Hi,
I can’t afford both. Which should I do first? 29M married no children.
Firearm lessons - already own a 9 MM just don’t know how to use it. Or…
Martial arts self defense.
Plan to do both. But which takes priority? Which is first?
Thanks
Hello all! What should be my first martial arts gym? Near me there are 3 options: krav maga / muay thai / mma (muay thai and BJJ). Im average male, 5' 9 (1.75), 34 years, skinny, goes to gym every week but my cardio sucks (i hate running). My first thought is to visit all 3 gyms and see which one I have the best first impression. (all 3 have really good reviews on google maps). Whats your opinion?
susceptible to robberies or being abused at night ?
I know the recommendation is not to react. However, there is a group of robbers who marked me and said they would kill me if I didn't get what they wanted next time. I have to walk past the same place at night. There is no other way. I need something to defend myself when the robbery occurs. They didn't come armed with guns, i guess, but with knives.
There are two. I can outrun them, but when I was robbed they were hiding and jumped on me. I would need something to stun them and loosen me up and then run
This question is for the guys what would you do if a woman hits you with higher hills shoes in your face couple of times and refuse you to walk away and block you from the corridor and still continue to hit you as many times as she can and as hard as possible?
What would you do in a scenario like that?
Hi, I'm living in the same house with an aggressive-ish dog and don't know how to protect myself. It growls at me frequently and I'm afraid it will bite me someday. The dog belongs to my parents. I live with them because I have a chronic illness and am financially dependent, so I can't just move out.
I don't know what kind of protective device to get, but if I do get one, it will have to be something covert because if my parents found out about it, they would probably forbid me to use it on their dog. (By the way, they refuse to believe that there's a problem.)
Are there budget-friendly, covert devices out there that are effective enough to deter an aggressive dog?
So first, no names locations. Im going to be brief. I met a girl,(absolutely no adult themes, just friends she was clear from the get go and I respected it, )we live very near each other and suddenly things just did a 180. Over the last week there's been strange vehicles in the road on front of the building and the neighbors camera picked up several ppl running around the cars, this is all at around 1a-3a. So I found out almost everything she told me about her life is a lie. She shifts blame to different ppl depending on what guy she talks to. So I'm not concerned about her but how should I properly handle this? I distanced myself today, she instantly exploded,to be expected, I know she was just using me. So my main question: this is a tactic to get me to run her errands, I know that but all the other stuff I hear, she knows I hear it, it's all for show right?
Every time I go somewhere, people walk all over me. Literally. People will run into me, shove me, elbow me, step out in front of my way so that I have to move around them; I’m tired of being the one who moves around people, I want them to move around me for a change!
The reason this happens is I look physically weak. I’m short, 5’3, and very thin.
However, I have a stick with me when I go for walks on the beach or at the park. I hold it at an angle to make distance between me and whoever is walking near me. I’ve noticed that they will move out of my way then. No shoving or elbowing me when I’ve got that stick!
I obviously can’t hold a stick when I go to every day places. But I was wondering if there is maybe something similar I can have with me to keep people from doing this. Any suggestions will be greatly appreciated!
When ever im in public, a lot of the times I avoid eye contact with most people I walk by, not because im scared or feel intimitated I just dont feel like striking a conversation, or have to be polite or nice. But when I look away with my eyes, my ears become my eyes and im very aware of what is going on around me, But I always wondered do i appear weak for doing this?
I walk with confidence and purpose, I dont appear weak physically and im aware of my surroundings. Just want to clarify its not like im purposely looking the other way, I just pretty much look past them just no eye contact with 100% of the people I walk past
Hi, my daughter is 10 and wants to start coming and going places alone, meaning school, or close by places, like a shop.
We live in a mainly safe place, small town in Portugal and everything is at walking distance. The main problem are cars running very fast and a certain group of people that usually won't give any problems, but at some given moments they are known for even attacking other people.
I'm not letting her go alone when it's dark or to anywhere I don't know, but I'd like to start training her about dangerous stuff and how to defend or avoid situations.
She's not very tall, and is skinny, which honestly would make it easier for someone with evil intentions to grab her.
Thanks so much for everything 💪
My summer break is ending and I am returning to high school this Wednesday. However I live in a school with a lot of wannabe gang members and fights and before the break I had made a lot of "enemies" and I'm worried about getting attacked by multiple people is there any way I can avoid this aside from staying near staff members (it's a bit school staff members can be scarce) at this point I don't know what to do
I’ve been thinking about but a 12 Gauge for Home defense, but part of me says I don’t actually need it. My reasoning for this being that my defensive arsenal already includes: a Glock 17 chambered in 9mm(Hollowpoints), a Colt M1911 chambered .45 ACP(Hollowpoints), a Ka-Bar USMC Combat Knife, a baseball bat, and a pair of brass knuckles. In the event of a Home-invasion, how fucked am I really without a 12 Gauge?
I wanted to talk about an encounter with an aggressive drug addict I had today and get some thoughts on whether I handled the entire thing correctly. Today in my lunch break I met up with my mom for lunch and we sat down outside at a restaurant located at a busy plaza in my town. I mention this because I want to highlight that the entire thing happened in broad daylight and with plenty of witnesses. Shortly after we arrived, a somewhat disheveled-looking guy about my age (late 20s, maybe he was slightly older) with slightly dirty clothes sat down two tables away from us. He has a black eye and some other light markings of injury on that side of his face and he seems to be mumbling to himself, so I'm already kind of wary and try to avoid eye-contact. I notice the waiters having a similar reaction, but they nonetheless take his order.
After a few minutes, a couple with a small child walks past us - well not exactly past us, they were like 20-30 meters away from us - and the child is bawling her eyes out. The guy starts yelling at the child telling it to be quiet, calls it "mentally handicapped" and imitates a crying sound. My mom and I are beginning to feel uncomfortable at this point. I start thinking about whether I should step in some form, but he luckily stops after a few seconds. The couple didn't react, I'm not sure if they even noticed as the plaza was quite busy.
The homeless guy begins unboxing a seemingly new pair of wireless earplugs. Luckily, aside from mumbling to himself, he just sits there and sips on his drink peacefully. However, a few minutes later, after I had almost forgotten he was there, he suddenly gets up and first walks towards and then right around our table while muttering something unintelligible to himself before returning to his table and sitting back down. At this point, I'm getting more uncomfortable and start to consider changing tables. My mum is increasingly wary of the guy also. Nonetheless, we stay put. The guy clearly seems confused but aside from yelling at that couple earlier, he hasn't done anything yet. But then, like a minute later, I'm suddenly hit on the cheek by some projectile. I'm like wtf is going on here; I look down at what just hit me and it turns out it's the charging box or whatever you call it of homeless guy's new earplugs. I'm still thinking about what I should be doing when the guy stands up, walks over to our table, and picks up the charging thingy. My mom, who is equally shocked as me, confronts the guy and asks him what he thinks he's doing and tells him that he has injured me which is kind of an exaggeration as the hit didn't really hurt. Meanwhile, I'm still figuring out my course of action, so I just downplay it and say it wasn't that bad, trying to de-escalate the situation for now. Ngl, I was also a bit scared in that moment. Guy doesn't apologize but says he has Tourette syndrome and some neuro-something spasticity (don't remember exactly what he said) that causes him to sometimes lose control of his motor skills or something like that. All the while he's walking around looking for his earplugs which he apparently also threw away when he threw the charging box at me. He goes to another table where an elderly couple is sitting and out of nowhere just picks up on of the chairs at that table to look for his missing earplug which the couple of course isn't too thrilled by, but they don't say anything, perhaps because he looks and acts kind of erratic and aggressive.
So to finish this up as I already wrote a literal essay, eventually nothing happens, he sits back down and we stay at the table because my mom said she didn't want to provoke the guy by changing tables. He gets a talking to from one of the waiters and we quickly finish our lunch and leave. Even though nothing really happened in the end, I still felt kind of emasculated if I'm being honest. Like this guy threw stuff at me, didn't apologize and I just took it and even tried to de-escalate. I even told the waiter that everything was fine and that it was no big deal even though I was fuming inside and felt very uncomfortable with the situation. I'm not a small guy (6ft, not super muscular but also not super thin) but have no fighting experience and I kept thinking that this guy could have a knife or something. I still felt like I could have stood up for myself a bit more even when de-escalating if that makes sense.
Anyway. Sorry if something is unclear, English is my 2nd language.
Does carrying pepper spray visibly on a keychain in your hands when you're walking outside/around in public help deter an attack before it happens?
I'm not asking if pepper spray can stop an attack in progress or if it even works against attackers.
Would having a visible self-defense tool likely make the criminal choose an easier target than you?
