“Gangster” blocking me from getting into my car

This is a story I wanted to share here after processing it for about a week. Feel free to share similar experiences and advice for dealing with something like this in the future. So this mall is about to close and I need to get something last minute so I park in the spot closest to the entrance which happened to be next to this tinted out bucket. I park and sit there on my phone for a sec before leaving and making my purchase. For info I’m a big dude but I’m definitely not the type to pick out a fight or need to prove something. So I come out to this dude pro clubbed out sitting on his trunk hands in his hoodie sitting close to my driver side. He’s staring me down as I come up to my car and he says “hey you hit my car when you pulled up” he looks nervous saying this and keeps his hands clutched in his hoodie. I told him that I didn’t hit his car and if he could show me where and he pointed to nothing claiming he “cleaned it” already. He kept mad dogging me and he even pulled my door to contradict himself but show how I hit his car when I opened my door which also didn’t happen. The whole time I was calm but slightly pissed. At the moment I knew it was some bull shit but the nervous look in dudes eyes and his shakiness had me realizing that he could’ve had a knife or a gun ready if I decided to argue or match his energy. I remained calm and spoke to him in a understanding and respectful manner. I even ended up fist bumping him to say it’s mutual respect cause let’s be honest any gangster could agree that homie was tripping over nothing and is stupid for wanting to risk his life over a fantasy in his head. Hopefully this dude doesn’t pull the same thing on someone looking for trouble.

Submitted October 03, 2023 at 05:28AM by igotdnfy420 https://ift.tt/udY31GH

Pepper Spray Use Studies

Are there any studies/statistics on the (effective) use of pepper spray by civilians in self defence?

Could you, say, take a sample of the population that carry pepper spray and ask them if they have ever used it, and when, and whether it worked?

My hunch is—for those who carry pepper spray—the vast, vast majority have never used the spray in self defence, let alone used it effectively.

Submitted October 03, 2023 at 05:31AM by Sonosh https://ift.tt/CjM8mYI

have you ever wore a helmet in a fight?

as the title, have you ever wore a helmet in a fight? as in a motorcycle helmet or similar?

ive been thinking, and they seem ideal to protect you from being knocked out

Submitted October 02, 2023 at 06:33PM by shailan_gsa https://ift.tt/ubhZWB7

Something locking me

So I'm studying Wing Chun and something is locking me but I don't know what it locks me to shoot a punch at my partner.

Maybe because when I got hitted, I go soft on him because it was too harmful that I don't want to hurt him much, I'm very empathetic. Or maybe I heard news after news of fights, brawl and yesterday in the evening someone got stabbed and now I'm scarred.

I want to ask to my Master this feeling but I can't explain because I don't know in the specific what it stops me.

Submitted October 02, 2023 at 02:25AM by GiveYourPaw https://ift.tt/7CRHQ6k

Can the side kick be used for pushing someone?

Sorry for the lack of clarity, since there is a character limit. The front push kick is usually used for pushing, but would the side kick work too? I'm talking specifically about somebody heavier and stronger than you charging at you and throwing a punch. The reason I'm considering using the side kick for it is because your body will naturally lean back, thus dodging his punch. So does the side kick work for this situation like a push kick would?

Submitted October 01, 2023 at 11:09PM by KingMaximusOfCamelot https://ift.tt/WPrqpZ7

Third video of using a stun gun on myself

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Submitted October 01, 2023 at 05:04PM by jaime_lion https://ift.tt/xVOrq3S

Did I use reasonable force in this situation?

In your opinion, did I use reasonable or excessive force whilst threatened by a larger man?

Hello,

to begin I have already filed a police complaint, and talked to a solicitor for legal advice. This is NOT a post asking for legal advice, I am just writing this to see if you guys would have done the same thing?

TL;DR:

After pulling out in front of me in his car and pulling over, a man put his hand on my chest, and i removed his hand and push him backwards lightly, and warning him not to touch me. he responds by threatening to knee me in my face, and gestures to do so. He steps towards my girlfriend and I put my hand out to stop him, he pushes me back forcefully, and so I hit him 3-4 times. The fight lasted less than 2 seconds, I was not punched but pushed twice after warning him about touching me. I punched first. He calls the police claiming to be the victim of a assault. Police have CCTV that I have not seen yet. Police say I have nothing to worry about, but asked me to come to station to provide statement.

Context:

I am 21, 5’7. 64 kg

The other guy is probably around 35 to 40, 5”10 80 kg

A car pulled out in front and barely gave me any time to react, I managed to swerve off and avoid hitting him and I honk my horn at him.

We pull over in a nearby shopping centre car park as he was headed there too.

He says “Did I scare ya?”. with a smirk.

I respond along the lines of “You don’t know how to drive, you nearly caused a crash without checking your mirrors”

As I continue walking towards the entrance, he meets me in the middle.

This guy gets up in my face and says whilst touching and pointing his finger at my chest and says “You’re just a little boy and i’m a man” for some reason even though this had nothing to do with anything.

I push his hand away from my chest, then pushing him slightly backwards, and repeatedly warn him “Don’t touch me”.

After I push him back, he storms back and gets in my face to grit his teeth and say “Don’t fcking touch me?! I’ll knee you in your fcking face!” whilst lifting his knee up as if he was going to knee me.

I repeat that I don’t want him to touch me.

His wife and mother get out of the car, and say to me “That’s all you can say?” whilst laughing, which I think egged his ego on.

My girlfriend says something along the lines of “You’re saying you’re a man but you came up to us and started acting aggressively.”

I think this hurt his ego, he took one step towards my girlfriend and I put my hand out towards him, he walks into my hand but I stop him from getting any closer to my girlfriend.

As he walks into my hand I lightly push him backwards away from my girlfriend but it was not anything that would cause him to fall over.

In response he shoves me and I go backwards but in response I punched him in the body, and head with my left hand and with my right hand.

The last punch spun him around and he stumbled backwards a few metres.

I didn’t chase him, i stood there but prepared myself in case if he would come back to punch me or something. He didn’t, he had a small wound near his cheek but I don’t know what other damage was done to his mouth.

Like clockwork, the guy pulls out his phone and calls 999, telling a story of how he was a victim, approached by me, and how I physically assaulted him with no reason, and says he wants to press charges.

He completely disregards him and his family trying to escalate the situation, his threat to knee me in my face, him acting aggressively and gesturing to knee me. Shouting at me, and shouting at my girlfriend. I walk away from the man with my girlfriend back to my car.

I called 999 to let them know that I just had to defend myself and my girlfriend against an aggresor. The operator said as the situation was already over, to just leave the area and call 101 if I wanted to make a complaint. Which is what I did. I filed a complaint after getting in my car and leaving, and contacted my solicitor.

1 hour later, the police turn up at my door, to ask what had happened. I explained my side of the story, told them that he lied to the police about not being the aggressor. The police said they had CCTV footage of the incident. They said that I don’t have anything that i need to “majorly worry about” but that on a separate date i need to go to the station to give a statement as the other guy had done so.

The police also said that if I was in serious trouble they would be arresting me at the door, but they’re just asking me to come in for a statement. I have asked my solicitor to come with me for legal advice.

MY QUESTION BELOW

For his aggressive demeanour, verbal threat, and actions - in your guys’ opinion did I respond with the appropriate amount of force?

This is not me seeking legal advice, as my solicitor is speaking with me tomorrow. Just wanted to know if you guys would have done the same?

Thank you.

Submitted October 01, 2023 at 01:00PM by No_Emphasis_8898 https://ift.tt/uo6awt5