never been in a serious fight with someone other than a sibling. Besides some wrestling and kickboxing when I was a bit younger, I’ve got no fight experience and feel unequipped. Where do I begin to learn to defend myself
I’m 17, not small by any nature, 6’0 and 210 pounds. I’m athletic and have a muscular build from weight training, however I know fuck all about a being thrust into a fistfight. To clarify, I am quite unassuming and don’t find myself upsetting others /getting upset easily.
Given I don’t want to spend a boat load or have to much time consumed, what is the best method for me?
Where should I protect the most and what is the safest (obviously it’s not safe) but like what area on the body will be least harmful?
Again I know no area on the body is safe to be stabbed but you know what I mean right?
One of my clients is looking for software to manage her self-defense school, including student tracking, follow-up, seminars, camps, etc. and I would love to hear your suggestions.
Of course, I will do an online search as well (my VA is working on this) but I often find my network of people knows of gems that don't always show up in a search.
Once I create a list of software options, I will test each one to see which ones closest meet her needs.
Thanks!
7 months ago, I got into a scuffle because one asshole said mean things to my mum. He said all of that right on her face. So, on hearing those acerbic words, I retaliated not by hands even then, but by words. After that he let out a stream of invectives which fell like molten glass on my ears. Upon hearing the clamour, his friends came out to egg on him(those assholes are my upstairs neighbours).
When they turned up, he started pushing me and got ready for an altercation. It was then when I threw dukes and during the commotion his friends joined in and started beating me. I suffered a TBI, which hurts up to this day, and a night at the police station.
Was there any other way to handle this situation in a better manner? All of you who are men of street smarts, kindly help me through this.
I shouldn't try it on myself i guess 😅
Hey yall, I’ve been looking for a piece of smart jewelry that has a panic button + location services + notifies your emergency contacts.
I came across maitri & invisawear, but didn’t really like the style. Also didn’t see any rings (which is my preference)
Any suggestions for jewelry are appreciated!
I have a situation where my ex-wife’s current boyfriend is spiteful and vengeful from whatever poison it is that she whispers into his ear (rough and messy divorce from this past year). He works at my workplace (large enough building where we can go days without seeing each other), and there has been at least one altercation at work in which he got suspended for his actions. However, Last month he followed me home after work and tried to side swipe me with his vehicle and then later on brake check me. I have a dash cam and filed a peace order against him, but unfortunately we couldn’t prove that he was the one actually driving the vehicle. He knows where I live. I keep my distance at work. I carry pepper spray in my pocket when outside. I’m extremely vigilant while walking to my car and while driving home now. I have a camera on the front of my house facing out. I’ve considered moving to a new house, and even transferring to another location at work. But I’d rather not have to uproot my entire life because of one individual. I’m not sure what else I need to do or what other precautions I need to consider. Any help would be appreciated.
None of us want to get caught with our pants down. I have several Stopboxes and live in a 2 story house. I stash them around the house (loaded) for quick access.
Do you guys stash multiple guns around your home or do you keep them at a primary location?
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I am 15 (guy) and in high school, I’m already a big dude, 6 foot, I am very strong much stronger than everyone I know. Just to clarify I have never instigated a fight in my life, every fight I have been in was self defence and I always won. Someone I know is lying to somebody at my school and telling them things from like 3 years ago and twisting the words, the person he’s telling this to I have known for a long time, never close with him but I know him and he has a massive temper issue. He fighted the principal when I was in middle school and knocked a dudes tooth out. Then today he was in the hallway and he gave me this serious stare down from a distance, being taught de-escalation from my dad I tried to nod at him and wave a little to show him I don’t have a problem with him and he just walked away pissed. Now I need some advice because this guy if he decides to fight its gonna be real, when I fight in high school I never wanna hurt the other person over some non sense but if this guy comes for me because of his ego I am gonna fucking hurt him.
Hi, I live in NYC and am concerned that homeless people might try to touch me or that bulldogs/animals could bite. I want to know which self-defense tools are the best. Can you tell me what they are and if I can buy them online? But I can't accept anything that looks like a pistol.
Specifically talking about if they grip your hair, but ig in general would also be useful
I want to learn how to develop a knockout(or really uncomfortable) punch/slap/elbow sequence. I'm fairly street smart, I don't drink and I'm highly unlikely to be in a fight against people around my age/older - I can talk my way out, or they are gonna have weapons (so gg anyway). This is really for some wannabe teenage punk (14-17 YO) that doesn't know what they are doing.
I want to practice semi regularly - it can be a single strike to the jaw, or it can be a sequence like hitting them in the throat/solar plexus, follow by something else. I'd appreciate any guide/youtube video that I can practice on my own.
... and my fiance and I used the water practice canister this morning. It shot a steady stream for maybe 2 seconds and then it sputtered and stopped. That can't be normal. How can I trust the mace canister will work? Lol. Serious question though! Can you keep the mace canister in the gun at all times? Also, if use a spray or two of it, do you need to replace the Mace canister canister or just keep it loaded for rhe next use? I thought these had like 13 seconds of spray? The directions offer little help. Thanks!
I keep trying to post this on mma and kickboxing but I guess the question is too absurd and gets taken down. If two people just get gloves and headgear and shin guards and are well read and do alot of research and spar alot, is thay not enough to get good at fighting? I would think sparring comes first.
I've heard a lot that kicks aren't recommended on street situations, it's obvious that if you are empty-handed, fists are your best weapons, but if you carry some tool (pepper spray, taser, etc) isn't kicking the best option since your hands would be occupied?
Or is it too short and heavy for practical use?
Hello I am a woman around 5’8” and in my late 20s. I just wanted to get some advice and what kind of martial arts might be best for self defense. I have only taken a women’s only self defense class that met once a week for a month and I think it mainly used Krav Maga as a base. I think I benefited from the class but I think I might be more open from another perspective or method. Are there certain institutions that cater more to adults?
Question - What do the majority of you think matters more when it comes to people messing with you, being aggressive, trying to rob you, etc, is it more about size or demeanor? For example, I know a guy who is ex military, he's a little bit tall but skinny and has a messed up back but by his demeanor you can tell he's not one to f*ck with, whereas i know a tall muscular guy who doesn't really have much presence and demeanor from his personality and isn't much of a fighter himself. However, I do know that size matters a good amount, so I'm not completely sure which one dictates more, to make it fair lets say in a scenario where the person sort of knows you, either a sibling, neighbor, or someone you see around at school.
Hi i suffer from chronic pain, slipped disc, even hurts to sit most of the time. I go to the pool every day for aqua therapy. I pissed off a violent nutjob by having boundaries and he knows i go there and when and where i live.
Ive got cctv and an outside light, and a walking stick to help me to my car in the way of equipment lol. I live in the uk if that helps.
Any advice much appreciated Thanks
I’m a 15-year-old (5'5) 9th grader and I’m tired of being bullied by my classmates. They constantly make fun of my looks, take my food, and even demand money from me. If I refuse, they hit me. It’s gotten to the point where I sometimes skip school just to avoid them. I don’t feel safe, and I don’t feel like I can talk to anyone about it.
I don’t understand why they do this. I’ve never done anything to them—I just want to go to school and learn like everyone else. But instead of focusing on my studies, I spend every day worrying about what they’re going to do to me next. And the worst part? No one seems to care. I feel completely unheard.
People always say that school is a place where young people are educated, where we prepare for our future. But how can we learn when bullying like this is so common, and no one does anything about it? It feels like a joke. These same people who don’t want to be bullied themselves have no problem picking on others. It’s so hypocritical.
At this point, I feel like I need to learn how to defend myself. I don’t want to start fights, but I also don’t want to just sit there and let them hurt me. Does anyone have advice on basic self-defense? Something I can use if they try to hit me again? I just want to be able to protect myself.
If anyone has been in a similar situation, how did you handle it? Any advice would mean a lot. I just feel really alone in this.
Hi! I'm 13 years old and I walk home from school everyday, which is about a 35 minute walk. I don't live in "the ghetto", or anywhere unsafe, but there is a lot of homeless people around where I live because there is a public library at the end of my street; where they usually stay. Nothing unpleasant has happened to me and I don't plan on it, but I just want to know any tips that I could use so no one approaches me. Today when I was walking home, I saw a group of three men that were smoking and walking down the street and they looked at me and I got kind of scared. That's all! Any tips I could use as a kid to avoid trouble would help.
Recently I was playing football with friends and every time we play there is this guy who you wouldn;t think knows a move or 2. After playing I was walking back tripped on a rock (this sounds so fake but its real) I grab his hat and fell, i got up and he hit my hand. I'm like what? This guy is weak and all, you could easy beat his ass, many people have done so but when i offered it back (I didn't want no smoke) he grabbed my hand and did some weird move where he brought it to his chest and its like one of those moves where it causes pain to your elbow or wrist like twisting it and I want to know how to get out of these locks and learn them so I can defend myself. Aside from this I want to learn how while doing it how I can retaliate like when someone tries to push you and you push their arms away and push them back, but I don't want to learn like a full fight typa thing because don't want to be in fights
I’ve been reading about the junko furata case, and that freaked me out, so I want to learn self defense but I don’t know which martial art to do to defend against larger, stronger and multiple opponents. I heard wing chun, krav maga and muay thai may be decent
Basically this Muslim guy was stealing bc my stuff in school so I slapped him but he called his best friend who has attacked me in the past and she is now hunting me down when she sees me she is gonna do me in she said so how can I defend my self against her because she is strong and since last time is now doing boxing
I was dropping my girlfriend off at her house last night. Her brother was waiting on the side of the house, I opened the car door for her and we walked to the house. He then ran out and charged at us, and I feel as though I froze up before I realized it was him. There was nothing I could have done in that situation if it was real. Maybe it was because I let my guard down around her house, but I still feel like I should have reacted differently. Is there a way to train to not freeze up in those situations? I have experience with muay thai and boxing but I still was not able to react to him in time.
I'm not saying they don't make great weapons, they obviously do but I'm saying they're kinda trash for self defense
The things they're good at ,range and lethality. shouldn't really be factors in self defense
Range: human interaction distance is only a couple of feet so you don't even have that range, and if range is a factor they probably already have their gun out and so you're at a massive disadvantage anyway
Lethality: holes are difficult to stitch up , but they don't have a lot of stopping power beyond hitting vitals which still might not stop in that instance.
The one thing guns are good at and is useful is intimidation . They're great ways to intimidate someone into getting away from you or staying back , and they're really loud so they can stun and daze someone into a phycological stop even if you missed all their vitals that would have physically stopped them
Them being loud is a negative because you don't wanna go deaf on top of an already shitty situation
Now here's the thing they don't do, make you look larger, disable an attacker , block/shield you , crowd control, be a useful tool outside of self defense.
Looking larger is mostly for animals when you're unprepared for dealing with animals
Disabling is stoping power, because you don't need to kill someone you just need to stop what they're doing, flash lights and pepper spray are great at this because first you can't hit what you can't see then you're in pain and can't see , breaking the hand of someone with a knife also works
Blocking is preventing them from hitting you , a stick is better against someone throwing stuff at you than a gun is because a gun won't stop that thrown object a stick might
Crowd control , you can only aim your gun at one person at a time leaving you open to others closing distance, you want something with sweep if you piss off a group to keep them away from you
Being used as a tool, so you're gonna carry around this 2lbs piece of steel and never use it outside of the worst situations, knives aren't much better at other stuff but at least you'll use it as a tool and get lots of natural practice deploying it
What do I carry, a 12ft piece of dyneema rope with a carabiner on one end and a 8oz steel weight on the other , I've used it as a hammer, to pull boxes and pallets around, used to rope to haul a buddies truck outa the mud, had to defend myself from feral dogs on a regular basis, and use it to carry my water bottle on my hip, really handy tool I could already crack someone's open with if all my other skills failed to deescalate
I also carry a flash light too
Hello, I need some advice on what I should do if I am ever in this position again. I don’t want to be a victim but I had a group of guys actively try to swing at me tonight at the gym after I called a foul in basketball. Words were exchanged and one of the four men tried to hit me. Any advice will help. I’m not looking to be a tough guy and I’m usually quiet but these guys always try to bully me and it’s gone too far . The threatened to follow me to my car . I can’t be a victim. Please help.
A bought a month or so ago I was at a concert minding my business when some random dude I’ve never met got in my face and started threatening to punch me. I have absolutely no idea why he was mad at me as I’d never met him and wasn’t even from the area. He was clearly drunk and reeked of booze. I don’t drink so I I was completely sober. I kind of just stared at him and continued minding my business. He called me a bitch and kept saying he was going to punch me. I remained calm but at the time I had a lot going through my head. Should I punch him first? Should I just walk away or stand my ground?
I was also scared of making a move. Even though I’ve trained a bit in boxing I’ve never been in any kind of sparring match, just bag work. I was scared that if I hit him it wouldn’t be effective, the mental hurdle of striking an actual person was too much to get over. I also thought that I won’t be aggressive unless he hits me first. He didn’t, he ultimately was all talk and I just kind of stared at him before walking away and pointing him out to a disinterested cop.
I guess the point of this is it got me thinking about self defense and how I don’t want to be a victim. I’m a pretty skinny and not physically intimidating guy. Even though I avoided conflict I still feel like a coward for not standing my ground and letting this guy yell at me for no reason. I can’t help now but fantasize about busting his jaw open and saying “who’s the bitch now?” even though I logically know that would have been the wrong and stupid choice. I guess I’m just pissed at myself for letting someone talk down to me and not standing up for myself.
This has spurred me into wanting to get back into martial arts and boxing. I’m interested in training Judo because it looks like a good technique and also looks fun to do. I’ve also been watching videos of self defense techniques like throat strikes. I guess I’m wondering if anyone has any input or experience with a similar situation. I know that getting cursed at by an idiot drunk is not some life or death situation (in this case) but it got me thinking about my own safety and how easy it would be for me to become a victim. What bothers me most is how unconfident I was, and how the police didn’t even seem to care when I told them. I also just want to know why this dickhead wanted to start shit in the first place, just pisses me off that he would target me for no reason. Any advice for if I should have handled this differently, or what to do to feel more prepared in a self defense situation?
My tweens are not athletic, nor have they ever been inclined to be. They are more artsy or STEM interested. We've never pushed athletics on either of them beyond basic safety measures (swimming lessons). They are wholly social, often on their own terms, and can stand up for themselves. That said....
Lately, I've realized maybe we were remiss in preparing them for physical confrontation. My husband has never had a fight in his adult life; he's from New Jersey, US (aka, lots of rough talk) and his personality goes a looong way. But they are NOT him. We both agree that we should get them involved in ... something. He's leaning towards jiu jitsu, I am think some basic boxing. This isn't about belts or competition, we just want them to be confident in defending themselves from bullies or on the subway, etc. (YES, we are teaching them basic safety awareness but that's mitigation, not action.)
Despite their bravado, they often shy away from the spotlight, so I am OK with budgeting for private lessons. But where? With who? What am I looking for???? WHO am I looking for?
(We are Americans living in the United Kingdom.)
I need to tell you what I ended up getting into before anything, and I also need to tell you I'm in my 1st year of high school in Brazil , which means I'm 15. Basically a friend of mine (my age) dated this one guy for a bit more than a month, and he was super sweet and caring and did anything for her, but very early on she noticed that, despite her liking what the guy did for her, she didn't really like him at all, so she broke up with him. Very quick relationship, no attachments, no big deal. Well at least that's what she thought, cuz the guy ended up getting super upset and used his "I know a guy" powers to make up a group of I'm guessing 4 people that are like 3 to 4 years older than us to threaten her. They constantly sent her messages saying that they would hunt her down, and it was ignorable to an extent because even though they knew where she lives, it's a massive building, so she has enough protection. They even wanted to schedule a fight which is pretty stupid imo. She wasn't worried until yesterday when they said they knew where we studied and would go to our school to beat her up and ruin her life. That's when she got really scared. Now she's absolutely terrified of leaving school because she has to wait for her mom, and now I'm staying with her until my bus gets there.
Now, we're pretty big girls, at least for our country. I'm 5'5 and she's 5'7, which is a lot taller than the average teenage girl in Brazil. Plus, I have a considerably stronger built than the average grown woman, but that doesn't really apply to her. She's not really skinny, but she's a bit weaker than it would be expected of her for her size. Despite me being pretty strong, none of us have any actual fighting experience. I have thrown a punch here or some cursing there, but not an actual fight. We're talking about a group of people 4 years older than us featuring an 18 year old girl that has been arrested 3 TIMES already. I have a bit of an advantage because they have never seen me, but I might end up getting involved because she needs someone to be around her. She doesn't want to be alone, and I understand that but, despite me hating fights and being actually pretty good with words, I'm a lot more fiery than I look and I'm afraid that, if I end up seeing them, I might say or do something that I'm gonna regret because I have no idea how to protect myself, only how to hurt others and get me fucked up.
Her mom has already called the police about this but I'm not sure if anything has come out of it yet, if it ever will.
I don't want to give any more details, but does anyone have any self defense tips that both of us could use? Anything will be more than welcome. I'm not sure this is gonna get as serious as I'm worried it will, but it's better to be safe than sorry. Life is not an action movie. We know nothing and we need help.
Edit: I do want to add that we do have 3 more friends that know about this and we're never alone, but they also have no fighting skills. The only one that does have experience is way too egocentric to actually notice that he's, in fact, not John Wick, and that would probably get him knocked out in less than a minute. I heard someone say that a person with fighting skills never wants to actually fight, and I kept that in mind since.
i need it for a book im writing
Looking for advice on how to better detect, and how to train myself to detect, possible threats when I’m out and about. I’ve been watching ASP, but I know there’s gotta be more to it. I turned 21 last year, have already been training with and carrying my pew, so I feel now that’s one of the last few things I need to do. It’ll be greatly appreciated.
hi there, i’m traveling in south america and i got robbed.
i would like to have some kind of low-key emergency SOS device where i for example double click a button and it sends SOS to local police with my location, and to emergency contacts like the guard in my bullding.
I know apple watch works for this, but I just feel like it would be kinda obvious as I would need to hold the button for over 5 seconds with my 2nd hand.
Thanks!
I don't know how to start it... But growing up I was always weak. I was picked on growing up. I am so afraid of confrontation. Like even verbal. If someone raised their voice at me I freeze like a dear on headlights. I wanted to learn boxing and other things to get confident in myself. But it's expensive and I'm getting old every day I'm 24 now. I'll be 25 in July. And in mind unless I became a pro boxer or something(I know that is stupid... 😅) I won't be safe. Forget physical... Even verbal confrontation makes me freeze... I am such a pussy. Now walking is good and all... But it feels shitty and not to forget it's embarrassing. I don't want to get into relationship because I think how will I protect her and even what will she think... That her man was afraid in this situation. I really need help this is eating.
What's a good tsa approved product for self defense ?????????
(Before sending this post I gotta say, I'm so sorry for any grammar/vocabulary mistake I make writing this. English isn't my first language and I've been working for the past 9 hours, so my brain is a bit melted. Also, I'm writing this having in mind that first course of action is preventing, then avoiding, then complying, and finally striking, and my post is about the last one of the steps.)
Hey guys, I've been thinking for a couple of days now about something. There are different layers in self defense, being the first and most obvious one to comply, give belongings and avoid contact. Then, depending on situation, one could just run or even strike and run. I believe that's why in this subreddit, all of the discussions are about how to strike and what to train to strike, because it's the most complex of all the steps in my opinion.
Even in self defense training, at least in my experience, they teach how to take certain actions in order to reduce or incapacitate the attacker, so when you get hit training those things, I don't believe you're getting hit in a realistic scenario. Even if you train boxing, BJJ, or most of martial arts, you don't get hit like you would in the streets. The most realistic way of getting hit with that premise would be Muay Thai, but I believe that when they spar they ease on elbows and knees (for obvious reasons). When I say "realistic way of getting hit" I'm having in mind bare knuckle punches and elbows/knees, because when you get in this kind of scenario, you don't get to ask the perpetrator to put on gloves or anything.
Anyways, I don't know if it's necessary or even if it's something that you can get trained on, but in my opinion, when you have to get into it, it's difficult to be prepared to receive the kind of hits that happen usually in real scenarios. Apart from weaponry related strikes, is it important to train getting hit in more real scenarios? And if so, how would you or how have you?
I've been carrying pepper spray over the last 2 years, as i have seen it defeating melee weapons and multiple attackers, i've also seen some cases where it fails to stop a threat, wich has made me doubt about it's effectiveness
I currently have a "Mace brand personal model" that i always carry on my right pocket so i have quick access to it, it meets all the requirements to be as efrective as possible: flip-top, 1.4% major capsaicine, stream pattern, i would ratter have a pom mk1 but Mace it's the only decent brand on my country
So do i need some fighting skills, muscle memory to deploy it and use it or can i just spray and run?
I have a problem since I was a kid. I have trouble punching someone in self-defense. I am afraid to stand my ground when the situation calls for it.
What good is self-defense theoretical knowledge, when a person runs for the woods instead of taking action? What good are muscles, or watching a self-defense video, when a person consistently FAILS to use any of it, for fear of retaliation or escalation? Even in a desperate, deadly situation, a pepper spray will remain in the pocket, just as a knife will, because the user is too afraid.
Taking martial arts classes? Prohibitively expensive. Also, a bit "too late" for someone over 40 with serious lower back issues.
Suggestions? Solutions? Advice?
Hi, I’m thinking on beginning to learn how to be a better shooter (specifically rifle). I know there are courses, but I would like to learn more about proper movement and transitioning between stances (from standing to prone), but I have no idea what this is called. I saw one specifically where a person went from standing to prone by putting one leg out, squatting then go to a sit then a prone. (Maybe even rolled backwards?). I know this is probably too advanced, but what is stuff like this called? Anything would be appreciated, thanks!
( sorry if is hard to understand, english is not my native language)
so i always think about how i could defend myself in a robbery/fight/bully situation, so i watched some self defense videos, i know some techniques now, but im always asked about the weakest point of the head, im not talking about the the face (chin, eyes, nose) im talking about the skull, I studied some bones and their names but I still don't know which one would be the most effective to hit in a fight
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Having a hard time finding them on YouTube . If anyone could link me one I’d be greatly appreciative .
Hello, I am a 27 year old woman in a relationship with another woman. The few times we have gone out together we have gotten unwanted/negative attention from men due to homophobia. I’m afraid one day we’re going to have a confrontation with a man who may want to physically hurt us. I’m thinking of taking self defense classes. I always wanted to do some sort of MMA or boxing. Any advice? I know the correct situation is to always run and deescalate but I’m just trying to prepare for the worst case scenario.
Maybe more generally speaking, I should ask, is it possible that trying to stink as bad as possible and maybe then work towards being effective as a grappler and using stench as a method of attack/submission be effective for self defense?
where should I land a punch to knock someone out? I know a place is the liver but sometimes it’s hard to land a punch past muscle or bones, so is there any other places?
What's a strong, effective, quick strike that can be used to end a confrontation in one move? If I trained an oblique kick/stomp to the kneecap, would that one move be enough to protect myself against a single person (assuming no weapons)? What other strikes would be effective?
First time posting here, so thanks for the help.
I keep getting harassed by aggressive homeless people on the train and on the bus how effective is pepper gel against an attacker who may be high on Fetty and or Meth? I know not to use pepper spray or gel in enclosed spaces and do have a friend who can give me a taste of it so I know exactly what I could be putting people through should I ever have to use it but any real life experience from someone who has been both on drugs and the receiving end would be greatly appreciated I'm not out to maim anybody I just want something besides a knife to carry on me for protection and I'm obviously considering pepper gel.
My girlfriend works at a courthouse, and weapons aren’t allowed in. (Even a fork gets questioned sometimes.)
What can I buy her that could protect her without it appearing dangerous to the security guards?
When I can’t drive her, she commutes through public transit and walking. I wish she could carry the typical taser/pepper spray—so I was hoping this sub may have some tips.
Thanks in advance!
Hello self-defense community. I'm planning on doing a blog post/video about the knife and its use for self-defense. Part of it is studying the types of training and volume of training people have with the knife.
I trained Eskrima and Ninjutsu, but a very long time ago. Both taught knife offense and defense and both had live sparring sessions with wooden knives.
It's really hard to find any martial art school that has knife or legitimate weapons training. Especially one that has live sparring. Eskrima is probably the closest to live weapons combat as they put on armor and beat the hell out of each other with sticks. It's pretty awesome and applicable to a real-life situation.
Please feel free to elaborate on your experience or lack thereof. If you trained what did you train and for how long? If you didn't is it because it's hard to find a school or another reason?
Do you have any knife self-defense/combat training?
If yes please note what type.
Do you still currently train self-defense/combat with a knife?
If yes how often?
If no, when was your last training?
Appreciate all who contribute and participate!
What course is better to learn how to defend myself (22F)? Jiu jitsu, Krav Maga or Wing Tsun? Thank youu
I'm asking from the absolute ignorance. I live in a small-ish city with a low crime rate. In 27 years that I've been around, I've never been in a fight, even though I have gone partying over the years. I've seen fights, but they were mostly between groups over some dumb party disagreement. That's why my personal experience is that there are just a few situations where you can get in trouble, and if it's a robbery thing, people who do that usually tend to do it in a more sneaky manner. I also know that this is just my experience, because there are other cities and countries where things work differently.
Anyways, apart from that, I feel like most of the times, when a self defense scenario comes up, it's usually presented as a 1v1 situation, and what to do when, for example, a dude comes up to you and asks you to give him your wallet.
So yeah, do you think there are more 1v1 self defense situations or more gang/group attacks? (Or what's your experience on this subject?)
I'm currently a college student, and we're prohibited from owning weapons of any kind. I'm also a prime target for bigots due to being transgender, so going without is becoming less reasonable by the day. does anyone know something that's not a weapon, would be reasonable to carry around, but can still win a fight?
Some people don’t want to do MA regularly, and I totally get that 1 day of training could actually create a false sense of confidence.
But ultimately, isn’t confidence and SOME exposure to skills and a few reps better than nothing?
Only asking because I’ve been doing MA my whole like (TKD and BJJ) and a friends wife wants a SD class for her and a few of her friends. I want to do it but a part of me is also thinking, am I putting them more at risk?
I know some of the accessories brand like hyperbae, defender ring and InvisaWear but not sure of their quality. Somebody please suggest from where should I buy?
Maybe hit in the throat or in joints?
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The goal here is to sacrifice all dignity for your safety as well as get away from the situation rather than win the fight with strength. They will go scrambling off without wanting to fight you by the end of it.
1. Grab your pants and boxers, slide everything down to apply a powerful shock debuff on your enemy and because this is an AOE attack, it will impact everyone so it works if ur getting jumped too. Probability of working: 97% (other 3% are the weirdo randoms who don't get fazed. hope you won't encounter em').
2.Instantly begin to piss and let it rip as much as you can. This technique is super effective when you pre-prepare the piss to unload before you apply the technique. Now you have the gun ripping towards em' and can instantly shoot the projectile at your rushing enemies to apply further debuffs. Aim for the eyes for vision debuff. They will stop running at this point and be disgusted. 90% run away by this point but step 3 will guarantee it happens. For the ladies, you can buy some items that help with aim I believe, but not too sure.
I was considering buying pepper spray for my wife as a self-defense tool, but when we talked about it, she mentioned feeling nervous about whether she’d actually use it if the situation called for it.
That got me thinking—how many others who own pepper spray feel the same way? Do you feel any hesitation about using it? If so, why? Is it a lack of confidence? Fear of escalation? Cross-contamination?
I’m really curious to hear from this community. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
When attack is imminent, and you can’t run away, I would assume a fence position with hands raised in a “I don’t want trouble” position, ask a distracting stupid question and immediately strike so I can escape. Has anyone thought about what they might say?
Which one could be more useful in almost every scenario, talking about damage, how many attackers are and those things
I’m a 15 year old guy that stands at 5’6 weighing 106. I don’t like the fact I can folded with ease. What do I learn/ where do I go to be able to defend myself from other, potentially much larger, people. I looked at karate and learned it’s a bunch of bs with peace of mind crap more than actual combat.
It is my dads go- to move when angry. I want to minimize damage without fighting back- if I could feign the injury he's less likely to continue
I’m looking to buy some pepper spray for personal protection and I noticed that Mace brand has a regular pepper spray for $17.99 and a ”tear-gas enhanced” version for $19.99.
Can anyone tell me if one is necessarily better than the other? Are there any drawbacks to getting that “tear-gas enhanced” version besides the fact that it’s $2 extra?
Here are links to the products I’m referring to:
Regular version: https://www.mace.com/products/personal-pepper-spray-neon-pink
Tear-gas enhanced: https://www.mace.com/collections/personal-size-pepper-spray/products/neon-triple-action-personal-pepper-sprays-with-deluxe-keychain
Any advice would be appreciated.
She was followed outside of a nightclub to a spot with no cameras. The man punched her in the back of the head and pushed her down the stairs. She never saw the person. Cops couldn't do anything because she didn't know what he looked like.
What could she have done to mitigate this? If she had been with a friend, what could the friend have done in response?
We should all know the first rule of self-defense is to always avoid conflict.
Step 1: Don’t be an asshole. Step 2: De-escalate. Step 3: Run.
But what if I find myself in a situation where I know that violence or kidnapping is imminent, and I’m not sure if I can outrun the assailant? I’ve never been in a real fight my entire life but I’ve contemplated this situation quite a few times. I believe that my best strategy would be to land a pre-emptive strike to slow down my opponent and run as fast as I can.
But what would that pre-emptive strike look like? What is the best way to immobilize or slow down an opponent in less than 2 seconds? Should I kick my opponent in the shin, the knee or the ankle? Should I stomp on their foot (toes or metatarsal region?)? Should I go for the old fashioned kick to the balls? A push-kick may give me a good head-start but it probably won’t slow them down very much. A punch from me wouldn’t slow them down at all and would probably just boost their adrenaline.
I did a lot of soccer and Taekwando as a kid so kicking is definitely the best option for me, but I’m more interested to hear what advice works best for the general population. IE what would work best for a woman protecting herself from a sexual predator.