I got beat up in a fight yesterday and I need to learn how to defend myself. If anybody can give me any workouts or routines for boxing defense or breathe control I’d appreciate it
Hi, for context, I know the question seems like common sense. But I'm 20 in college and have these people that for some reason love shitting on me. I never talked back in my life because I was afraid of it escalating physically. If I learn to fight, will this mental roadblock automatically go away, or are there psychological things I need to go through as well, such as therapy, etc...?
I'm not able to get a gun anytime soon. I live in a somewhat sketchy place and my brother can become a rage filled monster when he isn't high. I'd like to get something for home defense and was wondering what might be useful? Like wood bs aluminum bat, taser, etc
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cAIiF1DlFDs
I know this is a movie but what I've seen is that he mostly use palm hits and throws. How accurate is those moves on real life scenarios. Do you use palm strike?, It is better to strike with a punch or palm?.
Ive never boxed before, and im interested in learning to box simply for the purpose of being able to defend myself in a fight, if one happens.
this apparently is not the place to ask said questions
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Today I went to IKEA and on the escalator I unfortunately stood in somebody’s personal space without realizing it. I stood one step below the guy and but on the other side of the escalator. It was not intentional, it just happened. His girlfriend stood one step in front of the guy. The escalator moved up and I did not move or made the impression I want to walk up the escalator.
The person in front of me looked pretty muscular who either fights or does rugby or similar sport with heavy physical contact. He turned around and asked me if i want to stand next to him or what. That’s when i completely froze down. I simply said “No, thank you”. I felt so awkward and frozen that i did not even said ‘apologies, i did not want to get in your personal space’ or simply took a step back. I simply stared in front of me frozen and feeling intimidated by the guy while the guy looked at me. I was just waiting for the escalator ride to be over and go the other way. I noticed his girlfriend was tugging his hand to turn around. So I expect this could have ended a lot worse if it was not Saturday morning and IKEA but after some alcohol in a bar. I’m also a guy, decent shape but would have had no chance if the other guy decides to beat me up.
I would like to hear how i can react better to de escalate and remove myself from the situation and avoid just simply freezing on the spot. Thank you!
I have encountred some dogs lately and i was lucky to be able to escape byt i js wanna know js in case ahat i should do if any wild dog attacks me, how can i escape without any major injuries.
Whenever I go to the bus stop, there are always stray dogs laying on the side of the road. They're nearly always acting aggressive towards me, running up to me and barking. It was scary, but I have to keep going, so after a while they always leave me alone. But today was different. They ran up to me once again, but this time one bit me lightly. I didn't run or anything, but was pretty terrified of the experience. I'm now afraid for my safety. What works best against dogs? Dog spray, paper spray? Will it guarantee that they leave me alone (maybe learn that I have something nasty to use against them and be afraid to approach me)? I appreciate any advice, since I'm scared going outside now
It’s this slutty hot white girl at this university in az but we had a bit of a falling out and now all of a sudden she wants to see me and link. But I have a feeling it might be a set up so I wanted to bring protection bc well you know how white man are . They will try to jump you etc etc but I’m never lacking so that’s why I ask the question above
I was googling "self defence steel bottles"
and came across a few TikTok videos on
Tundra Defender v1
https://tundradefender.com/products/tundra-defender-water-bottle
Whilst they do have PayPal. I do think it is a bit sketchy.
Also I just notice it does not have the size or how much liquid it holds,
What are your thoughts on this product?
What are your thoughts and bringing together the best items to make a great self defence bottle?
I walk a lot and I have been running into some weird situations. Walking down a sidewalk away from anything public. But it's common to see people walking it occasionally. As you need to cross this part to get to the main part of the town.
This has happened 3 times now. I start walking on one side so as to not run into the person. 3 times now I notice the person walking towards me switches to my lane. I keep my head down but eyes up so I can check them out. So I see them intentionally walk into my path.
The first guy I just switched lanes. But as I was walking past him I noticed his arms were very tense. And I took a quick glance at him and his eyes were just on me. He also had a ton of tattoos. I typically associate people with a lot of tattoos as emotional. Loose cannon.
He is also obviously a immigrant from Mexico. So I think tattoos are a little different in Latino culture right?
2nd guy did the same thing but he was a little bit drunk. And said " get the fuck away from me" as I walked past him.
3rd guy same thing walked into my lane so I switched. His arms were very tense as well. Like he was ready to unload one on me.
I don't want these guys to get the jump on me. If they walk into my lane for a 2nd time after I move. Should I smoke him. Because for me walking into me the 2nd time is obviously aggressive right?
I am a purple belt in jiujitsu but no striking and I have been out of training for a little over 6 months.
Hi everyone,
I’m interested in learning self-defense using a tactical flashlight. I have no prior experience with martial arts or self-defense courses.
Could you please suggest free resources—YouTube videos, PDFs, manuals, or any guides—that can help me learn tactical flashlight techniques safely and effectively?
Links or recommendations would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks!
im certainly not an advocate for womens rights but i women should be able to carry anything they want for defense. pepper spray, knife, gun.....
unfortunately in australia u arent allowed to carry anything u intend to use for defense nothing worthwhile anyway
This answers most of the questions that I see on here:
Hello, I hope it's ok to post this query here, but mods please do let me know if not.
I (F) have a non-violent (F) stalker who has now found out my current workplace, and it is close to where they live. I want to prepare myself for if this person starts showing up outside my workplace and following me at lunchtimes or on the way home. Maybe trying to get into my personal space and force a personal/social relationship. (I have gone to the police but there doesn't seem to be much they can do yet.)
I am thinking of getting a personal alarm and would be grateful for recommendations, thank you.
I'd also be grateful for tips on use. Because this stalker is female and doesn't physically threaten me (and I am bigger than her), if I set the alarm off I don't think passers-by would easily understand the threat?
If anyone has any other practical suggestions for my personal sense of safety around my workplace, or has experience of dealing with a non-violent stalker in public places, I'd very much appreciate tips or advice.
TIA!
What weapon or tool would be enough to fend of 1 or multiple attackers in your home ? would co2 or pcp riffle be enough ? or should i use other stuff like pepper spray (spray in my own home)? Also stuff like bats won't they be hard to use/swing in tight spaces
Something really intense and awful happened, and I could use some advice. My head is still spinning. I gave a quick statement to the police when they showed up, but now I'm second-guessing everything. I was driving and looked and saw something horrific at a gas station I was passing. A guy was on top of a woman, grabbing her hair and just smashing her head into the concrete over and over. I honestly thought I was watching him murder her, so I slammed on the brakes and pulled over to help. When I got closer, the scene was pure chaos. I could hear another man on the ground shouting, "Help me, I've been shot!" The attacker was still on top of the woman, who was desperately fighting him for a gun. In the middle of it all, I yelled out, "Whose gun is it?" The woman screamed back, "It's his, please help me!" That was it for me. He was still hitting her, and she was begging for my help. I drew my firearm and yelled at him to get off of her. Thankfully, the moment he saw I had a gun, he stopped and ran off. I told the police what happened when they got there. But now that the adrenaline is gone, I'm just sitting here completely terrified. I keep replaying it in my head. I'm just wondering, am I going to be in any trouble for this? Did I do the right thing?
When i remove his hand he starts acting up
Whats the best way to handle this situation
I usually smile and walk away
Break his fingers? Well its in school tho.
Basically I (18M) want to learn self defense but I've never actually done it or stayed consistent with learning. Logically, I know that nobody is born knowing how to fight properly, and you don't know how until you're taught. As with any learned skill. So no one is going to mock me for not knowing what I'm doing in the beginning. Logically I know this. But I have anxiety, autism, and horrible self confidence due to being bullied into isolation my whole life.
I'm so used to being the outcast, and being beaten down (emotionally) that I've started hurting myself (again, emotionally) as much as others do. I want to learn self defense but my brain always cycles through degrading thoughts such as "You're weak, and you'll always be weak. They're gonna see how weak you are and you'll look stupid. Why would anyone bother to teach someone as incapable of you? You'll never be like your brother. Blah blah blah self hatred blah blah blah." Yeah, that's probably stupid, but it is keeping from doing this (and plenty of other things) and I don't know how to get over it.
It's not like I have no confidence. I'm confident in my appearance, my writing, my art, my intelligence, my humor. I don't think there's nothing good about me. But strength is not a trait I'd use to describe myself, physically speaking. I know what I'm good at and I tend to stay in my comfort zone. I'm terrified to step out of it and I don't even know if I can.
Anyway. I know I talk too much, I just want to provide enough context. Maybe this isn't the right place for this post but I was just wondering if anyone here had the same experience and was able to overcome it.
I feel like its especially important for me to learn because I'm part of a marginalized community and don't live in the most tolerant area, so who knows when someone might try to hurt or kill me🤷🏻♂️
Which exercise is the easiest to repeat and progress at to improve punching and slap strength.
How do you assess you are actually getting stronger?
Self Defense YouTube Channels recommendations?
TLDR : A 5'9 160 lb dude nearly blinded me and started kicking my head in and now I've lost faith in myself as a martial artist
I (28M) am a pretty strong and large guy, I'm 6ft2 and 240lb or so, I've been strength training since I was in my early teens , I played football in school and trained BJJ, I've been in a couple of scraps in my teens and early 20s but nothing remotely serious, with no real injuries
I have however been the guy that usually de-escalates or breaks up fights, I've done that quite a few times, owing to my size and presence people usually calm down quick and don't take this further (believe it or not I've gotten a few dates from doing this). I've never had to restrain anyone or use any violence before to achieve a de-escalation or break up a fight.
Last month though my entire world got rocked when I tried to break up a fight between 2 guys in a bar. I live in Seattle but was visiting a my sister who lives and Vancouver and we were out at a bar and these 2 guys were screaming at eachother for a good 5 minutes, the bartenders steered clear and looked scared to act and a lot of the patrons so I stepped in.
I tried to talk to them calmly but before I could think one guy just smashed a beer bottle over my head and left shards in my left eye, then used the bottle to stab my eye further, the pain was so goddamn intense , he then flicks out a riot baton , hits me in the knee several times before I go down and then when I'm on the floor he starts kicking in my head, after maybe 4 or 5 kicks he runs away.
Neither of these guys were caught and the police haven't done shit to even try and get them or really put any effort into investigating since the security footage in the area is too low quality and none of the witnesses knew them at all. From my description of them men police have concluded that they were most likely Asian gang members.
I was discharged from the hospital 2 weeks ago and I feel shattered BJJ was my life almost, I met my fiance through it and it has left me totally unprepared for real life violence, Ill admit feel so powerless and insecure, I'm in therapy now and will try and get back to my old self but I won't lie, I've lost a lot of self confidence.
Not sure if this question was asked before, but if combat sports are a bad idea for self defense, that what is the alternative ?
I regularly watch Active Self Protection on YouTube, I take in more war footage than I should (working on it with my therapist), and I train while using games like Ground Branch and Ready or Not to be comfortable with the headspace of "this is chaos, find your way through or find your way out). With that being said, I watch these videos and go through video game scenarios, and sometimes I see moments where it was always in the cards, and it seems you or the person you're watching are destined to die, even if you're the good guy. How do you, as someone who dreads a self-defense scenario but wants to come out on top, overcome the worry that "the moment you engage this threat, you will die". Even if I train enough, even if I intake these videos on thinking about this or that, I'm terrified of being the person who doesn't even get a chance to end the threat or get out alive.
17M. I want to learn self defense, not any particular martial arts. Something that is actually useful, like mix of muay thai, boxing and all. I have a punching bag at home and some wraps. What can I possibly do with my stuff.
Female, living in an unsafe environment with sibling who has a load of mental illness along with bipolar. No one in the house takes my concerns serious enough even though I’ve tried expressing how unsafe I feel. This person is a literal ticking time bomb. He often does childish things that seem to provoke me, which I feel will enable him to have a reason to attack me if I choose to respond one day. I have one canister of pepper spray but I think it’s a relatively cheap brand that I don’t think will be as affective. I have a hammer but he will easily outweigh me considering that he has his own punching bag he’s been hitting for the past 2 years by now, and he weighs much more than me. I can tell he would easily disorientate me from one punch alone. I don’t think a taser will do much because he could jump on or at me anytime but also that I believe he is that mental enough that it probably will anger him so much that he wouldn’t notice any pain. Believe me, I’ve called the cops several times to which they’ve all done nothing, and everyone pretty much enables him to keep the peace and I have No safe place to go either. I am reaching an end mentally that I feel that I will snap and find a way to kill him or have to during self defense. I am not looking to kill him and I don’t ever want to own a gun so that’s not an option.
I had an incident today that’s stuck in my head. I had just finished a workout at the gym and was walking home when some crackhead started following me, asking for cigarettes. I said no multiple times, but he kept persisting and eventually pushed me. I warned him that if he touched me again, I’d defend myself. He then swung at me first, so I punched him once in the face and walked away.
I wasn’t scared of him I knew I could handle him physically but it frustrated me that he kept pushing my boundaries after I’d made it clear I wanted to be left alone.
I’ve never hit anyone before, and I’m still replaying it in my head. I don’t feel bad about defending myself, but I’m angry it even had to get to that point. part of me knows I should've just ran away but I guess i was already in a bit of flight or fight, was in the wrong? I feel like I stooped down to his level out of anger and adrenaline
For anyone who’s been in similar situations:
How do you shut things down earlier before it escalates?
How do you set firmer boundaries without sounding aggressive?
And how do you deal with the anger and adrenaline that lingers afterward?
I’d like to feel more prepared next time without things getting physical if possible.
I recently had an close encounter that got me thinking I know almost nothing about how these things happen, is there a typical situation or way in which a dog attacks etc. I'm looking to hear your experiences, lessons and tips.
Did it work? What brand/product did you use? I take walks in the neighborhood and need something to protect myself.
I'm sorry if this is a dumb question, but I don't hang out at these places much. In general is it better just to avoid them?
