Has anyone experienced or seen a situation where it is used and it worked?
I only did it once but it wasn't in a fight, but when I was 7 or 8 years old I kicked my 15-year-old brother from behind to see what would happen. I saw that it works very well but I don't know if in the context of a fight it will be the same...
At my school this one kid keeps physically agressing me nothing bad just taking stuff from me and being rude like calling me retard I'm not worried about that but he said he would punch me tomorrow I don't want to fight him what should I do I know for a fact I could beat him I do judo and know taekwondo and he does no sport I have no idea I just don't want to hurt him and I don't want to fight anyone. We are also similar size and weight I am slightly stronger though
Early today 7/27/25 after a long night of heavy drinking at a bar with friends and a couple of aqueantances, we decided to continue the party at one of my friends house. At the moment we were fine listening music, drinking and I even cooked for the whole gang everything seemed fine until this fat ass decided to talk politics for whatever reason. Initially we all ignore him, but the dude was getting really into it relentlessly.
I was sitting at my friend's sofa sipping my beer, and this dude started to ask my opinion about our country politics (not the USA). Initially I avoided the whole thing and I even asked him to changed the topic because he was killing the vibes. Then this leftist imbecile kept talking and calling people "ignorant", but after my friend talked to him he initially lower the tone a bit and even asked me to engage with him about it. In the end, I ended up conceding and dude started to ask me what were my opinions, and I'm not even 3 sentences in and this lard ass is either interrupting me, randomly switching topics, or asking me questions when I haven't had the chance to answer the very first question. As a result, I ended up giving up because it was impossible to sustain a conversation and said "dude I'm not even engaging with you either change the topics or talk to the wall".
At this point, I am still calm and continued drinking on the sofa minding my own business and then for whatever reason fatso kept taunting me and persistently trying to talk politics with me. Finally, I snapped talked over him, and said "dude I don't want to talk to you period". l
The tub of shit started to get so freaking aggressive to the point that he wanted to continue talk but got furious because I ignored him. This dude started to resume to name callings and even insulted my whole family and claimed that we were "inferior" then I told him his "mother is a whore" and he threatened me and wanted to go physical in which I replied "it won't be easy". The second I said that, Shamu went to the kitchen and grabbed a knife, but my friends separated him from me, however this dude grabbed a beer bottle and threw it at me.
That is when I snapped and punched him and broke his nose it must have been the adrenaline in me, but I also managed to push him on the couch were I was sitting and putting him face down keeping the knife away from both of us.
Eventually we got separated, and when he cooled off we awkwardly shake hands and I avoided him until he finally left with blood stained shirt (some of his got in mine too).
I'm in disbelief that this happened a few hours ago.
I been looking a pepper spray because I can't carry a tazer in my state. I started to think about what if some one attacked me from behind or mange to pin me down. im a small and petite woman so It will be extremely easy for a person to use theirs strength to attack me should I get a pocket knife as well but I Also read it easy for someone to just take the knife away during a struggle. Am I overthinking this? Any advice on what I should do.
So something happened in the subway (nyc). Packed train I walk in and accidentally bump into this guy. He gets ticked off and threatens to spit and shoot me the next time I touch him. I ignore him and turn my back to him as he spills the words. Honestly I felt a little fear and intimidation but it quickly dissolved? I don't pay much attention and then turn to see what he does when at the bext stop when people exit. He actually spits at some people who exit the train. I notice there's some bulge in the sweater pocket. It's like a plastic bag crumbled and shoved inside.
I exit the same way I came in and this time I tell him "going out" not "excuse me". But my voice is at a 5/10 in loudness. And honestly I'm feeling pissed off at myself. Thinking "He was around my height and maybe my weight. I coulda taken him lol" but I didn't do shit. I didn't freeze I just ignored him. But felt like I gave him the win by saying "going out".
I'm angry because I'm this so called blank guy or says whatever and moves on. Or a ruffian cowboy who's tough and shit. That has ideas on how to harm. But when the time comes idk I guess I just wait to see if it escalates. Then when nothing happens like right now I'm kicking myself and telling myself to put my mouth where my money is. That I shoulda made the move. I have zero fighting experience actually. I feel like this leads me more towards the pushover.
Hello people! I am 17F, starting college from 1 aug. My college will be far away from home, a 1hr or 1.5hr journey, in an area I know nothing about. I don't trust the college crowd either to assume I'll be safe inside the campus. The city I live in is not safe for women, there are predators everywhere. I want to learn self defense but my schedule once college starts will be quite hectic, so can't attend regular classes. So I thought of practicing bit by bit at my house.
I am quite skinny, so I feel like I'll be an easy target + a man can easily pick and throw me away. I am not too weak though as people assume that I must be bed resting every other week due to eating disorders, I am healthy. I feel if I practice regularly I can build some strength.
It has been bugging me for a while. What I'll do if a situation like that arises?
Any suggestions of what self-defense items, like pepper spray, I should carry and any yt channel that could help with some moves and hits? Any items like punching bags I shall purchase that can facilitate me?
Like its easyer to sneak into places you can get it from basically any supermarket
Interested in a handful of channel recommendations pertaining to BASIC self-defense tips and advice. I'm not interested in becoming a jujitsu expert, I just want to learn basic self-defense techniques (deflections, submission holds, etc). Really appreciate any suggestions!
I'm a short man (5'4"/175lbs.) and crime has gotten bad in my city. Just want to be able to stand my ground if and when running away isn't an option. Thanks again for any advice.
If you don’t have a gun, is it better to defend yourself with a hammer or a screwdriver against a pitbull? I don’t want to depend on sprays as pits are designed to keep going until dead. Is it easier to crush their head with a hammer or stab their eye out to neutralize them?
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Hi., I'm in my late 50s and I don't feel confident in joining a self-defence course full of younger people, although I might.
Is anybody aware of any such courses for the "overs", ideally in West Birmingham.
It has to be specifically about self-defence not generic martial arts.
I'm on low income but I don't mind paying for that.
Thanks.
It was my friends friend who was insulting me as an "joke" and i insulted bakc he didnt take it well and threatened me and ik he will do it he has like 10 records of beating people up hes been kicboxing 5 years and he knows more street people and he himself has knifes batons pepper spray etc how do i get myself out of this
Today I got approached by some 10-12 year old ukrainan kids. They said that they need 20 czk (a little less than a dollar). When I said no they pulled out a pepper spray. After I saw it I started running but they followed. I told and adult on a nearby tram stop and ran away. I am still a teenager and I don't know what to do in these types of situations. Can anyone help me out please?
(Sorry for bad English, not my first language)
Wrestling vs BJJ for smaller guy vs bigger guy
Looking into learning self defense.
I know boxing is a good self defense to know for throwing your hands but what about grappling?
Is it safe to say that wrestling is for if you’re strong enough to pick up and slam everyone you fight? But BJJ is for all sizes?
Like a 5’7-5’8 160 pound wrestler vs a 6’2 220 pound guy would go worse than a 5’7-5’8 160 pound BJJ vs a 6’2 220 pound guy right? Since it focuses on holds and leverage?
Do i have a chance against somebody a couple years older, 188cm+, 90kgs plus
So I’ve seen a couple videos online of self defense training using a POV video scenario that you can react to in real time. Thought it would be good at home training but I can’t find the actual video to play on my screen. Anybody know where to look for one of them?
So check me! I am interested in purchasing a Retractable Baton to use obviously as a means of self defense to compliment my mace and fighting skills. This would only be in the case of multiple attackers. In a one on one, I'd destroy them single handedly!
My question is what is a good retractable baton make and model that is durable? I've heard of ASP but they have so many I don't want to pick one that isn't battle tested!
P.S. I got the idea of a retractable baton from the video game Watch Dogs lol!! I am good with tech also, so Remember, the worse enemy is the one they can't see coming! "Mic Drop"
I recently stumbled across a self defense tool that is a little ball shaped packet and when you squeeze it it pops and disperses some sort of irritant powder.
Does anyone know what these are called? I’m trying to find them but my searches aren’t bringing it up.
And do you think they’re at least somewhat effective or just a total gimmick?
i'm a 23yo woman living in Belguim (have never lived anywhere else) and yeah, title. it's getting to the point that i'm afraid of my front door. i'm a metalhead through and throughdo ofc in this heat i'm gonne dress cool asf. i haven't worn an outfit i can call pretty outside in months because if i do, i just know my history with creeps will be repeated; -'you're a real life OF girl, let me see some' (i am not one of those online attention seekers) -'you should come sit here' touches himself -stalked me through the whole town taking pictures of me until a kind man who saw stood by me, the stalker was only stopped by me getting on a bus last minute -sits next to me at an empty bus station, arm and leg fully touching mine. i got up immediatly and went to the other side of the bus station to hide behind a wall
i don't ever want to step outside again without either my man by my side or some kind of self defense tool. now the problem is that in Europe, you can only defend yourself in the manner that your attacker has already harmed you or YOU will be the one getting jail time for unnecessary violence. So if the harasser has wrapped his arm around your waist, you can't even do anything to him. So i'm looking for more self defense tools allowed in Europe. My man has bought me identification spray, hoping to find something better than 72 hour paint.
I along with my partner run a fireworks business. One of our tents have been burglarized while he was sleeping there and the other there was an altercation with some hooligans who were threatening me when confronted about disruptive behavior while we were open. Both my partner and I are against traditional firearms, particularly because we are both parents. We both rely on bladed weapons for defense as night, but we now don't believe that is enough to protect ourselves. We are committed to nonlethal but complete stopping power. What would you suggest for stronger defense than a machete or hatchet, but we won't end a life.
Basically to give an overview of the situation, I was at my Fiancé’s grandmother’s house and had put a 30 foot in ground lead in a place where my dog (Rottweiler) could get some shade. This was, unbeknownst to me, slightly on the neighbor’s property when the lead was fully extended. Even at this, my dog was still 15-20 yards from the person’s house and where he was. I went inside for roughly 5 minutes and went back outside to check on him and found the neighbor coming out of the house with his wife. He was holding a gun and said “I’m gonna shoot your f*** dog. He’s been barking and growling at me for 15 minutes” (factually incorrect- we were only there for 10 minutes total at that point). I tried to show him that he was on a lead and he kept saying he didn’t care and that he was going to shoot him. I was confused, as no one had asked me to move him or anything. He kept screaming and cursing at me on his porch, all the while muzzle flashing me multiple times. I removed the dog and went and got my fiancé’s dad, who was more familiar with the neighbors than I, and we both went back outside. At that point the old man put the gun in his pocket and continued to curse and scream. He then stepped off his porch and charged towards us and stuck his hand back in his pocket like he was about to pull the gun back out. Luckily he didn’t and it was just a lot of bravado, getting in faces, talking stuff. Eventually it fizzled out and the situation ended. This man apparently has a history of doing this sort of random aggression. There have never been any issues with neighbors or neighbor’s animals before. Aside from avoiding him, what can I do to be better prepared in the future? In hindsight, I can recognize multiple things in the situation:
It is my responsibility to put the dog on property that he is allowed to be on. I accept that I made that mistake and was in the wrong. Regardless of whether I didn’t know it was his property or not.
I contributed to the argument and bravado by standing my ground, which further escalated the situation. No threats were made on my part, but I did say things like “F you old man,” and “You are such an f’n liar. You immediately threatened to shoot instead of asking or talking to me.” I understand my own fault in that.
I usually carry a gun in my car, but never really on my person.
I stayed on my fiancé’s grandmother’s property the entire time, even when the man charged towards us and he ended up on her property.
I can completely understand if my dog was off lead, growling, charged him, or attacked him or something. I would be heartbroken, but I completely understand that he’s a big dog and that the man had every right to defend himself, but he continued to be aggressive and have the gun out, waving it around even after I showed him that my dog was no threat.
Hi I m looking for buy a push dagger in the event of major risks to life or that of others
But This is not something to be used lightly. I thought about spray or tazer but that's a bit of crap against someone who really wants to hurt you
For taser I have bad experience. 4/5 guys, night, try to confront me. I have the taser in my pocket, I turn it on, I press, nothing.... luckily I was some distance away and was able to leave....
I'm interested in training in boxing but put off by the nature of it specifically brain trauma. How much of an impact is boxing on the brain for someone who just wants to train for self defense??
Hey ya'll....I (47F) took my son (16M) with me to a Situational Awareness class. She went over things like where crime often happens (like gas stations), various scenarios, things to watch out for, that you need to be paying attention to who's in your surroundings and not buried in your phone if you're in a dark parking lot at 1 am, etc. My son is on his own more now - driving, hanging out with friends, and will be going to college in 1.5 years, so I want him to be aware of stuff like this. My ex-husband said that he wasn't happy because it scared my son. I'm like what??! I'm just looking for some validation here I guess. My view is that sometimes it's good to be a little scared. It makes you prepare and think about how you would handle things. Right??!
Been a minute since Ive seen this discussed so here we go. Im a dad and frequently go out for hours on foot with my little one in the stroller. It goes without saying that the importance of de-escelation, escape, and evasion are 10x with kids.
Id like to hear everyones ideas and brainstorming on what to do if you were confronted by someone with your little ones present. Bonus pointnif you consider im canadian and dont have the right to defend myself with a weapon.
Also in regards to dog spray, yea the foam isnt available here and I cant risk the aerosol around the baby. Ive honesetly settled for one of those little personal alarm things that screetch super loud at the tug of a keychain.
P.s. once I tried to throw a jab at the bag while holding the baby, I highly recomend everyone try that haha, 0% force.
I'm a very feeble and soft young man. I could never handle myself in hand-to-hand combat, but I obviously need some sort of protection. I'm particularly worried about sexual assault (TMI?).
With that in mind, what should I carry to make up for my lack of physical weakness? Not just as a deterrent, but also as a weapon I'll legitimately be able to use.
Yesterday I was in sports class then I gave another student a softball instead of giving it to the other guy then he just came up to me and choked me until I got unconscious. Then I layed there for 20 seconds I woke up absolutely helpless and he was just laughing. Then he said why didn’t you say anything that I should stop which he clearly didn’t say I knew that but I couldn’t remember anything what happened before and the teacher didn’t notice it either. Now my backhead hurts from the fall and I feel dizzy. This guy thinks he is a good fighter but gets destroyed by every beginner and I’m not a fighter he’s just heavy and stronger than everybody „a bully“. What should I do ?
I’m afraid I will get into a fight with one or two people. One of them is trained and has even gone to nationals in my country the other is also trained and about 6’2” a lot bigger than me. I’m 5’5” and 16. The only real advantage I have is that I work out and am probably somewhat stronger than one of them who doesn’t train or lift I don’t know about the taller dude though I have zero experience
